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Why you should never buy sex toys on Amazon.

I see people on here all the time talking about buying sex toys on Amazon so it’s time to run through this again. I know it may seem like you’re saving money but when something seems too good to be true it usually is.

The main reason you shouldn’t buy sex toys on Amazon is that, unlike buying from reputable retailers, you have absolutely no garuntee that the product you’re buying hasn’t been used, returned, and resold. The sex you industy in America is almost completely unregulated so really can’t trust amazon to hold better business practices than legally required. People have found bodily fluid and pubic hair on toys purchased from Amazon.

The second biggest reason is that you’re more than likely buying an expensive knock off labeled as a brand name item. The way the amazon marketplace works is by sorting items with the same bar code name into the same catagory. So let’s say you want a wi vibe so you pay for one but what happens is that amazon doesn’t log a difference between a brand name Wi-vibe and a knock off from China. They’re both just labeled “wi-vibe” so you pay for a quality item and get a cheap knock off. So you may think you’re getting a high quality item for $50 but instead you’re getting a $10 look alike that will die and malfunction quickly. Imagine paying for a Lelo (the most luxury sex toy brand) and getting something nothing like that.

And lastly, it’s not safe for you! Because the chances of you getting a knock off are so high, it’s very likely that you’ll get something made out of harmful materials. A lot of the sex toys made cheaply in China and places like that have no body safe regulations on materials so not only could you pay for a brand name item and not get it , but you might actually get something that could make you sick or even poison you. Some toys will even leak oils and chemicals when exposed to water or fluids.

In summation, buying from Amazon is NOT safe for you, will most likely rip you off, and you could even be getting used products.

Below I’m listing Dangerous Lily’s list of best places to buy. I recommend reading her reviews before purchasing anything expensive.

Where to buy:

SheVibe

Early to bed

Smitten Kitten

Good Vibes

Come as you are

Be vibrant

HotOctopuss

And directly from the brand retailor like we-vibe, Lelo, body wand, etc.

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Reality Check: Don’t let BDSM and kinks/fetish’s destroy your life!

Don’t have sex in public.

Don’t destroy your relationship with family or friends.

Don’t do anything that would harm you, your partner or anyone around you.

Don’t go outside naked.

Don’t encourage anyone to stop taking medication.

Don’t do anything dangerous unless you know what your doing.

Don’t put things inside you that shouldn’t be in there.

Don’t do something you don’t want to do because your dom has told you to.

Don’t change your entire identity irl because of a kink.

Don’t try to bring people into your BDSM/Kink life without their knowledge.

Don’t worsen your sex/ porn/ hentai addiction.

And most importantly don’t do anything illegal and don’t hurt anyone!

The vast majority of posts on here are either particularly or completely fictional and most nsfw content is made by professionals. Please think before copying what you see online 🙏

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i’m sorry to ruin the fun pals, but you can’t actually swallow the artificial cum that’s used for squirting strap ons. you will in fact shit your pants.

here, my friends, are a few suggested alternatives

cream of coconut

flavored lubes

sweeten condensed milk mixed with water

if you do this make sure your toy has a hose system, not a internal one that you have to squeeze the dildo itself to operate. this will make it easier to clean

and lastly as a general rule for flavored sex products

if you can eat it, it cannot go in any orifice but your mouth.

if it is made for your ass don’t drink it. if it is made for your mouth don’t put it in your ass, please

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Side Effects After Masturbating/Sex

Pain, soreness or cramps after either masturbating and/or having sex, especially if you didn’t use lube, are completely normal and common! For new people however, this can be quite scary and most of us would probably want to avoid it anyway, so I thought to make a list of potential causes and some ways to lessen it!

How tight your pelvic muscles are

Tight pelvic muscles can cramp and cause discomfort during any kind of sexual contact. These muscles can tense for reasons like overuse, stress, and reproductive conditions.

Since your pelvic floor is close to other pelvic organs like the rectum, uterus or bladder, the best way to know if this is the cause is if you also experience other problems like constipation, trouble holding urine, and pelvic pain.

How deep or rough the masturbation/sex is

Although deep or rough masturbation/sex might feel good in the moment, it's known for causing cramps and discomfort after. Doing this can also irritate or put too much pressure on the prostate/cervix, leading to temporary pain or even bleeding.

