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Gendered parenting is so weird. As a little kid I was a total daddy's girl, I was told I would always try to sneak the garage, I was always very interested in everything he was doing and would follow him around while he was working, but while my family was never the type to outright say "you can't do that because you're a girl", they simply didn't entertain the idea that I could possibly be interested in cars. Then when my little brother was born, it was just assumed he would become a mechanic like our dad because he was a boy. Even though he, unlike me, didn't like being in the garage much and wasn't all that interested in what dad was doing. Once he got to a certain age, dad started making him help and would drag him away from his actual interests for it, which lead to a lot of arguing and not much actual learning.

Gendered expectations sort of create doubles of children. There's the real child with their actual personality, interests and behaviors, and then there's the Gender Child.

My real brother hated soccer and team sports. The Gender Child that existed only the minds of the adults in his life enjoyed playing soccer because that's what a Boy Child likes.

Growing up, I always felt like adults didn't actually know me as a person and they weren't interested in getting to know me. Because they felt they'd already learned everything there was to know about me when they were told "it's a girl".

When I talk about how I never got gifts I actually liked from my relatives (to this day I still don't like getting gifts that aren't something I picked out myself), it isn't actually about the gifts themselves. I don't even remember them. What I do remember is the feeling of being given gifts that were seemingly not bought with the real me in mind. They were for the Girl Child™️ version of me. The me that adults wanted me to be, not who I actually was.

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sephgen after the vr incident gotta be so awkward,,,

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oopsie, sketched some quick ff7 stamps bc i thought the idea of shinra making Stamp stamps was silly, and then i just had a great time playing crisis core reunion so here we are!!

so annoyed i couldnt remember if there is any unique identifiable flora to nibelheim, so i just decided cloudberries would be a good substitute since they are a) pretty damn hardy, b) punny and c) very tasty. these are based on stamps i vaguely remember from childhood, very cool!! :)

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i kinda love him

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me: you literally have a disorder. this is symptoms

me: no perhaps my soul is rotten

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Andrew Garfield talks to Elmo about grief and the passing of his mother

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Midgar Blues - 03

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Cropped to preserve tumblrs modesty 😘🍑

But (pun intended) you can see the full wip pic below the cut ;)

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people are so stunned when I tell them that saying stuff like “oh, you have a real medical issue but these other people are faking it” doesn’t make me feel safe or comfortable at all. I have just as easily been considered “those other people.” The rhetoric around “those other people” is just ableism and it always has been, you are just adding an exception because it makes you feel better about being cruel.

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Banora Boys 🍎

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*if you own a hybrid or electric prius, please choose Toyota. Same goes with all other applicable hybrid/ev models that are owned by a listed company. The EV category is for vehicles like the rivian or tesla, for which the parent companies specialize in electric vehicles.

**if you do not have a driver's license, but have access to a household car that ppl drive you around in, please vote as if that car is your car.

Also please reblog <3 I'm so sad about all my 6 vote polls T_T

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the urge to write never leaves but the motivation to do so is a lover lost at war

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theyre calling it imagination. one hit of this shit and you'll never play toys the same again