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If you claim to support plurals you have to put in work to understand us. “I don’t understand but I support” does not apply here. Plurality affects all aspects of our lives and you need to treat it as such. Support without understanding is meaningless.

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something cool happened today. I thought it’d be nice to share.

so, in real life, we’re pretty open about being plural. we wear name and pronoun bracelets everywhere. we wear a “plural pride” bracelet everywhere. our phone case has two sides—one says “the future is plural”, the other says “without a doubt, us”, both with the plural rings in the background.

today, our professor complimented our phone case. I asked if she knew what it meant, and she guessed it was something non-binary related (which I find funny—“the future is plural, like they/them, right?”). I told her the truth. what plurality is. I showed her our bracelets.

you know what she did? she said, “oh, cool. so what name should I call you? it’s not weird if I like, look at your bracelets every day, right?”

I could’ve cried on the spot. I almost did. I just said that she was fine, she could call us our legal name or the one on our bracelets, either worked.

being openly plural is scary. we’ve had a few people look at us strangely, a few friends have cut us off. but fuck is it incredible sometimes. when people are open to learning. when another professor told me about how his wife had DID, and he thought it was similar to what I was describing. that was awesome. this was too. <333

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what movies only show "hearing voices" is like:

they won't stop..... the voices...... they're telling me to do awful, awful things and they just. won't. stop. i have to listen to them. i have to murder. murder. kill. murder. kill.

what it's usually like:

okay, what do we want to eat?

street tacos street tacos street tacos street

a salty fish filet sounds sooo good

tacos street tacos street tacos street tacos

can we have some sweets,,?

street tacos street tacos street tacos street

i could really go for some pasta

tacos street tacos street tacos street tacos

it's been a while since we had a fresh salad.

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Shout out to me and the other co-host who are going through the same crisis except in the opposite directions ("Oh no I'm used to stress how do I deal with daily life" vs "Oh no I'm used to daily life how do I deal with stress")

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Hello! I am a non-binary person and I saw your post from a few days ago about binary people blaming us when supporting us gets more complicated then just changing words around, and I was curious if you had any examples? I'm currently in a place where it's not safe for me to be out in most areas of my life, and I was just curious about what challenges I'm not aware of because I'm not there yet. I hope that makes sense lol, thank you!

Off the top of my head:

Having a trans-inclusive bathroom policy in a workplace or school, but still having gendered bathrooms

Having gendered groups & resources which rely on the idea that being a man means you aren't a woman or being a woman means you aren't a man, or that everyone in a gendered space is a binary person, and shutting down or removing nonbinary people who express their nonbinary wo/manhood

Having gendered groups & resources for men & women, but providing nothing specific to any group of nonbinary people

Expecting nonbinary people to quietly recloset themselves in important events or emergencies

Expecting nonbinary people to be endlessly accepting of being misgendered and excluded, never get upset, never criticize exorsexist behavior or structures

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i can't be the only one who's just straight-up ... bored with women hating themselves. my mom keeps lamenting to me how upset she is about her gray hair. my friend stares at her laugh lines every day in agony. my sister loses sleep over the horrible unbearable thought of looking fat. and every time these women i love open up to me, i can't help but think ... then stop staring at yourself? stop drowning yourself, narcissus, and just fucking live your life instead of sitting in front of a mirror obeying cosmetic corporations' lies. just stop it. this is getting ridiculous. you're too smart to be falling for this bullshit. "oh no but these men who hate women told me that if i'm ugly i'm worthless!" girl if you actually believe that then good luck. but i am getting worse at being supportive of people whose nonsense worldviews keep them trapped in pain. stop looking at yourself start fucking living i am pleading you deserve to be happy and it is stupid that you disagree

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Dear mods... thank you for running this blog, and this ask might come off as desperate at first but it's really funny once you think about it in hindsight.

The thing is; I have alters, which have their own states of being, they can switch to the front and even some of them have their specific phantom sensation, some have their own writing styles, they have their own belongings in my room, their own social media accounts, we have a headspace, we have a subsystem AND they have their own headspace, I can talk to some in the headspace, we have shared and non-shared memories, in fact one of my headmates is reading this with me (can't let him know of all the intrasys on this blog or he'll get freaky with it though) and yet...

I fear that one day it'll turn out that all of this is not real.

Does it ever get better?

Yeah, I think so. We still have the rare off day where we feel tinges of that "you're pushing it" or "surely this is a bit fabricated" feeling - especially when we're experimenting with something new.

It's always a possible feeling, but i think it gets less frequent and especially I think it loses its bite - the different way I'm wording it probably shows some of that already.

For one, external support is huge - someone who knows you who can smack sense into you when you're worried that experiences they've SEEN HAPPEN are somehow complete acts is a serious help. Hell, having someone that sees you at all takes such a weight off - if you're stuck being the only one seeing yourself/ves, it can take a real toll trying to stay confident in what you're feeling.

But also, I think your definitions change? Your personal perceptions and experience actually matter a lot. Early on its easy to get caught up in this narrative of objective "realness" and be scared of delusions. But over time it's like - you are having this experience right now. you're there. you're in the experience, you're accepting it. you're talking to a gimmick blog on the internet about it. It's too late, you can't erase it anymore. If you say tomorrow you realised you're actually just a singlet, that's fine, but you will still have been plural today - not even you can take that away from you.

