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Count reprints, later editions of the same book, etc. If you have a copy that includes multiple books in one volume, you can count that, but do not count sequels/etc on their own. You can count ebooks and audiobooks if you possess the files in a permanent way (borrowed and streamed don't count).

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important. Do not shit on the child actors instead lets all hope the become like the original trio and become queer and trans affirming

every day british actors wake up and think to themselves fuckkkkk i HAVE to help the incredibly bigoted woman make more money so she can funnel it into killing trans people i have to do it bro if i don't do it i will die

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if youre against body shaming, then you HAVE to be against body shaming men too.

that means no more micropenis and small dick "jokes".

that means no more neckbeard "jokes".

that means no more "jokes" about moobs / man boobs if someone has told you that it makes them uncomfortable (/ dysphoric).

that means no more mocking men (and women, but i see this targeting men more often) with flat asses.

that means no more mocking men for having long hair.

that means no more mocking men for having a "pedo 'stache".

that means not mocking trans men who dont want to medically transition and respecting their boundaries.

that means not mocking intersex men whose intersex variations you dont personally understand.

be against body shaming ANYONE.

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a lot of stories treat romance like it makes the relationship between two characters self explanatory and to be honest it doesn’t

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"SURVIVING"

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please write them I want nothing more than to read them!!!

Alright kids say it with me

My thoughts don’t make me a bad person

My feelings don’t make me a bad person

My thoughts, feelings, and impulses only exist inside my head, and none of it matters unless I act on it

Nobody can see my thoughts or emotions

The only things anyone can see and judge me on are my actions

There’s no such thing as a thought crime

thank u

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Really good Twitter thread originally about Elon Musk and Twitter, but also applies to Netflix and a lot of other corporations.

Full thread. Text transcription under cut.

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One of my favorite things is modern adaptations that leave people with the same careers they had in the original material, because unless you’re a cop or a doctor that practically never happens.

Irene Adler’s an opera singer. We still have those! They don’t have the same subtext exactly, but nothing is going to because we aren’t the Victorians. She could continue to be an opera singer. I have never seen this happen.

Jonathan Harker can still be in real estate. That’s a job people have. A modern story that still involves Dracula contacting his firm to help him purchase property sounds amazing actually.

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"Jews are good at math because they need to count money!"

False. Unoriginal. Boring. Jews are good at math because so much of our lives requires math. A non exhaustive list of things that require math in Judaism that isn't counting money:

-Machzor Math- calculating how many more pages and time there is left in High Holiday services

-Batul B'Shishim- calculating how much is less than a 60th for the case of food contamination that could affect it's Kosher status

-Intercalating the Calendar and determining the Zmanim- thankfully this one was already done for us, but someone did it a long time ago to calculate when our leap years are, how long each month is, and what the halachic times of each day are

-Gematria- the numerical value of different words which is used in all sorts of esoteric practice and understanding

-Fasting math- calculating how much time is left in a fast

-Kashrut math- calculating how much time is left until one can eat meat or dairy

-Candle math- calculating how many candles one needs for their household for Chanukah, especially if there are more than one menorah

-Wine and matzah math- calculating how much wine and matzah one needs to buy for their Seder. We go through a lot.

Bonus, one that actually involves money but isn't the tired "Jews are greedy":

-Figuring out a good multiple of 18 to give as a monetary gift to someone

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Honestly a one or two shot would be great.

zac’s dad maybe??

Okay but now I really REALLY wanna see Robert Reich in the dome.

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Of course they should be allowed soda, but the truth of the matter is that soda shouldn't be cheaper then juice. Shouldn't be the thing that you can buy for every meal, moving to the UK really is a shock on that. You just don't have soda with everything, because it's not as cheap. I'm not even saying that you shouldn't have cheap sodas, but you really shouldn't have everything else be cost prohibitive. Soda is delicious, but maybe we in the states need to step back on it too.

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i think if you have a crush on someone that isnt into you the same way you should be able to throw up horrible black goo for about 10 minutes to make the crush go away

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In my experience as a third culture kid who travels a lot the best indicator that you as a non-x is appreciating x culture is if the locals actively invite you to participate in it with them

Yes, you are allowed to buy those handmade Inuit winter clothes if an Inuk is literally selling them to you. They would not be offering you a price point if they didnt want you to buy and wear them. And you might discover that theyre the best winter clothes youve ever worn because of COURSE they would be if theyve kept this culture warm in harsh winters for thousands of years.

Yes, you are allowed to join those Cambodians in that local holiday theyre celebrating during your visit if they literally invited you to it. They would not have invited you if they didnt want you to participate. And in the process you might learn a lot about a culture you never wouldve interacted with and you can all have a laugh together about your clumsy but genuine attempts at getting your footwork right in one of their traditional dances.

Yes, you are also allowed to ask if you can participate in something from the local culture you are visiting. Sometimes you will get "sorry, thats a closed practice" but in my experience most of the time you'll get "of course, let me show you how to do this!" And in my experience people tend to appreciate when others make an active effort in sharing their culture and wont stone you to death if youre clumsy about it while youre learning. I guarantee that the local children doing all of this for the first time too make the same mistakes you do and they can tell if youre being disrespectful or genuine.

So much "cultural appropriation" discourse really starts to sound like "you cant participate or visit any other cultures if youre from a Colonial Culture and have to stay in your little box and never relate to other people"

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*through gritted teeth* the world is GOOD. people are kind. Humans are NOT inheritly selfish. you will make it through this year. recovery is possible. people you don't know yet will love you. You are going to do things you can't even imagine right now. You are going to read a rlly good book. You are going to eat some rlly good food. You are going to experience joy again. Things can get better. Situations can change. You can choose to be kinder. The world can change for the better.

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