#and i'm okay! i've blocked the people who've been nasty! i just like to come on here to have fun so i'm turning anon off for a bit

[piratecaptainscaptainpirates]

Heyyy, I'm gonna be turning off anon asks for a bit. I think one of my posts where I talk about how refreshing OFMD is for me as a poc got screenshotted or something and I'm just getting a lot of nasty asks about it and I just don't have time for that.

And I've just had a lot of people come into my askbox demanding to know what my race is since I just identify myself as "not White" or as a poc most of the time, and I thought this could maybe be a teachable moment. Some people have been using the fact that I speak Hebrew/Yiddish as my first languages to insist that I must ""really"" be White and dear lord if you think that I just want you to examine why you're so insistent that Jews have to be white.

I usually just identify myself as "not White" online because I'm mixed, several non-White races. My family is mostly Ethiopian Jewish. Most Ethiopian Jewish families like mine moved to Israel in the twentieth century, my family did in the 1950s and mostly later moved to the US but we still speak Hebrew. It is not fucking weird to be a Black guy who speaks Hebrew as a first language and the fact that some people think that is a big part of why I choose not to elaborate on my race in the first place.

Anyway. Just, like, if you feel the need to harrass some random poc on the Internet until they tell you their exact racial makeup you need to do some self-reflection about that because it is, first, none of your business, and also just a wildly racist thing to do to someone because they said they found a TV show to have great representation.

[villains4hire]

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//Hoo, I've got one that's semi-nsfw related I've been saving until I could properly describe it. It's one thing being bias against people with different genitals compared to say 'a trans woman or man' to not have sex with because people have to deal with internalized societal bias from an early age, maybe you're still recovering and trying to be better. Good, good for you and I'm happy for you that you even care. But if you're open with that and toward me to have me validate your ingrained trans med bs? I'm sure as hell not going to trust you or want to interact with you unless I know you deeply. And I do deal with this ooc on here quietly and just ignore and block people when I can discern it tbh for smut or people try to make me play 'validate my trans med feelings pls or friends/partners being like that' therapy for them or when it's like 'something open as an rp or for a smut starter'. But so long as you acknowledge the bias, no one cares who you date the majority of the time, so long as you keep them from being awful to other people that way as well in any shit takes they have to say on the matter. But honestly, don't be surprised if people drop you for hanging around transphobic people that are trans friends of yours, that's unfair expectations (this includes people who reclaim trans women slurs they're not entitled to lol that are afab). But yeah. No one is telling you to have sex with or smut with anyone that doesn't align to what you want, but if you're attracted to someone and the only turn off is their gender identity once knowing it? Then you're pretty weak, no joke. Tolerable possibly, but weak. And you're not worth my time and effort to specifically confine into really, really stupidly unfair double standards for your comfort if you want smut. More below as this is getting long.

//But it's especially nasty if you come for trans women and men knowingly and demand them to be post op. This extends to ooc as I've had people who've wanted my muses to be post op or conform in some way if not exactly a trans woman character. I don't tolerate that shit. Like, just go somewhere else if you want something like that. There's plenty of people with cis muses that can offer that lmao who won't have to devalue themselves for any amount of self-respect. I say this because this extends to trans muses and is directed at cis muns who want certain aspects of muses from me if they're not entirely trans women aligned, but beings such as Tuki or Verosika who have either both or no default genitals are what I'm talking about or even characters like Vortex who don't really have a gender other than being masculine defined. As it's okay to have a problem with getting it yourself into a crevice you may not want, even trans people have that problem sometimes. But don't expect trans people to have their muses conform to what you want from a cis perspective, let alone specifically like one aspect of a more hermaphroditic muse as Tuki having a form of 'both' for genitals. I've met plenty of people who are willing to simply bang my muses in any designated crevice but not willing to have their muse take it, which is fine, that's preference, but I don't let people ignore the other half of my muses whether trans aligned or not. As people who have problems like this who want something changed or to ignore a muse's genital set probably have some form of trans med stuff in their mind that you need certain parts to be a gender. Which, you know is transphobic and against actual National Health Organizations and Human Rights in sentiment that have separated the concept of Physical Sex and Gender regardless of what you believe and see.

//I don't even mind if someone just wants to dick my characters but not have theirs take it themselves. I've never had this problem with cis women or afab people. It's usually cis men? I know there's a lot of pressures but surprise surprise: it's not gay to like women with a dick if you're a man. I wouldn't be surprised if some people have problems and just don't say anything or seek me out because of it even not a cis man. But I know when there's bias and so do other trans women or trans men, we don't bother to stick around when we see it. Or on the opp end as I can def tell when ppl are trying to have me fill out a futa/trap fetish for them, you're not sneaky lol. Only people open and honest with me get to support me reclaiming things if I want and I know they're genuine. I'll probably even ask if I like you enough.

//I guess like, I don't even mind muses that change genitals that consider themselves cis? But never put the double standard toward me of ignoring my muse's genitals when you literally changed your muse's to that. It doesn't make it any less gay of a woman with a dick banging another woman at all without or with one or vice versa with men for a vagina. It comes off as pretty damn privileged if I'm gonna be honest if you can't at least bend my trans women over or accept both aspects of more hermaphroditic muses or shapeshifting ones at the same time or even like, just muses that aren't human and don't use those concepts but are fine with certain pronouns.

//So yeah. Not hard to do, but people fall over that low bar with me a lot.