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April 2019 – Labbaik Allaahumma Umrah

April 2019 – Labbaik Allaahumma Umrah

Hey Blogbees,

I feel sort of sad writing this post as there is no words I can really put down to explain my experience and how my heart feels.

All I know is I kept saying ‘Thank you for this opportunity’ ‘Thank you for having us’ , ‘Thank you for inviting us’, ‘forgive me’….’forgive us for not putting you first’.

The first time seeing the beautiful Ka’bah it was so big and breathtaking. It makes…

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Hey Blogbees,

So I am in two minds about writing this blog, as its my journey and I don’t need to explain to anyone…and maybe writing it may come across as ignorant and arrogant but in reality this is how I got to were I am today. And its my diary.

I remember in November a family member was critising a friend of mine for not wearing a hijab after Umrah. I knew then, this was culture talking as wearing your Hijab isn’t ONLY cause you went to Umrah. You choose to wear a Hijab (Scarf over your hair), what your intentions are and what you feel is right for you and your head space. Its more sinful going backwards then not going forwards at all. The sheik from our Umrah suggested to ease into it becoming a better muslim and don’t go full on. Ie wear a hijab, wear an abaya full time (No jeans or leggings anymore), learn all your surah’s by heart, learn tajweed, stop listening to music, stop associating with men. Stop you girly chat with the girls…start preaching and talking about Islam You will crash and you will be resentful, as its not natural progression. So do each step at a time…

So if you choose to wear the hijab and decide going forward I will only wear loose clothing and no longer leggings. BUT then go back to not wearing a hijab and leggings then its more disrespectful to our creator as, it is seen as you are mocking and taking your religion as joke. BUT if you decide your not ready to wear a hijab and you know what your intentions are then its less sinful as you’ve not given an ‘oath’.

In honestly my intentions was not to go to umrah and comeback to wear a hijab. It was to cleanse and repent. At the time I wasn’t ‘ready’ to cover my hair and change my dress sense. That’s how I use to view the Hijab.

I researched the Hijab and what it actually says in the Quran. I started to read my prayers 5x a day…and meant if I showed my hair between prayers (If I didn’t need the toilet) the wudu would go. So wearing the Hijab meant my Wudu would be kept. I read, unfortunately men can’t control their lust and desires, as woman we can try and create a barrier ie the Hijab. I loved big volume Kardashian hair, So I realised that I was sinning cause I was getting the wrong attention from the opposite sex. Cause I was showing off my beauty to the world, men didn’t lower their gaze (as they are told too in the Quran). I started to feel guilty cause of my appearance and cause of my outfit choice men were sinning….my opinion of women wearing the hijab is to conceal your beauty (to Keep for your partner). Wearing the Hijab means to me, is to draw away attention, by wearing a plain scarf to keep your hair hidden from your non mahram (Men you can’t marry ie father, father-in-law, son, nephew, maternal uncle). Not by wearing flamboyant scarfs and fancy designs which draws attention but to conceal/ humble yourself. Hijab means to me, is wearing clothing that looks modest. Ie not figure hugging body-con dresses or see-through skin revealing clothes. It means to me a way covering your beauty, making you more modest and makes you double think your actions. Ie swearing or my wudu would break lol.

Before I even wore the hijab I was practising, more than people around me that wore the hijab. Hijab doesn’t make you more ‘religious’ than someone that doesn’t wear a hijab. By wearing the Hijab doesn’t mean they are a better person than someone that doesn’t wear a hijab. Its all about your intentions and your relation with our creator. Your imaan and you might be a better/kinder person than someone that wears a hijab.

Alhumdulliah I started wearing my Hijab early March, as I felt I was ready. I also stopped threading my brows and to this day I have not touched (Which is incredible for me!!)

“Plucking of women’s eyebrows is not permissible. That’s because the Messenger of Allaah (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) cursed the one who does it. It is haraam and is not permitted.” The evidence: 1) Removing or plucking the eyebrows implies changing the creation of Allaah, as Allaah tells us that the Shaytaan said:

“…..and indeed I will order them to change the nature created by Allaah.” [al-Nisa:119]

I am still learning and changing…This is why when I first put on the hijab I never covered my full hair. I’d rather go forward than backwards (as explained above).

Even though I don’t owe anyone an explanation as only my creator can judge me or know my true intentions (Talking to trolls) Some people see my instagram and see I covered my full hair and get shocked when I have my fringe out. But infact my every day-to-day life I dont fully cover my hair. The images that I have fully covered is because of the PR packages I get OR because events I attend and cause of convenience (As wearing a under cap under the hijab my scarf doesn’t slip back as I’m at an event for a long day). I also always show throwback (Which include my hair) because, it is impossible to remove any traces of my old pictures on the internet. I have been blogging for over 7/8 years so all my old content, vlogs and collaborations are public and on platforms I do not own. Second reason is I love memories and have the best old photos. Like suggested in my previous post, I found my imaan because of my past. and cause of that I am proud of my past. so Yes I do show old images but again that’s between me and my lord.

