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wait isn't god omniscient or whatever, supposed to see everything

this is like a kid getting behind a tree while sticking their whole damn entire body out, "if i cannot see you, you cannot see me"

Ravioli Of Lying To God

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i have nothing against public nudity movements (performances?) like the world naked bike ride or w/e from an ideological standpoint, but its so deeply upsetting to me on a physical sensory level, like. you got your pussy out? where there's BUGS? and POLLEN?

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Neuroqueer Nidoqueen: “The concept of intelligence hurts ‘smart’ people too. If you’re good at one thing, you’re expected to be good at everything.”

Aside from the fundamental problem of ranking people based on an imaginary attribute, intelligence creates a binary: You are either smart or stupid. All of your skills and talents are reduced to one label. Uneven skill levels are somehow made out to be an anomaly, when really they are the norm.

If you’re witnessed being bad at something, you are labeled stupid. “Stupid” people are supposedly bad at everything, so the expectations of you hit rock bottom, and if you do something well, it’s considered a fluke. If it’s obviously consistent, you’re an idiot savant.

If you’re witnessed being good at something, you are labeled smart. “Smart” people are supposedly good at everything, so the expectations of you are unrealistically high, and if you fail to do something well, you must be lazy. If you’re consistently unskilled, you must just be consistently lazy.

–Nidoqueen

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children should not be scared of their parents end of story no excuses

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Why I'm "Anti-Family"

One: You’re stuck. Born or adopted into a family, you (the child) are not allowed to leave. Even if you don’t get along with your parents or your siblings. Even if your parents are siblings are abusive. (“But child abuse is illegal!” lol okay) Even if you just want a little vacation time.

Two: Coercive power. Parents are expected to control children. Not only that, but they’re allowed to do so, at their own convenience.

The parent-child relationship […] is supposed to be a command/obey dynamic: the parent makes commands, the youth is obligated to obey them. But obedience is not enough. The youth is supposed to show that they’re eager to comply and grateful for the supervision. Resentment, rolling eyes, sighing, back-talk, and being slow to obey–are seen as insubordination, an attack on the parent’s right to command.

To empower parents, adult society has granted authority to use violence (“discipline”)–acts that would be considered “assault” if done to another adult. Most parents seldom need to use this power, though. Having established that they *can* inflict pain, intimidation keeps the youth in line. Youth remain trapped under this lingering threat by dependence on the parents for shelter, food, clothing, money, and transport. (Svenn Bonnischen, “Adult Supremacism”)

Three: Mandatory love. Did you tell you mom you loved her this mother’s day? (Honestly if you can’t see why it’s fucking gross that children must love their parents, stay away from me.)

Four: All of this contributes to and encourages the dehumanization of children.

also see, my own adult privilege checklist (which focuses specifically on power dynamics) and a common rebuttal/concern with letting go of parental power

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it is way past time for people to stop telling each other to “grow up” as if getting older makes you a better person

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Children swear all the time. Adults swear all the time. However, mix these two groups, and suddenly everyone pretends swearing is awful and they would never ever do such thing.

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Enforcing rules on children that adults don't follow is a convenient way for adults to look and feel like they're doing their part to make the world a better place without ever having to actually challenge their own actions and beliefs.

It's also why children are spanked for saying something rude and hurting someone's feelings, but adults saying something rude and hurting someone's feelings is "free speech".

It's also why wealthy parents complain about having ungrateful children, while those parents are themselves ungrateful to their employees who generate that wealth.

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Wisconsin Republicans: “Hey, let’s allow 14 year olds to work in bars, what can possibly go wrong?”

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There’s a long list of things children can do that are considered disrespectful to adults. The list includes asking for a reason, being stressed in their vicinity, not calling them ma’am or sir, standing up for yourself when they make fun of you, and obeying them but not being happy about it.

But an adult can do almost anything to a child without it being considered abuse. Murder, rape, and a few other things are the only exceptions.

But children are the ones who feel entitled? Children are the ones who are out of control? Children are the ones who need to learn respect?

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If someone’s response to you asserting a boundary is to try to convince you that you aren’t allowed to assert that boundary, civility is over. Be merciless in response. Protect yourself.

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A narcissist saying "fuck your feelings" is considered an evil monster with no compassion for others.

A neurotypical saying "fuck your feelings" is considered a champion of free speech.

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you don't always need to be working towards big goals or trying to radically change your life.

you're allowed to just take time to exist, learn about yourself, what makes you happy, and enjoy being here.

taking time to rest and recover does not make you any less then people that doing different things.

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my friend’s four-year-old son wouldn’t go to sleep because he wanted to keep looking at the stars and she tried to bribe him with a piece of chocolate and he just said “would you rather get a reward or be happy” and turned back to the window

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you cant ever let yourself forget what it felt like to be 15. how adults treated you. being treated without a shred of respect because people think youre too young to have thoughts and feelings of your own. the lack of autonomy. you cant ever forget that because if you do you might become the kind of adult who treats kids like theyre not people

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so in other news I was at this party earlier this week, and this friend of mine was talking about the guy she recently broke up with, and she kept doing this thing where she would get to a point in a sentence where the normal thing to do would clearly be to use an ageist insult and then she’d stop dead and struggle for a new word and kind of look at me for inspiration and then figure it out and carry on. very subtle but very noticeable. like at one point she starts out “ugh he’s just being so fucking…” and I’m pretty sure the word was going to be “immature” but she stops and goes “…uh….like…selfish and thoughtless”

and a minute later her friend says the dude’s “acting like a teenage boy” and my friend kind of glances at me and then straight-up goes “nah it’s not an age thing plenty of 30-year-olds are shitheads”

I was so proud