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Notes for first week of semester

Digital notebook

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things I wish someone had told me when I was a college freshman

it’s easy to let the answer “I can’t wait to meet other people!” out when someone asks what you’re most excited for in college. no one says that meeting people during orientation and the first week of school is one of the most draining experiences in college.

finding your best friends in the first month of college is highly improbable, but that’s ok. you don’t have to start over with new friends in college either- try and keep the ones you love deeply from high school, and the rest will fall into place.

you and your roommate just have to cohabitate- you don’t have to be best friends. it’s better if you have shared interests and do things together, but that isn’t necessary. also, set your boundaries right away. my current roommate and I have lived together for two years now, and we have never fought from implementing this.

starbucks is really expensive. try to make coffee yourself whenever you can, and even better, switch to tea. it’s better for you because it has antioxidants and doesn’t corrode your teeth.

you’re going to get sick of dorm food after a month, so you should try to stockpile snacks in your room in case there are those days you literally can’t take it anymore.

my friends teased me about my saying, “being lame is cooler than being cool,” but i stand by it. if you want to explore college life by going to parties and drinking, props to you and stay safe, but if you don’t want to do any of that, it’s ok too. sometimes for you, staying in on a friday night to relax is better and more fun than going out- hence, “cooler” than being “cool” and fun. i haven’t been to a single college party or drank alcohol, just because i’ve never been interested in that scene.

you’ll probably see everyone start to date around the one month mark. don’t feel pressured to date just because everyone else is. being single may actually be better for you, to learn about yourself and what you want in a partner. it also gives you more time to pursue your own interests.

studying in groups seems like a good idea at first until it’s 2 am in the dorm and you’ve been distracted for five hours. do what’s best for you, not what everyone else wants you to do.

bring earbuds everywhere. walking from building to building while listening to music can be both energizing and calming.

if you don’t want to talk to someone trying to recruit you into an organization or sell you something, ignore them or tell them you’re in a rush to get to class. don’t feel bad, you just don’t have the time or mental space for them.

treat all strangers as if you’ll never see them again to help yourself feel less awkward. retail workers have probably seen worse things at their checkout station. your dress probably isn’t that ugly. it’s ten times easier to not care what others think of you than to care constantly.

being angry about everything and complaining all the time is the best way to make people dislike you as a person. no one really cares if you think this professor is unfair or if the TA graded something wrong. everyone has their own lives. take some time to be angry about something, but then always take steps to fix what happened or cope with the aftermath. the friends you confide in will find it irritating if you don’t take their advice.

you will see annoying people less, but they will be ten times more annoying. Sorry

college should not be a fight against other people- if it is, you’re not learning. i know for premed, stem, and business, it can feel like you’re always competing, but college should be about competing against yourself to become a better person. you want to learn, you want to experience life for yourself, not anyone else.

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03.12.2018

The warmth of winter.

(I’m really disappointed in myself for basically not doing anything for days. I hope that tomorrow I’ll finally manage to change it and get back to my regular routine.)

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other people writing ao3 comments: love this! can’t wait to see more ❤

me writing ao3 comments: gyjfsdghjkldsfhj fukc dude i………..id eat this if i could….

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hello there, these are my 2018 spreads :) p.s: happy (late) new year everyone!!! i hope this year will be an awesome year for all of us💛💛💛

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Heya! Three posts in three days woohoooo. I have another 10 more I think (and I’ve been taking pictures of my notes as I take them daily (though this has only been a two day routine so who knows!!). A patient and reasonable person would probably pace themselves because I’ll probably run out of things to post eventually, but I am neither patient nor reasonable so here goes. I’ve been very unproductive today so far because of terrible cramps ahh (I’m sorry if this is too much information D:) but hoping to get back on track after I eat dinner!!

Currently listening to: Hero by Family of the Year (it played in a store I was in today and it made me so happy!! I had already checked out but I wandered around for another two minutes so I could keep listening to it) 

Check out my studygram! https://www.instagram.com/lentilstudies/

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Had a snow day off of school cause there’s 12 INCHES of snow outside

So I’m spending some quality time with coffee + my bujo☕️ (also super worried the coffee was gonna spill on my blanket lol)

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Well I guess my workspace’s account has been forgotten  ; A ; . But I’m back now hahaha

Like if you want to study/work in here!

(source: @thewaveshavecome via Instagram)

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it’s march already !!

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“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”

-Brianna Wiest, in Thought Catalog

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spring is almost here 💐

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nature

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100 gold stars for you

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02.28.18 || Prepping for a quiz next class! We’re studying the importance of the supernatural in Japanese culture, and its such a fascinating topic! 👹🌸👹

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DAY 2 OF 12 

just a reminder (to myself) that this now is not permanent. if you don’t like where you’re at, if you’re not doing as well as you had hoped for, you can change it. you are not “stuck”, and it’s never too late to start working towards a better tomorrow. 

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check out the rest of the 12 days here!

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D14/365 // August 14 credit🌙 (pls don’t delete)

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