#← for blacklisting purposes. do Not try to argue with me bc i am right and will not listen + you will get blocked. amen

[kisiselintihar]

STOP CALLING NAHIDA WANDERER'S MOM STOP MAKING EVERY SINGLE FEMALE CHARACTER A CARETAKER OF MEN SHE IS A DEEPLY TRAUMATIZED INDIVIDUAL SHE IS NOT A FUCKING PARENTAL FIGURE TO HIM

[anotherfrenchwarrior]

I just hate Spike haters.

Of course I hate all haters, that’s why, when I don’t like a character or a ship, I try really hard not to think about it and not to harass anyone about it. And it shouldn’t be difficult honestly. But I also understand that sometimes you can let yourself be too carried away. So I try to always remember that words can hurt if you don’t watch them very closely.

Haters don’t care about that, and it’s even worse for me with Spike haters (and Spuffy haters) because I was a big fan of Spike (still am) and a big fan of Buffy. I was a spuffy shipper, and I understood what was wrong and what was right in their relationship.

But man, Spike haters... how to describe Spike haters ? It seems like they only care about the two, maybe three first seasons of Buffy. Then it changed and they didn’t like it, so they’re bashing on all the other fans. And since then, which was in the late 1990s, they’re still angry at the world because the story didn’t evolve like they wanted. Not only that of course, bc I wouldn’t care if it was just them being angry at the world, no they’re also harassing people on everything they can find about Spike.

I watched some reaction videos today, about a girl watching Btvs for the first time. And of course, like a lot of us, she loved Spike. Well you can imagine what was the reaction of haters in her comments (”I don’t understand why anyone can love him” “you’re annoying when he’s on screen” etc.). Why would anyone took the time to write things like that ? What purpose behind this ? Do they think they can make her unlove a character bc they said so ?

And I’m not even talking about everything throwed at us when we try do defend him (we all have those discussions I think, about how we were monsters). Which is a mistake : don’t argue with them because they’re not viewers anymore, they’re just haters.

The saddest part is that Spike is still one of the favorite character on this show (among others), and yet we cannot have any discussion about the serie without the subject (the endless “Spike was bad !” rhetoric) being brought up. I was still very young when the serie ended, and I remember how I couldn’t talk about any of it (and even to this day) because the fandom properly sucked. I didn’t feel safe in this fandom. Still don’t. 

And it’s horrible to have a fandom divided like this. So today, I really try not to let ships and characters coming between fans and in some of my fandoms, everyone is quite polite and ships who they want... but I’m feeling more and more like this “old mentality” (that I only ever saw in Btvs back in the days) is now part of the fandom life for everyone. And this isn’t a good way to enjoy a fandom, so I can only recommend the “blocked” option and the blacklisted tags.