spnisourhobbyandstuff - Tumblr blog

spnisourhobbyandstuff · 5 years

Text

On Destiel and endgame hysteria

Sometimes I get fired up about some of the BS I see in this fandom and this is one of those moments. This post will be a layercake of sentimentality, disappointment, anger and maybe a wee bit (a lot) of profanity. So, you know. Back on my bullshit.

The show that we love, love to hate or hate to love, for better or worse, will see it’s final curtain call at the S15 finale. You don’t need me to tell you how impactful it’s been and how much it means to so many people for a variety of reasons that extend well beyond it’s entertainment value. All it takes is one scroll through social media to get a sampling of the reach of this little-show-that-could and by extension (and because of) it’s cast, to see that it’s beloved by so many. And it deserves the praise, and the end deserves to be lamented - but like TFW has said over and over, and to paraphrase Frank Sinatra, they’re doing it their way. For that? I’m happy.

The show has been described as a “juggernaut” and an “institution”, and it is. We all know the themes: Finding *your* family, struggle, perseverance, dedication, making mistakes and not always learning from them (but trying), acceptance, the beauty in humanity even when all hope seems lost, redemption, and love… to name the big ones. Now about Love. "Love" is not threatening to burn down houses if your ship isn’t made canon. "Acceptance" isn’t threatening the cast, crew, producers and network with lawsuits if your ship isn’t made endgame. I saw a few posts like that today that had a very disappointing number of likes and reblogs and I’m kinda furious, to be honest. You fucking twits.

As someone who enjoys the show, and respects the determination, sacrifice, hard work, creativity, and yes - Love - that has been poured into this endeavor, I don’t think I’m alone when I say - JUST. STOP. You whining, tantrum throwing, self-important, “wouldn’t catch a social cue if it had a $100 bill attached to it and was tossed to you from 3 feet away”, obnoxious, divisive children.

Accept what the cast, the writers and Eric Freaking Kripke have told you? No… can’t do that. Must hop from one lily pad of delusion to the next and have the gall to be self righteous about it. And then pat yourselves on the back for being alternately clever, threatening and obtuse. You’re like the Donald Trumps of the SPN fandom. You’re not disliked because of your ship. You’re disliked because of your personalities. Let that sink in. No one is marginalizing you. You chose to do this to yourselves AND your beloved ship via your words and actions. You sunk your own battleship and now you’re pissed.

I don’t affiliate myself with any ship or the other factions of this fandom…. I don’t get it. I’m just a fan. A fan of the story, the acting, the tragedy, the comedy, the characters and the character of the actors involved. I don’t know what a good “fan” is… don’t care. But I know what a bad one is. A bad one thinks that they can take ownership of someone else’s art just because they’ve “invested” in it.

And I apply it to my own life in this way - Here I am doing my thing, putting my creativity out into the world… and what I create matters to me. Every little bit. I throw myself into the things I’m passionate about. And not everyone is going to be thrilled with what I produce. Some people will never see what I put out there, but word travels fast when you genuinely care about your craft. I do what I do because it drives me, and always has. And I do my best to stay true to MY story. And the thought of someone trying to insert themselves into my story because they think they know my creations better than I do, makes me want to punch throats.

And the thought of a group of people actually threatening me and the people I collaborate with because I’m not making their fantasy a reality?? Hey - get fucked sideways without lube, and throw some sand in there for extra discomfort.

I want you (and you know who you are) to have some accountability. Please tell me in what scenario is your behavior warranted or appropriate. Feel free to DM me. I won’t “out” you, and I’ll never be abusive - I just need to know why. (bullet pointing this because… reading comprehension)

1. WHY is Destiel is the only representation you’ll accept.

2. WHY do you think it’s funny or “OK” to harass the creatives on this show constantly when you have absolutely no right to their story?

3. WHY do you think that pushing something so hard will get you what you want?

4, And lastly…. WHY is this so important to you?

Can you possibly survive if Destiel isn’t made canon? Do you have other hobbies and interests that can fill your time? Because some of ya’ll are acting like this is the Be All End All of your existence and I’m here to tell you - it’s really not. If it DOES happen, it will be at the discretion of the showrunner and creatives, and I promise you it won’t be because they caved to the small, yet omnipresent faction of Destiehellers that have annoyed the ever-living fuck out of everyone attached to this show. It’ll be on their terms.

