stubborndelight

[stubborndelight]

“I’d blast my music and pretend to be somewhere else — in the woods, at the sea, wherever I could be free. My room was my heaven.”

— Lisa Marie Basile, from “Survival & Truth: How Toris Amos’ Under The Pink Changed My Life,”

[stubborndelight]

Sirius: *Writing a letter to James*

Sirius: Deer James

Lily: It’s Dear

Sirius: No it isn’t

[stubborndelight]

“What is human existence? It turns out it’s pretty simple: We are dead stars, looking back up at the sky.”

— Michelle Thaller, NASA American astronomer and Research scientist (via fyp-science)

[stubborndelight]

“The words of the sea are honest and simple.”

— Ioanna Tsatsou, tr. by Jean Demos, from Collected Poems; “Words Of The Sea,”

[stubborndelight]

Animated posters // (click to enlarge)

[stubborndelight]

“You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off. If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.” On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off. The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem. There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail? Yeah. He does. About every two weeks. This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well. So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights. For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.”

—

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

(via lil-ith)

It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

(via geekdomme)

I will always reblog this. Always.

(via myherocomplex)

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone.

(via alamaris)

Oh my lord, everything in this.

(via littlelull)

[stubborndelight]

There is magic in this and terror,

Amy Lowell, from The Complete Poetical Works of A. L.; “Purple Grackles,” (via violentwavesofemotion)

[stubborndelight]

The Essential Friends Dictionary

[stubborndelight]

My big boy turned 4 months old yesterday!

[stubborndelight]

January weekly spread. I went to a really aesthetic milktea shop this week.

bujogram: applefroyo

[stubborndelight]

makin’ art, makin’ messes

ig : amayajeane 🎨

[stubborndelight]

times when glasses are useless:

- when you’re outside and it’s raining

- when it’s cold outside and you come inside

- when you’re leaning over to pick something up and they fall off

- when you leave them in the bathroom while showering and they steam up

- when they accumulate 120 smudges and smears in 5 minutes despite you having remained completely still

[stubborndelight]

“Don’t shine so others can see you. Shine so that through you, others can see Him.”

— C. S. Lewis (via remindersofhislove)

[stubborndelight]

“To write you I first cover myself with perfume.”

— Clarice Lispector, from “The Stream of Life,” originally published c. 1973

[stubborndelight]

30.1.19 // doing okay but feel the winter depression is setting in so excited to see the sun soon. Side note I decided to try to learn Chinese this month and it’s real hard.

[stubborndelight]

‘Be not inhospitable to strangers lest they be angels in disguise.’ The Shakespeare and Company in Paris used to be a monastery in 1600s and housed popular writers like Ezra Pound, Scott Fitzgerald, Ernest Hemingway, Ford Madox Ford, and James Joyce since it was established in 1951. The bookshop used to be called The Mistral, but owner George Whitman renamed it Shakespeare and Company in 1964. (via Jennifer Liston)

[stubborndelight]

UW-Madison Arboretum by Kenton Fowler