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Help Everyone Find A Job In Their Field

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#andy samberg and Other Things That Ruined My Life: An Autobiography by vdhars

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idk about y’all but I think it’s pretty terrifying having to personally hear bisexuals in offline spaces express being practically shamed out of openly identifying as bisexual because they’ve internalized the belief that bisexuality is not inclusive of trans/nb ppl and if that doesn’t hit home for you how dangerous misinformation and ahistorical takes are in the current state of LGBT activism then I honestly don’t have much else to say.

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I don’t usually do posts like this BUT

Reblog if you’re a transmed and you hate transmeds who are transphobic toward gnc trans people and want them the fuck away from the transmed community

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pan/poly/omnisexual aren’t real you’re just biphobic

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Aces were around at the time of the riots.. also in modern day they’re in other countries fighting for rights of gay people..

Have you mayhaps heard of the term “allies”

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So since I have a lot of free time at work and I’m tired of searching for a thousand posts to quote during discourse I put together three documents about bisexuality and bisexual discourse.

Defining bisexuality (a collection of definition of bisexuality by various bisexual activists and associations)

The Cultural Impact of Pansexuality (a collection of statements about pansexuality made by pansexuals or mainstream media outlets/celebrities like Marie Claire, Teen Vogue, the Rolling Stone and Miley Cyrus, among others)

Statistics and studies about bisexual-specific issues (a collection of studies about the issues that bisexuals face)

Like I said above, 99% of the material in these documents was taken from various tumblr posts, mostly by users verilybitchie, cowardly-bisexual, violettomcat and others that I honestly cannot remember (sorry!)

A special shoutout (lol it feels so corny to say that) goes to @bisexualiteaparty, who unknowningly gave me the idea for this, and her BisexualiTea (check it out, it has all I have put in the first two documents + a part about Butch and Femme identities)

IMPORTANT NOTE: these documents are an ongoing project, meaning that they will be constantly updated with relevant material. If you have some more material that I can add feel free to send it to me and I’ll add it!

(also on PC looks a lot better than mobile, sorry)

EDIT: NOW IN A CARRD FORMAT!

EDIT 2: I choose to give another name to the third doc to make it more accurate.

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yea 💙 (no btw)

gay is meant to be used by homo/lesbian people but bi/pan people use it to describe themselves anyway so i think that aro/ace people should do it too!

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i wanna make this really really clear: i do not care at all when someone calls me an acephobe.

comparisons matter. history matters. my grief and rage at the senseless waste of human life that is the United State’s response to the AIDS pandemic matters.

i don’t know if you’ve ever talked to long-term survivors, but i have, and i’ve talked to the gay men and women who lived through the beginning of the crisis. they say it was like a horror movie. everyone was dying. handsome strong men, men who were powerfully alive, men who were only 27, 23, 18 years old, friends and lovers and acquaintances and strangers– 

just vanished. wasted away before your eyes.

my friend tells me a story about when she was born. her mom was living in the gay ghetto of san diego, and the four men in the apartments above, two couples, were all HIV+. one of the men came to visit, and my friend’s mom asked if he would like to hold the baby. he burst into tears. “i can’t believe you’d let me hold her,” he said, “people won’t even shake my hand.”

they’re all dead now. they died one after the other, and my friend’s mom eventually moved to los angeles.

when someone sees that history, stands in the face of it, and can manage to say, “but straight people who don’t fuck have it bad too!” i get a little enraged. when someone can say, “my mom jokes that i’m a plant,” and i say, “the United States wants me dead,” and they call me an acephobe– i get a little enraged.

this is the history of our community. it’s my history. and when you draw a comparison between a lack of visibility and genocide, you are spitting on a grave. thank god that you’ve never needed to bury your dead like we have. 

i recently found out that a trans woman my age, who wrote a scintillating funny blog about sex and HIV and poverty, passed away from AIDS complications. i cried when i heard the news. 

edit: this is OK to reblog

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Seeing a lot of people bashing cis transmeds

Thought I’d share my brief story of an encounter with one of these folks in real life.