Your mental health

Anxiety, stress, and other mental health concerns can cause problems with muscles tensing and for people with vaginas, problems with lubrication production. This can cause pain during and after sexual contact.

What toys you're using

Using toys that leans towards the bigger or longer side could cause lots of pressure on the cervix or prostate which could potentially cause this cramping and pain. The way you use them could be a factor too, especially with curved sex toys being used at certain angles.

However, if masturbation leads to cramping or discomfort more often than not, and it's not any of these factors, an underlying condition could be to blame. I want to make a separate post on that however, so I will update this when I do!

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A reminder

-Silicone lube WILL melt silicone sex toys

-Most dildos and strap ons are made from silicone

-Silicone lube is fantastic for anal (it lasts longer, will not get all rolly and sticky)

-Take out your batteries while storing

-Some vibrating toys only work with off brand batteries (Connections sometimes don’t reach with Duracell batteries)

-USE TOY CLEANER. Most toy cleaners are only $10 and will make your toys last longer. Just water will leave unhealthy bacteria. Don’t ever use dish soap to clean your toys

-Don’t store more than one silicone sex toy beside each other, they may fuse together

-Water based lube is best for vaginal play, it’s safest for your vagina and will wash away easily

-Oil based lube will melt condoms

-Don’t put any lube containing sugar near your vagina. Just keep it out of your sex toy collection in total. I don’t care how good it tastes or smells

-Massage oil doesn’t go inside you. Unless it says it’s safe to explicitly. You’re just heading for yeast infection city

-Your sex store workers are there to help you, have a question? Ask us! We know about all our products! We can pair you with the best lube and cleaner for your toy!

-Don’t be embarrassed. We’ve heard it all

-Signed your local sex shop worker who is just. So. So. Tired of people trying to return toys that are melted due to above reasons

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What's the difference between Hard limits and Soft limits?

Soft limits are things that either,

Stuff you can be convinced to do.

Stuff you personally aren't into, that you don't mind doing/ are willing to consider if your partner(s) is into it. Or,

Things that you'll only do when a certain level of trust is formed.

Hard limits are not negotiable. Something you are not comfortable doing at all even under punishment play/ boundary play etc.

Limits can change over time and communication is a part of natural and healthy relationship. If you want to change a limit make sure you inform your partner(s) and if your partner(s) comes up to you saying their thinking of changing one of their limits, respect their wishes and respect their decision, even if you personally don't agree with it.

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Basic termonology

T/b - top/bottom, strictly bedroom only kinkster 

D/s - Dominant/submissive

M/s- Master/ slave

Dominant- a male or female who has the power in power exchange dynamics

Domme- female Dom

Switch: someone who is both a s type and a d type

Submissive: the partner that gives up their control in the power exchange

Master: the partner that takes complete ownership in a total power exchange dynamic

Mistress: A female Master

Slave: the partner that gives up all control in a total power exchange dynamic

Sadist: someone who gets pleasure from inflicting pain

Masochist: A person who gets pleasure from receiving pain

Sadomasochist: someone who gets pleasure from both inflicting and receiving pain

Exhibitionist: someone who enjoys displaying themselves in a public or semi public space

Voyager: someone who gets pleasure from watching other people engage in sexual activity

Rigger: someone who enjoys tying someone up

Rope bunny: someone who enjoys being tied up

Vanilla: someone who does not engage in this lifestyle or kink in general

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What's a Sub-drop/Dom-drop?

Sub-drop/Dom-drop is a variety of symptoms (usually an emotional and/or physical low) some feel, that lasts anywhere from a few hours to a few days, caused by the endorphin high an extreme session gives you, slowly wearing off.

These drops can include things like depressive episodes, being overly sensitive, constant tiredness, feeling ill, etc. This is why so many people care a lot about aftercare, because a simple check in with your partner(s) can help combat these drops and make them not last as long.

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To all the inexperienced kinksters out there, you are valid! It can be overwhelming to begin with, especially when others are so much more experienced, but it’s important to remember that everyone has to start somewhere and there’s no bad place to be at. No matter how new you are to the scene, you are welcome and appreciated and deserve to feel safe and respected!

