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#and then you find a lesbian community and they're immediately concerned with making sure no one is ever 'gross'
gendercensus · 2 years
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hi! i love the new proposed system -- i have concerns about some of the common 30+ terms being taken down. specifically androgyne, butch, and transsexual. in my experience, at least, these are terms very commonly used by older folks (50+) and/or in rural areas without queer communities.
id be worried about alienating a large portion of older people with the removal of these. im not exactly sure how to resolve this? but terms like these have been used since the early 20th century, and will likely have been what many queer folk will have grown up and identify as. maybe an exception for terms that have been in use for 30+ years? or some other time-minimum?
i love taking this survey every year, thank you so much for doing it!! it provides such important information!!
I wrote a query to sort the checkbox terms by popularity among participants aged 51+ (only 433 people) and this is what I got:
nonbinary - 44.3% of participants aged 51+
queer (in relation to gender) - 28.2%
genderqueer - 27.0%
gender non-conforming - 25.9%
transgender - 19.9%
trans - 18.9%
genderfluid/fluid gender - 17.1%
enby - 16.9%
none / I do not describe myself / "I'm just me" - 15.7%
agender - 13.6%
woman - 12.7%
transfeminine - 11.1%
lesbian (in relation to gender) - 10.4%
trans* - 10.2%
genderless - 7.9%
gay (in relation to gender) - 7.2%
femme - 6.9%
transmasculine - 6.9%
questioning or unknown - 6.2%
androgyne - 5.8%
butch - 5.3%
Transsexual wasn't on the checkbox list this year, so that's not in this list. But androgyne and butch were, and neither get over 6% among participants aged 51+.
Butch is pretty evenly distributed across all age ranges, hovering between 3-10% but mostly around 5%.
Androgyne is most popular among younger people, gets down to 3% in the 45-55ish range, and then gets more popular in the older ranges again - up to 8.5% at ages 61+.
So androgyne is the one I'd be most worried about, but the list based on 30-and-unders and 31-and-overs combined plus the use of the multiplier takes 12 identities from each list. If I were to include a 51+ list, butch and androgyne would have to climb at least 8 places to be considered for the checkbox list.
I could alternatively make a list based on all the 5-year age ranges, but towards the older age ranges sample sizes get much smaller and less reliable, so I'm not so keen on that idea. 51+ is 433 people, and that dips to only 130 people (0.3%) for 61+.
Removing words from the checkbox list does suck and it will inevitably alienate some people, and I do worry about that, of course. It is important to me that lesser-represented groups look at the checkbox list and don't immediately think "ohhh noooo this is not for people like me..." and close the tab. But I feel like having the words on the checkbox list gives them maximum visibility whether I like it or not, and I then split stats into two age groups to give words even more of a chance, and if they're still not popular enough to fit into a top 20 by quite a long way then I can't really justify making an exception for them!
The best thing you can do to make sure people are represented is to encourage them to take part in the survey, and encourage them to type their gender identity words into the textboxes. In particular, age 51+ folks are finding the survey through Facebook and the mailing list. Facebook's algorithms routinely bury posts by pages that don't pay up (including the Gender Census Facebook page), so I'd recommend getting people onto the mailing list instead. Send them this link to sign up: https://www.gendercensus.com/mailing-list
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arielmagicesi · 2 years
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been looking through old posts and I just want everyone to know, if you see an old post of mine where I have a bunch of caveats being like “but I’m not a gross cringe freak about this obviously, I’m the smart cool version of this, I’m doing this thing with full knowledge of all the serious problems that come with being gross and cringe” I just want everyone to know I was lying. I am a gross cringe freak. and don’t think for a second I’m not <3
#me in 2017 frantically explaining that i write shippy fanfic IRONICALLY and WINKING at it and SELF FLAGELLATING the whole time#me being like no no but i'm a proper good gold star feminist sexy non-cringe lesbian i promise!!!#bullies will you like me if i hurt myself enough and apologize for existing... oh my gosh...#spoiler alert dipshit they will never like you. they don't like anybody! especially not freaks! and you are a freak! own it!#me in 2018 trying to work out if i was a 'gold star lesbian' and being twisted into a knot trying to figure it out#because gender and genitals and love and sexuality are actually more complicated than people on the internet said#'people on the internet' being terfs with a fondness for being bullies who appointed themselves judge jury and executioner of lesbianism#i fully do mean terfs like trans exclusionary radical feminists. they swarm around deeply insecure baby dykes so hard it's terrible#ANYWAY this wasn't even inspired by any of that shit#this was inspired by me reading tags on a rwby fic i wrote in 2018#where i tagged it 'hurt/comfort. but NOT the gross version of the genre'#??? i was so desperate to prove i wasn't 'gross' that i don't even know what i meant#what is the 'gross version' of hurt/comfort ???#what did i mean? i don't know#if you were a fat hairy dyke all through middle and high school...#and then you find a lesbian community and they're immediately concerned with making sure no one is ever 'gross'#you immediately retreat to your favorite old fallback habits of apologizing for existing nonstop to the point of saying nonsense#anyway. in case anyone wants to wildly misinterpret this. i'm not talking about being racist or transphobic or ableist or anything else#those things are not 'gross' 'cringe' or 'freak' behaviors. they are not 'ugly' or 'stinky'#they are cruel and they hurt others#please stop using silly words to undermine harmful behaviors#and then get mad at anyone who owns those silly words when talking about non-harmful behaviors like 'existing while fat'#ok i'm done monologuing for now#written by me
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