The tantrum strategy stops working after age 4, usually….it just seems some of you are late getting the memo. Thanks to your folks. Well done.

Try to appreciate the show for what it is and always has been. If your expectations are unreasonable and are buoyed by years of manips, misquotes and over-analyzation of brief “moments” between ANY characters, and you feel emotional enough about it to behave badly - it’s time for a factory reset. This show has never mislead you - you’ve bought into delusion and over-analysis and straight-up fiction pimped to you by fellow “fans” probably before you even watched your first episode. It’s the weirdest thing I’ve seen. And I’ve seen some shit.

If you’re going to be angry… be angry at your friendly neighborhood Destiel dealer. They chumped you to get more *buy* for their *supply*. Them’s the facts.

That being said…. Can We Just Appreciate The Final Moments That This Amazing Cast And Crew Are Going To Give Us (and you know they will), And Let It The Fuck GO?

You’re welcome to block me (you probably should). But before you do that, could you let this sink in a bit? And if you see a fellow shipper being an entitled douche - maybe hold yourself to a higher standard than they do themselves and don’t perpetuate it/like/reblog it? Because this behavior is well and truly a shitty way to treat the legacy of this groundbreaking show, and all those that are responsible for bringing it to life.

In other words….Behave. And have some goddamn dignity.

I’m not sure if I’m doing this right, but my response was so long. Eh…whatever. @jessiegail I understand, and please allow me to elaborate. When I was scrolling through the Jensen tags (because the Dean and SPN tags have been overrun by a lot of people with zero respect for the character/show canon, so I stay away anymore. That in and of itself should tell you something)… I was also sharing in the moment, and the news and wanted to see some SPN love and positivity. What I ran into almost immediately was, and I quote: “If they don’t make destiel cannon (sic) for the series finale, I’ll set their houses on fire. You’ve been warned.” 87 people agreed with @moosewncstr on this sentiment. Now… if it was one shitty person and people steered clear of any affiliation with them for threatening arson because they’re completely off their fucking rocker…. that would be easy to ignore. But 87 people?? That’s really, really bad. What I’m seeing and have been seeing, is a hive-mind mentality that doesn’t care for acceptance. Doesn’t care if it’s abusive. Doesn’t care if someone gets their “feelings” hurt. And they absolutely Do Not Care if what they say incites the potential reality of violence, as long as they can force their ship down the throats of as many people as possible and Make It Canon.

And by hive-mind, I mean - NO ONE in the Destiel camp seems to have the degree of autonomy (AKA: Balls) required to rein in the bad apples in their bunch. They either agree or stay silent. So, because you can’t self-regulate, people like me with no concern or desire for your approval have to come in and tell you to knock your shit off. You won’t. But I feel better. And maybe others will feel more comfortable to express their disapproval when shit like this rears its ugly head. Anyone who would think threats (just a joke…hahaha), are acceptable, and those who are in agreement can suck it. And i will not roll over and sing kumbaya with anyone who thinks this is ok. I’m generally careful with the headers and lead-in paragraphs to posts that are potentially inflammatory. A courtesy that is not extended by your brethren. You had ample warning that this post would not be kind to asshole shippers. I don’t think you are one of those people - but, if you’re defending this behavior, I can’t really empathize with you. I also don’t want you to feel targeted. This isn’t about YOU. This is about endemic behavior that has become so toxic, it pretty much can’t be undone. As for paying anything forward, I do not owe people who act like this the time of day, much less a kind word. I have 2 choices: I can stand by and pretend I don’t see these things and block, block, block so that I can stay in my bubble. Or, I can take my own little stand on my own little blog and address genuinely disturbing behavior using language of my choice. What I will never do is threaten or abuse any individuals who question my logic. Downside is… you’ll get a very long winded explanation. Go, be happy. Enjoy your ship. No one is telling you not to. I’m telling you right now, though - I can’t and won’t tolerate the bad apples. Best to block me if you’re sensitive to the way I word my posts, but understand - I’m not promoting hate or abusive behavior - I’m fighting it. And I will continue to do so as long as I’m on this dumpster fire of a website, because I love this show and I believe all of the creative’s, crew and fans deserve some fucking respect.

257 notes · View notes