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Wait until the time is right for you to find love again. Wait until you've sorted yourself out first before wanting to rush into another relationship that will do more harm than good. Even if your last one did not turn out as you wished, there is still hope - hope that you will find love again. You will find someone who will love you not better than your last but how you deserve to be loved. You will find your soulmate, maybe not any time soon but someday you will be able to love, show kindness, and be happy like never before. Some day you will get connected to that one stranger that will stare into your eyes and be yours for eternal - you will find each other and connect emotionally, mentally, and physically. Wait until you have figured out what it is that you want in life, wait until you are able to love yourself and care for yourself before caring for someone else. Discover yourself before doing so through someone else. (at It Just Takes Time) https://www.instagram.com/p/CC4UAQfpAGs/?igshid=8pwyvoibykew

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𝙿𝚛𝚘𝚋𝚕𝚎𝚖𝚜 𝚍𝚘𝚗'𝚝 𝚠𝚊𝚕𝚔 𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚊 𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚘𝚗'𝚜 𝚕𝚒𝚏𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚠𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚎𝚜𝚌𝚊𝚙𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑 𝚊𝚗 𝚘𝚙𝚎𝚗𝚒𝚗𝚐. Being a man with pride does not mean you should not break down, it does not mean you have to hide how you feel or seek help. A bottle of whiskey or a joint will not make your problems disappear. Disrespecting your partner or sleeping with different mates to forget about your problems will not work. Hitting a woman or molesting her will not make you a man enough. Pride is not an excuse to abuse a woman or make her feel less of herself - it is not an excuse for what you put your daughter or son through. Your pride is not worth the formation of tears in a woman's eyes or her family mourning her death, it is not worth punching her until she can no longer scream. Shout if you need help but abusing a woman to escape from what is bugging you is not the solution - seeking help does not make you a weakling but to have control of your life. You are a human being, you have feelings and you are allowed to break down. You are allowed to scream, to cry. You are allowed to ask for help when you seem to be losing it but don't victimize another soul because you were too proud to ask for help. You are not allowed to put your partner or any other woman through so much pain. If you don't want to be with her then let her go. https://www.instagram.com/p/CCEvszcJp_T/?igshid=1tlc97rbglx4t

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“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist, that is all.” -Oscar Wilde

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My heart bleeds for all the families that have lost their beloved daughters to heartless men. My eyes cry for the pain that women have to endure, And the lives that were taken away due to gender-based violence. They gawk at those that still believe, That how a woman dresses leads her to be persecuted. My mouth shouts for peace, For justice, And to all men who are sitting at home but can make a change. My kneels go down in prayer, For the women of South Africa, The women of the universe, And the black lives that are taken away for demanding privileges. #blacklivesmatter #femicide #endgbv #enoughisenough #madodasabelani (at Be HEARD) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBsPGtrpIaZ/?igshid=6y4m8zw8m9mf

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I always get verbally attacked for saying that I would abort my child if I found out that I'm pregnant. I don't just say abortion because I'm young and still have my whole future in front of me, I say that because I don't want to raise my child in such a place, a place that gives us no choice. A place full of crime, inhumanity and racism. I don't want to give birth just see my child dying of starvation or coming home in a coffin. I don't want to expose my baby to such a world, a world that still needs so much help. I don't want my child to become an echo of other peoples voices or of the past and be exposed to people who still believe that women should still be voiceless. I always hear about how developed some countries are but how is there development when people still starve to death, children and women get molested and racism keeps attacking? How is it that a country is developed yet there are still thousands of people who are killed each day and some live on bridges? How is there development when inhumanity still exists and LGBTQI+ are killed for being themselves? This world is intoxicated with violence and people who are not open minded. It needs help in all possible ways and until this place becomes better, until people decide to live better together and gender based violence ends, and all parents start treating their children right, I will always stick to my decision. Yes, it's someone's life that I would be taking away but it's I won't let my child's fate be in the hands of a rapist that calls himself a man. (at My Body My Rights) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBoavrRpcSb/?igshid=bi8l92p4zimx

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I grew up being taught to eat like a lady, dress like a lady, sit like a lady, walk like a lady and stay away from boys but there is one thing no one taught - perseverance. No one told me that being a lady needed me to persevere. No one taught me how to wipe my own tears and always shut the world out. I was not told that being a lady came with a package - I didn't know that it came with being abused and silenced. I was not told that my heart would be scarred multiple times or that I would one day leave my home, my family and possessions, and never come back. No one told me that my family would one day receive a mysterious phone call from the authorities, saying they found my corpse burned, stabbed or hanged. People always expected something from me but no one ever told me what to expect from the world. I have always wondered, do men get taught the same way? Do they get taught how to be a man and to always keep their pants up? Do they get taught that females deserve to be respected and loved? Are they ever told that despite what a woman has done, she does not deserve to be abused. Are they taught not to raise their hand on their girlfriend or wife? I know that not all men are perpetrators but how do we differentiate between the good men and those that no longer have morals? How are we going to be able to see the good in other men because what I know is that salt and sugar is of the same colour? #tagthemales #raisingawareness #feminist #domorethatjusttalking #thefutureisfemale (at My LifeStory) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBbPib2pOhZ/?igshid=pzninjf93cx

