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I think every lesbian who says she wouldn't date a bi woman is functionally on the same wavelength as men who say they would only marry a virgin

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I don't know how long this will last, but the situation here in Gaza is getting worse every day after the war between Iran and Israel. I forgot about Gaza. No one talks about us anymore, and the news doesn't mention us. All that is being discussed is Iran, Israel, and America.It's as if they forgot that the main problem is Gaza.

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Isn't it fucking insane that so many people think that IQs are real. Like people genuinely believe you are born with one set level of intelligence that can be measured on a scale from 1 to ~200. As if intelligence wasn't extremely nuanced and completely subjective. And the fact that the majority of scientists that have advocated for IQ tests in the past have been eugenicists doesn't seem to concern anyone either

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I think 50 shades of grey did so much damage to BDSM writing in fic and like not because I think fic writers were taking inspiration from it, but we did get a lot of detailed explanatory posts about all the different ways in which those guys were Doing It Wrong, which is not in and of itself a bad thing but since then everybody got so hung up on making sure everybody in their fics was nothing like 50 shades of grey and actually demonstrates that yes I do understand the principles of safe sane and consensual and the traffic light system and safewording and aftercare and checking in that now everybody fucks like a 101 handbook and I think we've only just recently started to recover from it. love me a dynamic where it's two repressed freak idiots who accidentally invent BDSM all on their own and have to come up with the strangest most deeply harmful ways of navigating that situation

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EMILY AXFORD AND IZZY ROLAND ON THE NEW SEASON OF DIRTY LAUNDRY!!! I STAY WINNING!!!!!!

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If you're dating a transfem, especially a butch one or a tall one or a big one you gotta just... not treat her like something to be afraid of. Like in a world where we are constantly painted as rapists, aggressors, hysterical bitches, and monsters you gotta fuckin stop and wonder how many times your girl has defanged herself. How many times has she dipped her shoulders and bowed her head because she was scared of being 'the bad one'? How many injustices and slights has she let slide because she wants to be soft and to be loved?

What does it do to her when you're too scared to have the hard conversations with her? How does the person you love feel when you show her even at home she is reduced to a potential for violence? If you avoid her, what thorns and poison does she imagine within and around herself?

If you want to love us, give us the dignity of trust. Talk to us like reasonable adults and let us feel. Don't dodge us while you find the right words to say, don't scatter eggshells on the floor then make us feel guilty you're walking on them, don't use trauma as an excuse to traumatize.

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I really feel like there's a parallel between

people uncomfortable with fatness saying "overweight" as a euphemism, which avoids just saying "fat" by instead implying there is a "correct" weight which someone is deviating from, which is itself anti-fat

people uncomfortable with transness using [sexgender + body] phrasing as a euphemism (e.g. "male bodies" instead of "penis" or "female bodies" instead of "breasts" or whatever), which avoids just naming body parts by instead implying there is a "correct" assemblage of traits which someone is deviating from, which is itself anti-trans

the euphemism is for the benefit of the speaker, because they are uncomfortable with someone's body. they portray it as politeness, but it's extremely rude.

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Iranian photographer Hossein Fatemi, offers a glimpse of an entirely different side to Iran than the image usually broadcasted by domestic and foreign media. In his photo series An Iranian Journey, many of the photographs reveal an Iran that most people never see, presenting an eye-opening look at the amazing diversity and contrasts that exist in the country.

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They’re the same picture

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i’m sure it works for some people but the thought of marrying your high school sweetheart from your little hometown without ever experiencing anything without them sounds like a punishment for some unforgivable and inhumane act you carried out in a previous life

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(cw: sexual assault) the pedophile -as it is understood outside of academic circles- is a mythical creature. the idea that a complete stranger who kidnaps and sexually assaults kids is their biggest threat is absolutely insane; not one case of CSA (child sexual assault) in a hundred looks like that. CSA is committed almost uniformly by adults in a preestablished position of authority (such as family, family friends, clergy, or teachers) and in a way that a victim who doesn't know what sexual assault looks like will be left unsure what happened to them. without knowing concretely how sex and sexuality works, would you be able to tell the difference between molestation and the various other forms of unwanted physical touch and abuse kids are regularly subjected to? would it even seem that different? but parenthood and the submission of youth to adults as institutions are threatened by the reality of CSA. adults need to justify their ownership of children through an imagined outside threat constantly held at bay through their diligence. the truth - that putting yourself in such a position of authority over children directly enables abuse (including sexual abuse) - is thrown aside.

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trans women specifically are so hated that getting mistaken for a trans woman is dangerous. thank god all of us can clear up that we aren't trans women to defuse that tension a little bit, thank god we can all fall back on not being trans women when it comes to legal matters. imagine if you couldn't do that. sure would suck if there was a type of person who couldn't do that. glad none of us are like that though.

I'm Glad We're All Equally Susceptible To Being MISTAKEN For Trans Women. Truly We Are All Faggots In The Eyes Of The State.

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over on twitter they’re currently having lesbian discourse about whether or not femmes can wear packers but i haven’t been able to participate in the discourse because every time my brain conceptualizes femmes wearing packers i immediately get lightheaded and pass out from all the blood rushing to my

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You really need to learn how to be okay with being just some guy in most people’s lives. There are definitely people you’re important to but don’t try to be everyone’s favorite coworker because you’ll exhaust yourself.

Also people probably aren’t sitting around thinking about how much they hate you because you’re either not that important to them or they love you and don’t think of you that way.

Also if you really are just some guy and try your best to be a good person someone sitting around thinking about how much they hate you is in fact the weirdo in this situation and not you.