A cis transmed helped me through my questioning phase, while at the same time respecting any weird phases I went through. She challenged my beliefs and what I said respectfully, but didn’t push.

Ex.: one time I said, jokingly “gender is a social construct” (it was a weird time, okay?) and she responded “if gender was socially constructed, why do people transition?” That made me pause and think. Why was I (socially, at the time) transitioning if gender was fake?

She was, and still is, a true ally! Cis transmeds rock!

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i LITERALLY said cishet people can come to pride as long as they are allies. and i would never tell someone, AT PRIDE, that they don’t belong there. i would not harass and harm anyone regardless. and i FIRMLY believe that at pride, there is no discourse allowed. but i am absolutely entitled to my opinion. and i’m not a rando bi person saying they aren’t lgbt. a lot of people share exclusionist views, and i believe that they should keep their ideas to themself AT PRIDE. and it’s not an opinion that dysphoria is required to be trans (which, btw, means incongruence and includes euphoria) it’s a scientific fact supported by decades of research. anyways, i’m done with this conversation, i’ll continue to attend pride for as long as i live, and you, a 26yo, look pretty stupid arguing with a 15yo on tumblr dot com when you could be doing something in your adult life. nonetheless, i hope you have a good day and an absolutely great pride month.

It’s June so I thought I’d put out a reminder that if you’re gay/lesbian and don’t think pride should be shared with:

- Transgender/Non-binary people (even het trans people)

-Ace/Aro/Aspec people (even het aces, or het aros)

-Multisexual people (Even if they’re partnered with a cishet person)

-People who identify specifically (or exclusively) as Queer

You Do Not Belong At Pride.

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it’s clever to call pride inclusive and say that I’M the one excluding people when you’re trying to gatekeep lgbt people just because they don’t agree with your beliefs. anyone belongs at pride, even straight cis people, as long as they’re allies. but the lgbt community doesn’t extend to every single person. even though we have fundamentally different beliefs, i do wish you the best.

It’s June so I thought I’d put out a reminder that if you’re gay/lesbian and don’t think pride should be shared with:

- Transgender/Non-binary people (even het trans people)

-Ace/Aro/Aspec people (even het aces, or het aros)

-Multisexual people (Even if they’re partnered with a cishet person)

-People who identify specifically (or exclusively) as Queer

You Do Not Belong At Pride.

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you can’t just tell a bisexual to stay away from pride because i don’t want cishets trying to get into the lgbt community. it’s about same-sex or multi-sex attraction, and if you experience dysphoria. asexuals not inherently neither. are they valid and deserve to not encounter judgment in life? absolutely! are they lgbt? no. aphobia =/= exclusionism. i will never stay away from pride and lgbt spaces, you don’t have the right to tell me to do so, and i am entitled to my opinion. have a nice day ❤️

It’s June so I thought I’d put out a reminder that if you’re gay/lesbian and don’t think pride should be shared with:

- Transgender/Non-binary people (even het trans people)

-Ace/Aro/Aspec people (even het aces, or het aros)

-Multisexual people (Even if they’re partnered with a cishet person)

-People who identify specifically (or exclusively) as Queer

You Do Not Belong At Pride.

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seems real woke to tell actual lgbt people that they don’t belong at pride because they don’t want to let cishets who don’t fuck into the community. it’s not a club - it’s not meant to be inclusive of everyone.

It’s June so I thought I’d put out a reminder that if you’re gay/lesbian and don’t think pride should be shared with:

- Transgender/Non-binary people (even het trans people)

-Ace/Aro/Aspec people (even het aces, or het aros)

-Multisexual people (Even if they’re partnered with a cishet person)

-People who identify specifically (or exclusively) as Queer

You Do Not Belong At Pride.

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I’m always looking for discourse blogs to follow,

exclusionists rb this and I’ll follow you *

*offer does not apply to terfs or truscum