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[miss-soph-star]

Hi princess 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

Oh okay i knew what disserations are, but at first i didn't get it lol i was at a party when i read that and today i'm hungover as shit

Well i'm glad you took that huge weight off your shoulders. I still have to do mine and it'll probably take me two years to finish uni in general

lol so much rant

I know the songs you recommended and i like them very much. Now that you mention sister by she wants revenge, what about sister but by Mac Demarco?

I'm not familiar with the bands you said after the songs, i'll snoop into them. Any particular songs of them to start with?

Now, I have a question for you

What is it about the "good girl" thing? I know it's a very treasured term in the bdsm community and now that i'm finally embracing my domme nature, i want to fully understand the meaning and importance of it.

Calling someone a good girl used to make me uncomfortable bc people also call those things to little girls and pets in a different context obviously, but for now i haven't been able to rip apart that context from the praise kink context

However i do like to call you that bc you really seem that good

Anyways lots of rambling lmao hope you have a good day💜

- ☯️

(Pd oh about the nickname or whatever let me think about that bc i have doubts as well, i have honorific names that i like but idk if it's appropiate to share them with you? Lmk)

Hi darling,

I hope you’re feeling a little better soon & you enjoyed your party! As for your dissertation & uni work, I’m sure you’ll be absolutely amazing! I’ll answer your question first and then below I’ll leave some song recommendations <3

Before I get started, I want to tag some accounts who’ve really helped me on my journey. As a submissive, I don’t have experience as a domme, so I feel it would be better to sign post you to these accounts, which will allow you to develop a better understanding from that side of the dynamic. I hope you all don’t mind me tagging you <3

@madamejadex educational posts are great for delving into different areas of BDSM, and I highly recommend having a look!

@blue-willow-tree also another amazing blog to look at, if your wanting advice and amazing writing skills!

@sapphiconherknees - my favourite submissive bestie! Who’s account is full of great writings, and understanding submission from another perspective to mine

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So for me ‘good girl’ is more of a term of endearment and praise. I’ve had partners in the past who’ve used it both sexually/ non-sexually depending on the moment.

For example dropping it into conversation randomly knowing it will get a reaction is something ex partners have used. It either sends me running straight to bed or I blush completely and start stumbling over my words.

As for sexually, if a partner called me ‘my good girl’ or ‘your such a good girl’ that to me is almost a form of thanks and lets me know I’m doing the best I can for my domme, because for me knowing I’m pleasing them and doing my best is what makes me feel not only cared for and appreciate, but really makes the whole experience perfect.

I’d also say for me, as someone who experiences what I would say quite a deep sub space, where I go from very vocal to unable to get my words out, ‘good girl’ is a phrase that tips me into the space very quickly, and I pull the best please from sinking to that place. For me that space is very hazy, quiet and I sometimes find my vision blurs slightly, but it’s different for everyone and even for me it changes depending on how safe I feel or what I’m doing at the time. I’ll include some links to other blogs who explain this in more detail and from other perspectives.

To end my ramble, I can see your struggle in separating the two but ‘good girl’ for me personally is just another term of thanks and endearment, which used by the correct people makes me feel appreciated and held, just as other terms work for other people.

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*as for honourifics, I’m not comfortable using those unless your an account I am familiar with and have been able to understand your personality through your posts. And on that note, I will only use certain honourifics to address people that are within both of our boundaries. There are also certain honourifics I would never used outside of an in person dynamic where I felt genuine connection with the person. Feel free to send your list over and I’m more than happy to look through them.*

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I’ve just listened to your recommendation and I think it’s a really sweet, calm song so thank you for that!

As for the bands, maybe start with the most common songs:

- Soft Cell - Tainted Love

- Siouxsie & the Banshees - The Passenger/Spellbound

- Fingers Eleven - Paralyzer

- Divinyls - I Touch Myself

- Annie Lennox / Eurythmics - Sweet Dreams/ Here Comes The Rain Again

- Tears for Fears - Mad World

- New Order - Blue Monday