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One of the things that’s helped me from not getting too trapped in our cultural models is that I do travel a great deal in other cultures. And in other cultures I’m always surprised at how different the feelings are that are generated around vari

Embracing Aging within Society

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Excited about attending this summit on Saturday! #behardy #gratitude

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Simon Sinek: Why Leaders Eat Last

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Love this!

{ Walking on the cloud } x SPACE70

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Montparnasse neighborhood in Paris. Nice first night dinner!

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What Does the Fox Say? | By Robert Adamec

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This really hits home for me. As long as we continue to stick our heads in the sand around why the costs of healthcare (from drugs, to services, labs etc...) the taxpayer and consumer of healthcare services will be taken advantage of. But, as we saw with the Banks and Financial Institutions after they alone crashed our economy, their money and power has been used to continually delude us, through propaganda. Preventing any significant change to their profits or the environment that is the breeding ground for this to happen again.

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Frozen ~ By Nicolas Le Boulanger

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Procrastination, ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!

zenhabits : breathe

How I Learned to Stop Procrastinating, & Love Letting Go

‘People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.’ ~Thich Nhat Hanh

By Leo Babauta

The end of procrastination is the art of letting go.

I’ve been a lifelong procrastinator, at least until recent years. I would put things off until deadline, because I knew I could come through. I came through on tests after cramming last minute, I turned articles in at the deadline after waiting until the last hour, I got things done.

Until I didn’t. It turns out procrastinating caused me to miss deadlines, over and over. It stressed me out. My work was less-than-desirable when I did it last minute. Slowly, I started to realize that procrastination wasn’t doing me any favors. In fact, it was causing me a lot of grief.

But I couldn’t quit. I tried a lot of things. I tried time boxing and goal setting and accountability and the Pomodoro Technique and Getting Things Done. All are great methods, but they only last so long. Nothing really worked over the long term.

That’s because I wasn’t getting to the root problem.

I hadn’t figured out the skill that would save me from the procrastination.

Until I learned about letting go.

Letting go first came to me when I was quitting smoking. I had to let go of the “need” to smoke, the use of my crutch of cigarettes to deal with stress and problems.

Then I learned I needed to let go of other false needs that were causing me problems: sugar, junk food, meat, shopping, beer, possessions. I’m not saying I can never do these things again once I let go of these needs, but I let go of the idea that they’re really necessary. I let go of an unhealthy attachment to them.

Then I learned that distractions and the false need to check my email and news and other things online … were causing me problems. They were causing my procrastination.

So I learned to let go of those too.

Here’s the process I used to let go of the distractions and false needs that cause procrastination:

I paid attention to the pain they cause me, later, instead of only the temporary comfort/pleasure they gave me right away.

I thought about the person I want to be, the life I want to live. I set my intentions to do the good work I think I should do.

I watched my urges to check things, to go to the comfort of distractions. I saw that I wanted to escape discomfort of something hard, and go to the comfort of something familiar and easy.

I realized I didn’t need that comfort. I could be in discomfort and nothing bad would happen. In fact, the best things happen when I’m in discomfort.

And then I smile, and breathe, and let go.

And one step at a time, become the person I want to be.

‘You can only lose what you cling to.’ ~Buddha

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Nyctophilia

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Let's think about this really. Oh, society is so broken, oh the culture is so selfish, fearful, cruel, superficial, blind, rude, ignorant, violent, corrupting our children, taking advantage of our seniors......We hear and say this without a thought that we are part of all of those things and have responsibility for all of those things as well.

Is it possible, we could try and work on addressing these things we observe and experience rather than placing blame and judging?

I believe it's possible.

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another way of possibly looking at empathy versus sympathy. Although telling me how you connect to my joy, pain, anxiety and fear from your own experience of it can be very empathetic.

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a way to look at how we relate in life....

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Seriously. It's a Grey Area.

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Spouting Off.....

No, it has to be yes! Yes, well it may be No! Maybe, hell if I know!

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Today

Like any other and not.

Returning, starting, ending, being.

Again

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Here we are. That's it. Accept. Resist. Be silent. Wail. Whine. Try. Give up. Still. Here.

Me