I am not here to preach or judge but explaining my hijab story and why I choose to wear it. For convenience purposes ie Keeping my Wudu, to be a ‘hijab’ to create a barrier from the opposite sex so they may lower their gaze, to humble myself by being modest about beauty and to keep my beauty for my husband only. And to show the world I am a proud ‘practicing’ Muslim woman. This is my journey and alhumduliallah with the strength from Allah SWT I feel this comfort and peace I have never felt in my life.

Disclosure: These options and thoughts are mine. I do apologies if this may offend anyone as that is not my intentions. I am sorry if some of the text might not be accurate but this is my interpretation.

This video really made me think about what the Hijab is: What does the Quran really say about a Muslim woman’s hijab? | Samina Alis https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_J5bDhMP9lQ

InshaAllah speak soon!

Sultana ❤

My Hijab story Hey Blogbees, So I am in two minds about writing this blog, as its my journey and I don't need to explain to anyone...and maybe writing it may come across as ignorant and arrogant but in reality this is how I got to were I am today.

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March 2019 – Protecting my Imaan

March 2019 – Protecting my Imaan

Mashallah we booked our Umrah in February.

I have been looking into visiting Makkah since November, the plan was everyone in the Miah household to go together. We have discussed it for a while, then January situation happened. Then I thought I wouldn’t be fit enough to go, we stopped our savings towards it as we thought it wasn’t going to happen, Then we booked a date for Jubbah & Ambia’s…

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February 2019 – Revive your heart

February 2019 – Revive your heart

Hey Blogbees! Thank you once again for all the love and support! Overwhelmed with the amount of women that have reached out Allumdulilah.

There is a sigma around talking about pregnancy, miscarriages, birthing and postnatal that as a Bangladeshi woman we don’t talk enough about. Like somethings wrong with the ‘woman’ or you’re not allowed to talk out loud or not allowed to be in pain, or its your…

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Hey blogbees! Alhumdulilah! Thank you for the lovely and positive messages regarding my last blog post!

Today let’s talk about an ectopic pregnancy.

‘ An ectopic pregnancy is when a fertilised egg implants itself outside of the womb, usually in one of the Fallopian tubes. … In the UK, around 1 in every 90 pregnancies is ectopic.’

Mashallah I breastfeed Ibrahim for 6 months, during this time you don’t need to take any contraception (for some mums) as when you breastfeed it releases some hormone and you don’t go through menstrual (ie don’t release eggs and don’t get periods bla bla). Due to this and my body was getting back to my normal cycle, I didn’t keep an eye on my menstrual.

I didn’t know I was pregnant.

On the 28th January I was 5 weeks pregnant, they did a key-hole surgery to remove the fertilised egg and removed my left Fallopian tube. In some cases which was my case…the Fallopian tube had ruptured and it was life threatening unless we operated ASAP.

We didn’t know I was pregnant. Few days before I was out for Ash’s bday and I was bloated to the point my sisters were like you gone fat hen. But I had no idea what my body was going through…

The morning of the 28th January Ibrahim woke up for his 7am milk, I bought him to my bed, and all of a sudden I felt faint, dizzy and couldn’t move. Initially I thought maybe I was dehydrated and I was constipated…(If you hear Hassys version of this you will laugh- cheeky get) but the pain was unbearable. Like I couldn’t lay down, I couldn’t stand and I couldn’t sit. I had my eyes shut, I had Ibrahim in one arm and I was hoping it will pass. With the little energy I had left I reached to my phone and called Hassy (she was in her room getting ready for work), I didn’t say anything so she assumed somethings wrong.

Ambulance came and during our ride they asked could you be pregnant. When I heard the silence and the silent nod towards both of the paramedics…I knew I was pregnant and something has gone wrong.

My worst memory is seeing my son upset and doing a sad face when I was crying in pain. I kept shouting at my mum to take him away. Children are innocent angels a ‘Pheresata’ they understand and know things…

…before I met my husband I was all about hashtag miss independent. I am a career woman, I want to travel and move abroad, big house nice car live my dream, maybe 1 child when I’m 35 and when wanted to settle down. But Tee changed me, when he first met my mummy friends Ash and Amrit he said I want a football team and was playing with their kids like they were his own nephew/niece. He just had this amazing glow about him and he literally changed what I wanted in life. A big family with this guy being the best dad in the world to my kids.

My heart was crushed.

A month before this incident, we both discussed we wouldn’t be disappointment if we fell pregnant (even though Ibrahim was 7 months at the time) Yes we don’t have our own house, yes we are not ‘financially stable’ yes we lived with his parents but we were content and happy. Cause Allah (SWT) has bigger and better plans for us and my sabr will pray off – maybe not in this world but maybe in the next. Having children is why we are in this dunya. To procreate… to have more followers of Islam. Not just to work, have career, and build a house for it to mean nothing in the afterlife. You can’t take these materialistic things in the afterlife. BUT you can take Deen..and you can hope to be with your family and children in the life Insha Allah.

I was drugged up on morphine, was hallucinating before the surgery…again my sisters can tell you some funny stories. (Facepalm emoji – why doesn’t wordpress have emojis and GIF!!!)