Lastly, and this is gonna sound dumb but, just plain old exposure. We've been going for three years now and we've seen ourselves shrug off all kinds of junk. We've had fronts stick for weeks and completely forgotten what switching feels like, only to have it happen out of boredom or external stimulus and be shocked to feel the cog move again. We've repeatedly assumed things about ourselves only to then realise that we are wrong and that the system works differently to the way we think it does. At this point, suddenly being a singlet would be like starting from scratch - our being a system is so much of us, being "wrong" just isn't as thinkable.

idk, I love us, and I think other people do too. try unrealize that.

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Stop pitting bad bitches against eachother and start supporting your siblings with stigmatized disorders!

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I've always had chronic fatigue. I remember being twelve, and an adult mentioned how I couldn't possibly know how tired they felt because adulthood brought levels of exhaustion I couldn't imagine. I thought about that for days in fear, because I couldn't remember the last time I didn't feel tired.

Eventually I came to terms with the fact that I was just tired, and I couldn't do as many things as everyone else. People called me lazy, and I knew that wasn't true, but there's only so many times you can say "I'm tired" before people think it's an excuse. I don't blame them. When a teenager does 20 hours of extracurriculars every week and only says "I'm too tired" when you ask them to do the dishes, it's natural to think it's an excuse. At some point, I started to think the same thing.

It didn't matter that I could barely sit up. It was probably all in my head, and if I really wanted to, I could do it.

When I learned the name for it, chronic fatigue, I thought wow, people that have that must be miserable, because I am always tired and I cannot imagine what it would feel like if it were worse.

Spoiler alert, if you've been tired for a decade, it's probably chronic fatigue.

Once I figured that out though, I thought of my energy as the same as everyone else's, just smaller in quantity. And that might be true for some people, but I've figured out recently that it absolutely isn't true for me.

I used to be like wow I have so much energy today I can do this whole list for sure! And then I'd do the dishes and have to lay down for 2 hours. Then I'd think I must gave misjudged that, I didn't have as much energy as I thought.

But the thing is - I did have enough energy for more tasks, I just didn't go about them properly.

With chronic fatigue, your maximum energy is obviously much smaller than the average person's. Doing the dishes for you might use up the same percentage of energy that it takes to do all the daily chores for someone else.

If someone without chronic fatigue was to do all the daily chores, they would take breaks. Because otherwise, they're sprinting a marathon for no reason and it would take way more energy than necessary. We have to do the same.

Put the cups in the dishwasher, take a break. Put the bowls in, take a break. So on and so forth. This may mean taking breaks every 2-5 minutes but afterwards, you get to not feel like you've run a marathon while carrying 4 people on your back.

Today, I had a moderate amount of energy. Under my old system of go till you drop, I probably could have done most of the dishes and wiped off the counter and then been dead to the world for the rest of the day.

Under the new system, I scooped litter boxes, cleaned out the fridge, took the trash out, cleaned the stove, and wiped off the counter and did all the dishes. And after all that, I still had it in me to make a simple dinner, unload the dishwasher, and tidy the kitchen.

It was complete and utter insanity. Just because I sat down whenever I felt myself getting more tired than I already was.

All this to say, take fucking breaks. It's time to unlearn the ceaseless productivity bullshit that capitalism has shoved down our throats. Its actively counterproductive. Just sit down. Drink some water. Rest your body when it needs to rest.

There will still be days where there is nothing to do but rest, and days where half a load of dishes is absolutely the most I can do. But this method has really helped me minimize those, which is so incredibly relieving.

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hot take enby & intersex people dont deserve to be misgendered in the process of looking for hrt resources because you guys wanna make e and t the "girl" and "boy" hormones and only think about perisex peoples transitions

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why did no one tell me quantum computers looked like that

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i fucking miss you Harmony.

i hope we can build a life you're happy to wake up to.

theres such an expectation of the host as a "real" and "normal" one and i think its because or related to the general idea of DID, plurality, and neurodivergency in general as like, a curable infection. like, the flu, you know? i think a lot of people really think therapy is supposed to give you medicine that makes you Normal™ and thats why people complain when it takes too long or whatever.. anyway i think its related because, people see alters as just, symptoms of the curable infection they think plurality is, and think the host is "the one whos ACTUALLY real/the body/person i know" instead of seeing plurality as the way we are.

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theres such an expectation of the host as a "real" and "normal" one and i think its because or related to the general idea of DID, plurality, and neurodivergency in general as like, a curable infection. like, the flu, you know? i think a lot of people really think therapy is supposef to give you medicine that makes you Normal™ and thats why people complain when it takes too long or whatever.. anyway i think its related because, people see alters as just, symptoms of the curable infection they think plurality is, and think the host is "the one whos ACTUALLY real/the body/person i know" instead of seeing plurality as the way we are.

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they are estrogen and testosterone. they are estrogenizing and androgenizing hrt. stop fucking calling them transfem and transmasc hrt. stop fucking calling them mtf and ftm hrt. stop fucking calling them feminizing and masculinizing hrt. stop going out of your way to exclude non-binary and intersex people.

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T-shirt that says "I fronted to be here"