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your unreliable narrator fucking bit me

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grrm just sent me his newest draft of twow. bad news guys but the valonqar is actually jaime’s old hand which qyburn has animated to move independently like thing from the adams family :(

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this has probably been done before but

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An unequal marriage in Westeros.

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i forgot to post this last year so im scheduling it to post march 15th 2024 (it's march 17th 2023 rn)

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everyone make sure you leave out the milk and cookies and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife and knife tonight 🥰

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be sure to leave out milk and cookies for brutus tonight

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(I scheduled this for the Ides of March all the way back on October 23, 2022. You're welcome.)

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I exclusively use mugs now

So my grandparents have two types of cups in their house: a pretty sunflower patterned cup and a plain striped Ikea cup.

I, the cottage core wanna be bitch that i am, love the sunflower cups and always use them. My brother, well i haven't asked him but, he also always uses the sunflower cups. This would be fine except it's always impossible to tell whose cup is whose. and like i want to tell him not to use the sunflower cups bc i like them and then we'll always be able to tell who uses which cup, but also like he's a guy who always chooses the flower cup and i don't want to discourage that bc like toxic masculinity who. But also it would be easier if we stuck to one type of cup each.

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A succubus but instead of stealing your soul through sex she kisses you and your wallet disappears

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I haven't posted any art in a while so here's a pic of my first time making macrame. it was a birthday present for my mom

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Unpopular opinions about Jane Austen?(Books and/or movies---it's all up to you!)

THANK YOU FOR ASKING <3

Pride and Prejudice

I don’t know if this qualifies as an unpopular opinion but here is a reading of P&P that I don’t see as much. And that is: before Lizzy even meets Darcy she’s already heartbroken on some level and Darcy’s comment to Bingley about her being “tolerable enough” stings her so deeply not just because it wounds her pride but because it reminds her of how right she is to be heartbroken.

Lizzy understands that her happiness and financial security, her safety essentially, rest entirely upon her ability to marry well, to marry comfortably at the very least. She knows that her own personal happiness depends on being free to marry for love. The odds of Lizzy personally finding someone who is suitable financially and socially who would willingly choose her (1 of 5 sisters, meagre fortune, no title etc.) AND make her happy are astronomically low. 

And all of this depends on factors that are largely outside of Lizzy’s control- like how pretty she is, the timing of rich young men who happen to be in town, who happen to notice her etc. etc. And the factors that are in her control- her behavior, her shrewdness, how willing she is to play the game demanded of her by society- all go directly against her principles and her personality. So things are bleak. And Lizzy can joke about it all she wants and find the delight in the ridiculous of that situation but it isn’t a good thing. And it’s killing her. Happiness, real happiness, AND financial security are equally out of her reach.

Darcy shows up. And he is everything she is ready to hate because he is exactly the person whose opinion of her will matter the most because he has and represents everything she needs to be happy; he’s the embodiment of her frustration with the system. He is rich; he is powerful; he is good-looking. He can marry wherever he likes because as a man and as a rich one he does not have to worry about his fortune or status getting in the way. Of course, if you know Darcy from the inside you know he has problems too but Lizzy can’t see that.

ANYWAY the point is, this man, tHIS MAN, is exactly the one she overhears talking about how she isn’t pretty enough to dance with. And not pretty enough to dance with is not pretty enough to marry and marriage is the only option and etc. etc. Because of one man’s casual and dismissive comment on her looks, her entire hope of happiness disappears in an instant. And this is before Lizzy has even decided necessarily how she feels about him, or whether or not she was going to try to win him over! But it doesn’t matter. He reminds her casually and unintentionally how much power he has to decide her fate, how much her happiness rests in the hands of men like him. 

And so she laughs at it and jokes with Charlotte about it and makes fun of it to Jane but honestly I think it KILLS her, because the whole reality kills her and that’s where so much of her anger comes from and is why she’s so ready to believe Wickham and why she isn’t ready to understand where he’s coming from at all or see any of his actions in the best light. Because she isn’t just angry with him, but angry with the whole reality and with her helplessness.

This comes from a conversation I had with @ihaveonlymydreams about it and she’s one of the people who has helped me realize that Darcy’s comment is a far more painful line for Lizzy to hear than just the slight to her looks makes it seem, which, let’s be real, underneath everything must also sting. I grew up on P&P and so I’ve always focused on the FUN of everything. But it’s not just about the fun of Darcy saying that and then falling for her so soon after or even about the charming way Lizzy brushes it off/laughs about it and how THAT affects Darcy too. It’s about how much that stings because it represents how helpless and powerless she is and how much depends on something as shallow as her being pretty enough to dance with.