I woke up lost and heartbroken, husband just got into Edinburgh. I had my parents and my father-in-law in the room so I didn’t want to show how broken I was to them…wouldn’t be nice for any parent to see the state I was in, so I straight away stopped myself… but in the inside I was in pieces – How could something I didn’t even know about and wasn’t for my destiny make me feel this way???

That night Tee facetimed me whilst trying to put Ibrahim to sleep, again he was upset and sad seeing me. This is again one of Allah (SWT) miracles in life. Children, they know and understand everything. Especially a mother’s pain. Rukia sent me this…and it started to give me some peace, and I started doing research into Islamic studies about miscarriage and woman of Islam…this is when I notice a change in my mind set…..and now thinking back..change in my heart forever.

The recovery was a few weeks, luckily I was in Edinburgh with my mum. She helped me so much! Even wanted to stay with Ibrahim and let me rest. But you know how a mother is…I wanted to be close to my son. My mother-in-law was in Bangladesh at the time so I wouldn’t of got the help to recover like a did if this happened in Luton. Obviously this is all part of god’s plan and the timing of being at my Edinburgh home was how I managed to recover so quickly.

But that wasn’t the end…..

They said if I fall pregnant within the first 12 months there’s a high chance I may have another eptopic pregnancy, there’s a high chance I won’t fall pregnant easily again due to not having a Fallopian tube or there being complications…….and they also found a cyst on my right ovary….

Insha’Allah speak soon!

Sultana ❤

  January 2019 – Let’s talk about an ectopic pregnancy Hey blogbees! Alhumdulilah! Thank you for the lovely and positive messages regarding my last blog post!

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Hello, Its me again....

Hello, Its me again….

Hey blogbees! WOOOOW its been way to long since I wrote on this blog. I’m pretty disappointed in myself as I started this blog as a diary of my progression, life changes and growth. Then I completely stopped.

Being a blogger turned into being an Instagram influencer. Having the right content. Being consistent. My images being eye catching. Keeping to one topic so my followers get lost ie is it…

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Personalised Wedding Mirrors by @Superbhabi

Personalised Wedding Mirrors by @Superbhabi

Hey blogbees

I’ve started a new venture with an official business at @superbhabi ! All things DIY, tips and tricks and wedding inspirations!

Superbhabi specialise in: – Selfie frames – Personalised wedding mirror – Guestbook table set up – Personalised guestbook, wedding planner and hanger – Flower garlands (necklace, earrings and…

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Super Bhabi: Wedding DIY – Mehndi favours on a budget 

Wedding DIY – Mehndi favours 

Hey Blogbees,

If you don’t know but should know I enjoy and put in more effort in the Mehndi event than the wedding event. I feel its more manageable and easier to try and organise whilst a wedding you need to consider so much more ie the grooms side / brides side / culture / budget / time management bla bla bla blaaaaaaa

So for the mehndi I organised personalised…

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@superbhabi DIY Sweet jars

Hey dolls!

I’ve started a superbhabi page over on instagram for business and wedding inspiration purposes! Make sure your following! Thank you to all the support already!

My husbands brother had his nikkah done recently! And me being the bhabi I get to do all the fun stuff and create hampers/taals!

Here’s a quick easy DIY sweet jar tutorial for you!

All you need is

A box of jars (wilko 12 for £5)

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EID-Al-Fitr 2018

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It was my sons first Eid! As excited as I was I still get emotional not being at my mums on Eid. My son will have different Eid family traditions than me which is so sad to think about ☹️ but exciting to know we’ll be making our own traditions together! I miss having my mums chicken korma as an Eid special so my big sister made mums korma for her dinner!

Eid day 1

During the day I…

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What to pack in my hospital bag | NEW mums guide

What to pack in my hospital bag | NEW mums guide

What I packed in my hospital bag Bag 1 (mummy essentials)

sweets/chocolate/snacks for energy

stripy dressing gown or meexis (for delivery)

Next day Pjs / dressing gown

maternity pads

breast pads

disposable briefs

5x underwear

2x maternity bras

towel

slippers

spare plastic bags (for laundry)

phone charger/ipad charger

toiletry bag

shampoo

conditioner

body wash

hand towel

toothbrush

Toothpaste

deo…

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The Super Bhabi saree scarf | saree fashion | Hair up do

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Get ready with me postpartum | NEW MUM | iftar | Eid Makeup

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MaMa Miah Diaries Q&A | My Hummy | Sola 2 |

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NEW MUM ! Mamas&Papas vs Mothercare Review

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Breast pad review: for new mummy’s

Hey blogbees!!! First review with Mama Miah Diaries Whilst I prepare my boys feed I decided to write this quick review! I’ve tried three different types of breast pads and I can’t believe how finding the right breast pads can make such a difference in your day-to-day comfort. Boots Ultra Slim Breast Pads

Whilst packing for my hospital bag I saw boots had a 3 for 2 offer, which is when I grabbed…

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Baby Miahs Peter Rabbit Baby Shower 21st January 2018 Al-ḥamdu lillāh الحَمْدُ ِلله'‎ thank you Aunties-to-be truly spoilt! Thank you sisters for organising my baby shower!! #BabyMiah #unconditionallove