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vaguely-concerned · 16 days ago

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there's a self-help/mental health adjacent post that's going around and it seems to be really helpful for a lot of people which is very good. I also personally hate it with all my fucking heart

#it's the anhedonia one btw lmao #if i. have to be exposed to one more goddamn cbt-ass advice post in my life. I will start tearing throats out with my teeth #and I will have earned the right to because I've been through the fucking TRENCHES over the years man #I think it's the appeal to urgency at the end however ruefully humorously packaged that ohohoho. really grrrrinds my gears.#this is obviously not what the person is trying to do with that but the unavoidable implication that the reason you might still #be suffering is that you just haven't tried hard enough to change to like things to open your eyes... hey. respectfullly. fuck off #peak advice for mild to moderate symptoms of mental illness thoughtlessly presented as universally applicable #without any consideration for the deeper thing you're saying -- that if someone is in a real bad way and DOESN'T get better #it's their own responsibility and they just haven't tried hard enough. in trying to be kind you are being so desperately cruel #to the people who are struggling the most. bitch I am fucking GREAT at liking things! it's one of my best skills!! I'm generally curious!#my capacity for enthusiasm and intellectual joy over any old thing that strikes my fancy is legendary and often I suspect quite annoying!!!#so when anhedonia completely envelops me I know it's a sign of something else and bigger going on in the background #it's not a choice. the brain is not solely a cognitive machine!! you cannot fix everything that can go awry with it by Thinking Better!!!#cbt must be great for the people it's great for and I'm sincerely genuinely glad for it. less suffering in the world is great #but it is a way of thinking that is a hammer and you just have to hope like fuck your problem is a nail. because otherwise #you're bruised from being beaten with hammers and the additional shame of what's wrong with you that it's not helping #and again I recognize very keenly that this is not a space meant entirely for me. people sharing resources that amn are not about me #is not only fine it's good it's great! however. it'd also be nice to not get thrown under the fucking bus for once #because my presence fully expressed is an uncomfortable reminder of the things we *cannot* control about our own brains lmao #I'm lucky that I've been in the game long enough and have enough resources to start to smell the bullshit here but...#the pain 'losing years' induces in you when you don't have *a fucking choice* -- because it's not a matter of willpower #or positive thinking or changing your mindset. you're just sick. in a way medicine hasn't quite figured out how to help yet.#well. maybe. maybe don't put that on someone huh. maybe don't make their 'lost years' to depression and doomscrolling or whatever #'their own fault'. I kind of think that's possible to do without submitting to doomposting. is all.#(I feel the same about the 'resting vs. rotting' idea. well friend sometimes the best I can hope for is some gentle rotting #thanks for introducing this layer of disgust and condemnation to the general despair. it's added a patina)#this might actually be the first time I've managed to hold on to my own anger about this rather than it getting drowned out by shame tho #which as steps forward go. *sigh* it's not a moon landing is it. but a small step for man nevertheless I suppose

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