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Aprender a ser uma mulher é uma arte tal qual o processo de metamorfose de uma lagarta a uma bela borboleta, de uma semente a uma bela flor.

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A fragilidade e delicadeza da mulher são um baita paradoxo. São justamente estas que a tornam mais selvagem e resistente à dureza e infertilidade do mundo a sua volta.

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Íris e suas peculiaridades

Com mais de 200 variações de cores e tipos, a íris é uma flor que sempre surpreende, pois nunca se sabe exatamente como ela vai florescer.

Possui várias combinações de cores vibrantes e precisa passar a maior parte de sua vida em contato com a luz do sol. Esta é amiga desta flor durante o período de plantio, já que ajuda a fortalecer e fixas as raízes.

Embora a maioria das flores tenham como sua estação favorita a primavera, a íris em especial floresce bem se for plantada no final do verão; assim suas raízes se estabelecem enquanto há luz, tornando-a mais resistente para quando o inverno chegar.

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I think my favorite psychological phenomena is the bystander effect. Not only because, I’m and of itself, the bystander effect is cool, but also because of how often we see it, even if no one realizes.

We see it all the time, from major and clear presentations of it that the trolly problem is, all the way to seeing someone being picked on at school. We see it in war, in homes, in families, in our own rooms. The bystander effect doesn’t just apply in the event of someone falling on the sidewalk, and no one helping, it also can be not doing the dishes, or not cleaning the counters.

The bystander effect, plain and simple, is the thought process of “someone else will come by and do this, so I shouldn’t worry about it/I don’t care” it happens all the time.

Going back to the example of the trolly problem, people often don’t act in situation like that, mostly because they are afraid for themselves, and so they feel as though being a bystander will save them from guilt, or punishment. This same behavior is exhibited by citizens during the Holocaust when Jewish people were being taken away, separated, and persecuted. Now, please do not use this as me trying to say that I excuse it, I am simply using it as an example to show where and how the bystander effect shows up.

Most of the time, we don’t know we’re participating in the bystander effect. Most of the time we skirt past people who are crying, or who have pulled over to the side of the road, trusting that someone else will come along to take care of them, or that they aren’t in need of assistance in the first place. When we walk past trash laying on a shelf in the grocery store or litter in a park and we don’t pick it up, we are participating in the bystander effect.

What’s even more interesting is that the bystander effect isn’t just an unwillingness to take on responsibility, but also a way to protect ones self. Let’s bring up the trolly problem again. Of a person is standing at the handle, in a real situation, where they don’t have time to think, they often will not pull the lever, and this is because they feel as though the process of pulling the lever makes them responsible for the death of that one person. Think of it this way, if they let the train continue down it’s original path then the rationale is that they witnessed five people being killed, they had no hand in the decision, the five people were already there, and the train was already on its way, and if they do nothing they can’t have any blame put on them, they are but a witness. However if they pull the lever, they then killed the one person on the other track, they could now be prosecuted. Through inaction five people die, through action you kill one person.

All in all, the bystander effect is just truly interesting to me because it manifests in so many situations, so often, and yet we only ever talk about it and bring it up in situations where a person collapsed and needs help on a busy sidewalk, and no one goes to help. In reality it shows up in much more minute ways, much more commonly then we think.

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Gail Albert Halaban: Paris Views, courtesy of Edwynn Houk Gallery.