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Happy (Belated) Birthday to the World's Greatest Magician!! Happy Birthday Kaito 🎉✨🎊🎁🪄

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the weirdly vengeful and petty tones aborted babies take in pro-life propaganda images are so funny like this passive aggressive "was it worth it mommy?" and "it's a shame you can't join me in heaven mommy 😔" like do you ever wonder if you were aborted for a reason you little bitch ass baby

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egg prime directive is obviously stupid and it should be kept in mind that most of this discourse is specifically about people's refusal to encourage, love, and support trans femmes. That said, I think people have sometimes arrived at a reaction against the egg prime directive position that is oversimplified for rhetorical purposes but not helpful.

Not every form of egg cracking behavior is beneficial, I think we can all agree on that. some people genuinely are pushy and invasive about it, and make your theoretical transition about them and their regret over having not started sooner, and having a bit of that energy directed toward me early in transition was genuinely upsetting and made transitioning harder! I was in far too raw & uncertain a spot to have yet another person telling me what to do, especially with urgency. You don't try and push a person to transition for the same reason you don't push a domestic violence victim to leave their abuser: because their primary problem is the complete lack of agency that they have experienced, and you don't get someone to develop more confidence in themselves and agency in how they move about the world by telling them what to do. You get there by supporting them in expressing themselves, honoring boundaries that nobody else has respected, building trust, not getting inappropriately emotionally involved, and giving them resources.

And like, are the majority of egg cracking experiences more of something like that than anything the egg prime directive scolds are talking about? Probably, yeah! But let's be honest here, we have all met someone who prides themselves on the number of people they have cracked to a weird and badly boundaried degree and whose tactics include a lot of pushing and disbelieving a person's defense mechanisms. Having a transition that is not fully your own because another person has made it their project really sucks the joy and personal victory out of what should be an empowering journey! Sometimes people genuinely do put out incorrect, far too prescriptive information and don't allow the newly budding trans person to find themselves, and that is real ugly behavior. That's not a fake problem, a lot of us are traumatized and filled with regrets and don't know how to form respectful relationships at first and it shows sometimes in how we treat other trans people, esp the vulnerable, which includes eggs and the newly exploring and out.

It's not that egg cracking is bad or to be avoided; if you're just out and friendly to other gender variant people you're bound to crack several eggs. I certainly have. But none of that removes our obligation to think about how we are doing it, and whether we are treating people who are in a really scary period in life with adequate respect. We want their early transitions to go well, better than ours ever did. Having a supportive mentor can be a huge part of that! And a supportive mentor knows how to offer help without pressure, creates a space of safe reflection and sharing, and celebrates the transitioning person's wins as a victory for the transitioning person, not themselves. It is not all that difficult to do egg cracking right, an emotionally mature person with enough social supports in their own life should be able to do it.

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i find people who express frequent reckless disregard for their bodies are often riding roughshod over an unacknowledged disability. there is a really powerful sense of "my body is going to ruin everything if I stop and feel it" that one can develop at a young age in a rigid ableist society. one needs no consciousness of their own disability to just kinda build on that forever until reality hits you something like a bug on a windscreen and you find the party's over forever.

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To the best boy ever!!

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Would you rather have a Phineas and Ferb summer or a Gravity Falls summer?

would you rather have endless fun forever or have satan attack you every day

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Lol when i say I grew up in Texas people always ask “did you go to the coast a lot?” Ummm no...no I did not

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forever grateful i was simply too lazy to let the makeup industrial complex get its hooks in me. I was just like im not doing all of that. in fact. im doing none of that

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saw some tiktoks making fun of girls who want to wear revealing clothes in public while in a relationship and I just want to say if you love her and she loves you why do you care. "what if another guy tries to get intimate with her" just kill him? what happened to chivalry

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the whole "lipstick on a pig" thing makes no sense because the second we gave a pig access to makeup she became god's cuntiest soldier

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you bottle Miette??

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honestly fucking fascinating that people will pretty universally understand that thin people can be naturally predisposed to thinness regardless of what they eat or their activity level, but that so many of the same people cannot possibly fathom that fat people could have similar dispositions or that there could be any factors more complex than a "lack of self control."

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Medical fatphobia has a body count several miles long. They literally don't care about your health as long as you're not fat. Fatness is seen a bigger concern than actual illnesses.

How can you claim that being fat is bad on the assumption that it increases your risk factor for certain diseases, while completely fucking ignoring fat people's concerns when they present with symptoms of those illnesses.

Additionally, we know that weight gain is symptomatic of many illnesses, but when fat people present with other symptoms of those exact same illnesses, instead of getting treatment they're told to just lose weight.

Imagine going to the doctor with a cough, but they refuse to test you for any of the illnesses that cause coughing, until you stop coughing.

Then they prescribe you nothing but cough syrup and question your lifestyle choices when that alone doesn't help you stop coughing.

They insist all of your other symptoms are just side effects of the coughing, and refuse to consider otherwise until you stop coughing.

Telling patients to lose weight instead of engaging directly with the symptoms they're presenting is torture and frequently also a death sentence. Ending fatphobic bias saves lives.

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When TERFs moan about chopping off healthy parts, I just think about how technically my top surgery also doubled as breast cancer intervention because I found a lump as I was preparing to undergo surgery and the amount of [ultimately benign] tumors they found in the tissue I had removed would still have warranted fairly dramatic surgery.

I didn't even know I had tumors until I was part of the way through the process of chopping them off anyway. "Healthy"? Or did I find and prevent the early stages of cancer by doing so in the first place?

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i feel like we dont point out that its christian doctrine that god thinks we all deserve to burn for eternity for the crime of being born and the only way he'd forgive us is if we completely and utterly devote our lives to him. what a fucking prick.

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