#I'm trying to be inclusive while also avoiding agab language

[anti-terf-posts]

is it just me that's disappointed how people in more mainstream feminism are seeming to forget that ANY sort of painting people perceived as women/with vaginas as inherently frail and lacking agency because of who we/our bodies are *is, and has always been oppressive, and fundamentally antithetical to feminism as a whole?* even if it's unintentional/well-intentioned in the context of misogynistic violence?

One of the larger issues I have with it is that it essentially puts the blame on people with vaginas for being assaulted. It gives the same vibes as the people who tell you that sexual assault is bound to happen in your life and there's no way to avoid it. (Please note the difference between that and "Most people with vaginas face sexual harassment and assault at some point in their lives") I guess what I'm getting at is that it's a very defeatist way of looking at life. Like people with penises who are sexually violent don't assault because they're stronger, they do it because they're evil (sorry not sorry).

And going back to the part about it being defeatist, it's honestly depressing because you see so many people with vaginas (typically ones starting puberty) being discouraged from pursuing physical activities as a career. Hell, even physical activities for fun! And this is simply because they have vaginas! So they're considered weaker, as if there's no hope for them to become stronger and more active. Which, by the way, leads them to be less motivated, so they end up being less active, and they become weaker as life goes on, which perpetuates the stereotype of them being the weaker sex. It's a vicious cycle!

If you have a child with a vagina, encourage them! Tell them to pursue their interest in physical activities! It's good for them, and in the long run they'll have a longer and more fulfilling life.