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It would be lovely to live in a world that accepts people's sexuality for who they are. A world that does not judge or discriminate others but in a messed up world like this one, telling people about your sexuality tends to feel like hanging yourself especially if acceptance is what one wants. Being LGBTQI+ in a world that judges before knowing your story can feel like being in a catastrophic dream. It is like dying for being yourself. As the nation there is still so much knowledge that needs to be passed on regarding the LGBTQI+ community. There is a lot of work that needs to be done by everyone with regards to educating each other that being LGBTQI+ is not a choice that one makes when they wake up in the morning. The world still needs to understand that "coming out of the closet" should not be to be accepted by anyone. It should rather be to be supported and known for who you are. Respect them, not only during their month of love. Treat them with the same kindness that you treat everyone with. Understand who they are, not where they come from because the choices that they made weren't based on their circumstances. Being LGBTQI+ is being 100% LGBTQI+. Why judge them for who they are and knowing what they want? Why hurt them for being true to themselves? #everydayisprideday (at Pride Month) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBYEnKeJ3Md/?igshid=lapr3mscey54

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It is very difficult to be a female in this country or any other country for that matter. It's like walking down a tunnel not knowing what to expect. It's more scary than learning how to swim in an ocean full of sharks or taking your first step as a baby. Being a female in a world intoxicated with crime is like sacrificing your own life by walking down the streets because wherever you go there are men undressing you with their eyes or that family member who acts kind towards you but has an agenda. As females, it's torturing to walk out of the house knowing that there are perpetrators out there, perpetrators who take on defenseless women. Some females can no longer where skin revealing outfits without being fearful but what you wear should not attract men. It is not an invitation to say "please rape me". When are we going to be able to walk around freely? When will we be able to embrace what we have without being judged or assaulted? When will changes be implicated because even young babies are getting molested. Being a rapist is beyond penetrating and victimizing another soul. It is more than leaving an emotional scar that the victim will carry to their grave. Being a rapist is not just commiting the most revolting crime and injuring a person emotionally, physically and psychologically. Being a rapist is manipulating another person emotionally and forcefully wanting to be intimate. It is like switching the lights on and off, hoping that everything will go back to normal after that. Forcefully demanding to be intimate with your partner, even after hearing her say "𝚗𝚘", is rape too. (at Female's World) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBPv1HEJIFL/?igshid=g4nuf64pvpjh

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A person's body is an art gallery of the most beautiful artworks. It is filled with scars of strength and continuation. A person's body is evidence to show that they never gave up even when they wanted to. Your body is yours to judge and feel beautiful about. Do not fear wearing that mini skirt because you are petite. Don't fear wearing that crop top because you have belly fat. Don't fear walking out of the house wearing what you like. If the way you are dressed makes you feel proud of yourself and boosts your confidence then flaunt your body. Do not hide your body because people won't like what they will see. You don't owe any one big bums or big breasts. You don't owe any one a flat stomach or an hour glass body because your body is for you to be proud of. If transforming it is what you want then do it for you and not for the world. Don't do it because your family says so. Don't do it so that your crush can notice you. Don't do it for society but yourself. Ladies, how another girls body looks like has nothing to do with you but their choices. One of the biggest mistakes we make as girls is body shaming each other. As females, we should rather help each other overcome our fears that shaming each other. We should be uplifting one another and lending a helping hand but no, we would rather gossip about how skinny the other person looks or how overweight they are. (at A Woman's Journey) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBOS8RRJF4L/?igshid=1sl9k873jflhq

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She has been crying tears more than the oceans, She has been passing signs of danger and fume but we looked away. Forests burning like torched vehicles, And thunderstorms snatching homes of the rich and poor. Mother Earth, the bearer of good and ill, The one that grants life from the sender, The one that takes it from those that can no longer endure. We messed with her beauty then we wonder like lost sheep, We ask each other why all of this is happening then blame evil for all our wicked ways. We looked away when youngsters were being raped and teens were being enslaved. We looked away when lies were told and resulted to suicides, We looked away when our fathers and mothers spat fire of abuse, We turned a blind eye when blood was being spilt in front of our very eyes. And now... Now her soil has covered many of the innocent and guilty. Now her ground is being oppressed by the young and old. (at Mother Earth) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBMDLdNJxRW/?igshid=1ceegzwzzq91l