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🔪 Weapon Play - Health and Safety🔪

Weapon play (usually knife play or gun play) has become an extremely popular kink in recent years. However, a lot of people don't realise that most of what's shown in written/drawn posts about this topic is just fantasy and stuff that wouldn't necessarily be safe (or even possible) to act out IRL, especially by a beginner. Obviously, beginners should look into their new kinks before acting them out and hopefully me making this post will make your research a lot easier! 🖤

Where to start?

Let's set the scene, you've already talked to your partner(s) about your interests in weapon play and y'all have already talked safewords, boundaries etc and have decided to follow through. What's next?

First of all, you need to decide whether you're going to use fake or real weapons.

If fake (recommended)

Fake weapons might be disappointing at first but they can be just as fun! For example, some companies make fake knives that, although they feel just like a real blade, they can't actually do any harm. Remember, things like this are your friend.

"But what if me/my partner(s) get taken out of the moment because of it being fake?"

Admittedly, most fake weapons (especially ones that aren't overpriced) usually don't look very real, especially up close. Don't worry though, here are some ways you can fix this problem!

Covering their eyes: whether that be items like blindfolds or just a position where they wouldn't be able to see the knife anyway. Out of sight, out of mind.

Take the attention off of it: Make them focus on something other than the weapons legitimacy. Usually quite easy if roleplaying (especially with a storyline).

Lie in the moment: If its convincing enough, you can get away with telling them it's a real weapon and telling them the truth later. Wouldn't recommend though since you don't want to get used to lying to your partner(s).

Obviously, things like cutting up clothes, cutting hair etc can't really be done with a fake weapon but there's always the option to switch to a real weapon just for that purpose, and only the fake weapon for them (if they're okay with it of course)!

If real (not recommended)

Going forward, I will be referring to things like knife play and sword play. Pointing a real gun at someone you don't intend to kill is not only highly dangerous but also illegal. Please only use fake guns :D

1)You need to understand the risks that come with using real weapons. You need to know where important arteries are located in the body in order to avoid them. The main ones would be in your joints (neck, wrists, ankles) and big surface areas like the shoulder area, thighs and hands.

Cutting in those areas or anywhere near there, even if just small cuts, is not safe, even for experienced people.

This is why knife play is considered RACK and not SSC. No matter how experienced you are, if you're not careful enough or if your partner(s) aren't as experienced, the results can be fatal.

2) Not only remember to sterilize your impact tools, but learn how to sterilize them properly. This goes for everything able to create a cut or open wound. Don't only sterilize the weapons but remember to sterilize the area you want to hurt too! No one likes infections :(. If you're into medical play, its quite easy to do this while still in the moment but if not, I recommend doing it before getting down altogether. After finishing, you need to sterilize the cuts you've left and wash off the blood! It's best for everyone to take a shower first, and then carefully apply an antiseptic creme to the wounds. I have also seen people say betaisodona works well too.

3) Remember to always have a phone within reach. No matter how experienced you and/or your partner(s) are, there is always the chance that something may go wrong! You need to be prepared to call the emergency hotline of your country. Never hesitate because you're feeling guilty! That's the risk you take when doing RACK. If in the UK don't call 111 call 999! This is your partners life(s) not a spot on your arm!

4) Learn what position (whether position of weapon or sex position) you feel most safe with. Especially with things like knifes, swords etc holding it in certain ways can be easier or less dangerous. Research what weapon you feel most comfy with and find out what other people are recommending.

5) Don't do anything sexual to the wounds. I repeat, Don't do anything sexual to the wounds. Wounds can be infected VERY EASILY and the risk is way too high.

6) Take STD tests before and after if possible. STD's can also pass through blood and its always better to be safe then sorry

Conclusion

Hopefully this post has helped someone out there! Remember that you should never do anything you're not 100% sure about. Not wanting to do something RACK related is ok no matter the reason. Don't feel scared to address boundaries and ask to wait/not do it at all. Things like this can be dangerous and not being ready is completely understandable. 🖤

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My blog:

Welcome to my blog everyone! My name's Sorbet, I’m 18 years old and I use all pronouns except It/It's.

I identify as Female/Gendervoid and as pansexual. I’m currently taken.

About This Blog:

This blog is mainly centred around health and safety with anything kink/bdsm/sex/sex work related. I’ll be writing health and safety tips and reblogging other peoples posts. NO NUDES OR PORN WILL BE SHOWN!

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