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Girltwink x Boydyke reblog if you agree

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i don't know how many ways i can beg people to please please check the fucking exchange rate before making a donation---when you don't check and you make teeny tiny donations in weaker currencies, that costs the person on the other end because their campaigns get less support. do you know it takes so much longer to fundraise in weaker currencies that i have seen some palestinians prematurely close out campaigns in currencies such as SEK and try to open new ones, from scratch, in higher currencies like USD and EUR?

this is yet another stupid bureaucratic way that US hegemony and the dominance of the US dollar end up costing people their lives, and you can prevent it by simply taking 5 seconds yourself to google and figure out how much 5 or 10 USD is worth in the currency you're donating in. even campaigns that state the exchange rate in their gofundme, even Mohammed's campaign where i constantly state the exchange rate in my posts, some of you simply cannot be bothered to do basic math and instead you donate piddling little amounts that are way less than what you give to other campaigns.

i don't know what else to even say at this point except that he, and his 27-person family, need that 5 USD or 10 USD---approximately 52 krona or 125 krona, if you still cannot be bothered to look it up---he needs the same donation amounts you consider reasonable in higher currencies, his need is not any less just because he is fundraising in SEK!

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Seems like a great idea for a show! Someone should start crowdfunding for it

Asexual woman and A sexual woman:

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Genuinely like you are going to have some of the most boring coworkers and neighbors in the world. You are gonna have annoying people who are loud and have the most reddit opinions and personality you can think of and who are just as awkward as you and who may make jokes in poor taste. But you still gotta be able to just like talk to them about the weather and shit. Hear people talk about their kids or their jobs or what movies come out recently. Obvs this has limits with like outright bigots but as a general rule you gotta cause that's the only way you can build real life community. You'll never be able to borrow a cup of sugar or host a block party or organize a union by only talking to people who you like. If you wanna build a better world with those around you you gotta learn their names first.

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if you are a mentally ill and/or neurodivergent person who struggles with figuring out where to find resources, how to socialize, how to organize your life, how to manage funds, etc. i highly recommend looking into case management services in your area if you have access to medical care and/or insurance. i finally got set up with some irl groups, some of which are dedicated to helping people learn things like how to apply for jobs or homes, social groups, exercise groups, art groups and more. it's invaluable to folks who don't have the confidence to find these things on their own, or just don' tknow how to. case management has been a huge blessing for me ngl

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u ever see someone with extremely fucked up views (or actions) and think wowww if a couple of things in my life went the tiniest bit differently that would have been me

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the thing is, if your younger self was a bigot or an abuser, u can't make people forgive you. but you still gotta forgive yourself, like that's non-negotiable, dude. that happens before u can even ask the question of earning forgiveness from anyone lese

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I'd rather hangout with the straight boyfriend than the queer cop who insists they're one of the "good ones" while harassing people of color

I'd rather hangout with the straight palestinian grandma than the queer zionist who keeps insisting that the death of palestinians is the one way ticket to queer liberation

I'd rather hangout with the leather dyke who is a mspec gaybian and uses paw/pawself pronouns than the puritan who makes "callout posts" clearly targeting disabled queer artists

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"pervert" as an insult is about half a step above "degenerate" in what it reveals about the worldview of its user

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finally got around to applying a sorely needed new coat of paint to the back of my vest! i hit it with some glossy acrylic sealer to help it last longer so i don't have to repaint it every handful of months lol. it's wonderful to see it vibrant again! this vest brings other people joy and safety, I could not be more grateful for the impact it's had on folks!

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the cultural boogeyman of the faker is such a convenient lie for ableism. Waste your time fighting about who does and does not deserve help, and maybe you wont realizes that there was never any help to begin with. The is no epidemic of malingerers taking up resources they don't need, there is a lack of resources for disabled people

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so many of the transfems i know spent their time pre-transition performing a kind of lifelong exercise in self-deprivation, the goal of which was to find out exactly how little a person needed to live. they starved themselves, dressed carelessly, shunned friends, and hollowed themselves out so as not to be burdens on anyone but themselves.

i see it now, too, in the girls around me. i'll ask if they want care – a home-cooked meal, relaxed company, sex without the expectation of reciprocation – and they say no, no, thank you, i don't need it; what would you like, what do you want, because in their head they're still doing that awful calculus, still training themselves to disappear in the eyes of the people around them.

i don't think i'd have died without transition – not in the conventional sense, at least – but to take that leap, i had to stop thinking of myself as a human experiment in fuel-efficient living and start nurturing the anemic, atrophied flame of desire in my heart. i had to learn to eat well, to exercise, to style myself beautiful, but harder than that, i had to learn to ask the people around me to work on my behalf in order to enrich my life and give me the things i wanted.

and i did it; i learned. and it was agony, but courage is a muscle you can train, and every day i get better at accepting gifts with the hungry gratitude i never learned in my years and years as a sad, scared, lonely boy.

so be patient with the trans girls in your life. better than that: be proactive, attentive, generous; be forceful, if you have to, and learn to distinguish real discomfort from the terrified reflex of self-denial that so many of us once learned to rely on.

and if you are so lucky as to love a trans girl, you must insist upon her. you must insist upon her happiness, her comfort, her pleasure, and her rest, because she may still not yet know how to make those demands for herself. if you can devote any amount of energy to becoming an engine that nurtures the flame of even a single tgirl then there is a place for you in trans heaven, which as far as i'm concerned is the only one worth going to

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I wanted to name myself after a Greek goddess but knew that if I did my roommate would start calling me by a nickname that was already the name of someone i knew

so instead I combined the Greek goddess’s name with the name of a Roman goddess and got my current name.

Plus now my nickname means “annoy” which is very fitting for me (I’m annoying as hell)

Trans name chain I wanna hear all of y'all's chosen names and why you picked them :3

I'll go first:

I picked Saga cause it's a cute but still pretty unique scandinavian girl's name (I live in Denmark), because it's super fast to spell on a keyboard and because it means "story" in old nordic, which I really like cause this is my story, y'know? :>

I also recently found out Saga is the relatively unknown nordic goddess of stories, which I hate cause it means I accidentally fell into the tgirl stereotype of naming myself after a goddess xD

tag your mutuals or something idk \⁠(⁠ϋ⁠)⁠/

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Some rando: You should think about stopping your prescription

Me: My pills make me not want to die tho

They: You shouldn’t want to die, that’s not normal

Me: Yeah that’s why I’m taking my pills

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I'm only halfway through but means so much to me that not only does Nona the Ninth depict a character with profound intellectual and developmental disabilities with compassion and depth, she is surrounded by love and support. Her family may occasionally be frustrated or exasperated (pencils aren't FOOD Nona) but they never get upset, never make her feel stupid or useless, they challenge her without depriving her of support, and love her unconditionally.

At school the teachers are unfailingly kind and give her jobs that are within her capabilities and make her feel helpful and competent.

She is not required to go through a gauntlet of social trauma in order to earn friends. There is loving teasing among the gang but she is accepted and valued as who she is.

Even in the interactions we see with random strangers, she is viewed with kindness or gentle humor (with the one creep exception), not the disgust and aversion we so commonly see people with disabilities treated with in our culture.

So much can be written about how, even in the midst of The Horrors, Nona finds love and support, but right now I'm just holding the simple beauty that she gets to experience that people can be good.