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🗣️ Adab in Speech and Communication

Etiquette related to speech and communication.

Key Concepts:

Truthfulness (Sidq): Being honest and truthful in all communications. Advanced understanding involves understanding the different types of lies and their varying degrees of severity.

Avoiding Gossip (Ghibah): Refraining from speaking ill of others behind their backs. Advanced understanding involves understanding the different forms of gossip and their implications.

Avoiding Backbiting (Namimah): Refraining from spreading rumors and discord among people. Advanced understanding involves understanding the different forms of backbiting and their implications.

Kindness in Speech: Speaking kindly and respectfully to others. Advanced understanding involves understanding the importance of using appropriate language and tone.

Controlling Anger: Managing one's anger and avoiding impulsive reactions. Advanced understanding involves understanding the different techniques for managing anger.

Patience in Communication: Being patient and understanding when communicating with others. Advanced understanding involves understanding the importance of active listening and empathy.

Seeking Consultation (Shura): Seeking advice and counsel from trusted individuals before making important decisions. Advanced understanding involves understanding the importance of seeking diverse perspectives.

Accepting Advice: Being open to receiving advice and criticism from others. Advanced understanding involves understanding the importance of self-reflection and humility.

Giving Advice (Nasiha): Offering sincere and constructive advice to others. Advanced understanding involves understanding the importance of tact and empathy.

Forgiveness: Forgiving those who have wronged you. Advanced understanding involves understanding the spiritual benefits of forgiveness.

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the world is heartbreaking every day and the world is beautiful every day and we have to pay attention to both

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❤️

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It could all be in the palm of your hands but still not written for you.

—Destiny

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True Love

by Sharon Olds

In the middle of the night, when we get up after making love, we look at each other in complete friendship, we know so fully what the other has been doing. Bound to each other like mountaineers coming down from a mountain, bound with the tie of the delivery room, we wander down the hall to the bathroom, I can hardly walk, I wobble through the granular shadowless air, I know where you are with my eyes closed, we are bound to each other with huge invisible threads, our sexes muted, exhausted, crushed, the whole body a sex—surely this is the most blessed time of my life, our children asleep in their beds, each fate like a vein of abiding mineral not discovered yet. I sit on the toilet in the night, you are somewhere in the room, I open the window and snow has fallen in a steep drift, against the pane, I look up, into it, a wall of cold crystals, silent and glistening, I quietly call to you and you come and hold my hand and I say I cannot see beyond it. I cannot see beyond it.

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oh yeah heres my collection of 2021 headlines that i forgot to post when the year ended

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“Five things to do before you get out of bed. 1- Express gratitude. 2- Set your intentions for the day. 3- Take five long deep breaths in & out. 4- Smile for no reason just flex the muscle. 5- Forgive yourself for yesterdays mistakes.”

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Could willingly waste my time in it.

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“I crave the most innocent parts of a relationship. Like holding hands, forehead kisses and being able to tell someone how much I adore them…”

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“If a writer falls in love with you, you can never die but live forever.”

— Michelle Devani

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The first time I saw her, I would say she was a fragment of the moon, an arched and silent smile… “full of enchantment, alchemy and tenderness”. Art Jeremy Sams.

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“But just because you’re strong and resilient doesn’t mean you never need someone to be there for you, to take care of you.”

— Tammara Webber

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I know a lot of lesbians that used to identify as bi who worried that coming out as a lesbian would contribute to invalidating bisexuality in some way, by making it seem like a “stepping stone” to coming out as gay. I’ve also known bi women who identified as lesbians and changed their labels later, and worried that they were contributing to some kind of idea about how men can ~turn lesbians. I just wanted to say that it’s no individual lesbian or bi women’s responsibility to fix straight people’s perceptions of us. Like, it’s not your duty to serve as a political symbol! It’s your duty to find happiness even if that means changing ur label at some points.

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“Sometimes, you just want / something so hard you have to lie about it, / so you can hold it in your mouth for a minute, / how real hunger has a real taste.”

— Ada Limón, Bright Dead Things; “Lies About Sea Creatures”

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“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself, the challenge is to silence the mind.”

— Book of serenity

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إذا ما جاء الفراق يوما وجاء بعد الفراق الحنين ندما فلا تنس أن تغمس فرشاة الذكرى في ماء جرحك الملون وترسم وجه الحنين ضاحكا ولا تحزن ولا تجزع إذا ما بدا لك الوجه برغم الضحكة هزيلا فكل الجروح بعد جرح الفراق تبدو تافهة

If parting comes one day, And after came longing, regretting,

Don't forget to plunge memory's brush

Into your wounds murky waters

And draw longing's laughing face

And don't be sad Or freak out

If the face seems,

Even if laughing, miserable

For all wounds after parting's

Seem petty

- Shahrazad al-Khalij “إذا ما جاء الفراق يوما”