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Today I learned that Van Halen have that rider in their contract about “a bowl of M&Ms with all the brown ones removed” in order to know at a glance if the promoter read the entire contract.  And the reason they do THAT is because they once had a stage collapse because a promoter hadn’t read the proper way to set up all the specific technical stuff.

So if the band goes in the dressing room or catering and sees brown M&Ms, they know they have to double-check the stage setup for safety.

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I understand the "I will die for you" ship dynamic, but what about the "I will not let you die, I will not let myself die- we will, at any cost, survive" kind of couple?

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One of my favorite stories to tell about myself from when I was a kid is the story how my grandma’s “Catching Fairies” game was banned because of me

So when I was really little my grandma had this game she made up, she’d give me and all my cousins jars and containers and tell us that in her garden there were fairies but they were smart and tricky so they disguised themselves as caterpillars and butterflies and as grasshoppers and worms.

Whoever caught the most ‘Fairies’ won but we had to set them all free because they tended to the garden

One summer day my brothers were at the age they were dreading ‘girly’ stuff so I was playing alone

At this point I had met all the fairies in the garden and I was getting bored without any competition and with finding the same old fairies

But then just as I was begrudgingly heading back to my grandma with the same fairies as usual I found a new fairy!

I thought she was so beautiful! She was resting on the sparkly thread in the leaves and her black body gleamed in the sunlight, she had long legs and a cool red spot on her back

Excited I coaxed her onto my hand and was so giddy I found a new one! I rushed back to the farm house to show my Grandma and Dad, gently carrying my new friend.

But when my Dad and Grandma turned around to see what fairy I caught I saw the color drain from their faces and both of them freeze, I could tell something was wrong but didn’t understand

My dad congratulated me and asked me if he could see the pretty fairy, I let him but felt a little nervous seeing how terrified he looked as she moved into his hands from mine.

Slowly he walked back towards the door, my grandma clutching my shoulders then my dad LAUNCHED the fairy back into the garden which I thought was rather rude

Then we had a nice long talk about Black Widow spiders

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I got blood inside my phone charging port and now it only works 50% of the time

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"what are your pronouns?" well im mixed, she/her on my mothers side and he/him on my fathers side, either works

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made a picture i will use a lot

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Trans women protesting outside Scottish Parliament.

I love it when trans women protest topless. If they're arrested, the state must admit they're women. If they aren't, it shows the glaring contradictions of labeling trans women as legally male. It helps their cause either way.

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Everyone is so weird about people who cry easily. Fellas, is it evil and manipulative to *checks notes* have an involuntary stress response?

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so we have a conversational safeword in my group of friends and it’s great, idk why more people don’t do this. whenever someone wants a subject to be dropped immediately no questions asked we just say “spleen” and we stop immediately and it’s a really good way to avoid crossing the line between teasing friends and genuinely upsetting them by accident, or stopping debates from turning into actual arguments

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Not to be like, "If I can do it, so can you!!" Inspiration Porn-y Bullshit about my 5k, but like... it would be awesome if you used this as a Sign and started going out and getting a little bit of "safe for you specifically" exercise that makes you feel good and may even help a little with pain. At any rate, the "I had a good workout" pain feels different and better than "I hurt because my disability hurts" pain and its nice sometimes lol.

I started out in a manual wheelchair going around my house once a day, then started going to a walking path and slowly worked my way up to a mile distance, then two, then three. You can race in a wheelchair alongside runners on foot in local races, thats what I do. Think like, "The Great Bumfucksville Peach Run" or whatever. Those kinds of races. Some of them even have a 1 mile run thats way more doable for beginners and people with less stamina.

The important part is that the exercise is safe FOR YOU, and you aren't harming yourself in the long term with it. My doctor recommends for me to go to the point of fatigue but to avoid exhaustion. I take this as stopping when I go "should I do another lap or should I stop here?" instead of going till I can't go any further. It took me like... 6+ months to do my first 5k and about a month to get back into it after a 2 year break, your times may vary depending on condition, fitness, disability, and equipment.

For reference, if this post breaks containment, I have mitochondrial myopathy (think CFS + Muscular Dystrophy) and use a CRT powerchair and face mask ventilator in daily life. I'm in the severe disability category so I'm not just talking out my ass. This was actually very hard for me and I'm proud as hell. 5ks are difficult even for able bodied people.

IMPORTANT EDIT!!!!

Make sure you know what your baseline fatigue feels like and what it feels like when you're about to work yourself into a flare-up!!! That's the only way you can exercise SAFELY with a fatigue heavy disability! Stop BEFORE you reach "flare up" fatigue and dont restart until you reach your baseline again! This is not medical advice, just advice from someone who has worked themself into a flare before doing this.

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I'll always talk up internet radio stations because I don't think the average person is aware that they're free, can run in your browser (or in any program that can connect to them), work on your phone, run better than a youtube tab, and give you a much better selection of music than you could get from a general algorithmic playlist

(also lots of them have live shows which you can tune into for free)

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Meeting genuine adults that think legal = good, illegal = bad is so bizarre, like bro not even the law itself agrees that that is a good ethical framework

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Saying that a certain group of people is too privileged to complain about the way that things are is its own sort of defense of the status quo

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Your lack of boundaries creates compassion fatigue which leads you to judgement

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New York City ballet production of Midsummer Nights Dream