really insidious thing people do when dismissing people's transness, especially for autistic people, where they act like if your feeling of discomfort with gender comes mostly from it conflicting with how the world and people treats you and not some inherent innate feeling of gender "wrongness" you're actually just mistaking social discomfort for being trans.
and it's like gender is literally a series of social interactions and relationships, like i know people's conception of transness and dysphoria is super wrong and outdated anyway but legit seeing the "too autistic to be trans" shit and taking the idea of dysphoria and gender as some innate thing and not just social bs is frustrating. "you're not trans you're just autistic and constrained by cis gender and dumb rules" is the most insulting shit ever. like basically every time someone tries to pull the "you don't have to be trans u can just be ur assigned gender but weird with it" they're trying to stop someone being trans, they're not being helpful or kind.
https://archiveofourown.org/works/51863926 WARNING: this is a fic about drownchime betraying sonderfall and contains graphic verbal abuse and depictions of violence
alright guys I demand that you repost with your mommyclanners so that I can draw their likenesses thank you and have a nice day :outstretches hand demandingly: