#bae said so

[thegardenofbae]

Any advice on how to make friends as an adult (where to go, what to say, etc)? Greatly appreciate it!

hi there 🤍

when it comes to making friends as an adult, you should first think about the type of groups and spaces you want to included in. are you more of a lady who lunches with her girlfriends and goes shopping after? are you a country club girl who alternates between tennis and golf? are you an art lover who could spend a whole day gallery crawling?

find what interests you and you’ll find people who have similar interests. in terms of what to say, it depends on the setting. usually you can just make a comment on something, for example: if you’re at a gallery, comment on the art piece. that usually opens up the floor for introductions and what not.

[skzoologist]

Chan: i don't like that look in your eyes. whatcha up to? Felix: imma jump onto Bae hyung Chan: ...he's finally drawing tho Felix: y e s Chan: Chan: Felix naur- Felix: Felix yes

[possession1981]

just jacob gifs (9/?)

[llamaalpacca]

a world unfolds endlessly for us

happy anniversary to my favourite girls 🐋💙

[dragon-of-timeless-blue]

Can you see my vision?

[koishua]

lowkey kinda scared to log into blankjournal y'all i do want to bring it back but online commitments are so difficult bc of irl rn

[ginalinettiofficial]

played the game ok boomer at my family party today, ended up explaining to a room of ~20 of my relatives what fanfiction is so they could understand the question, “in fanfiction, what does AU stand for?”. and then the card’s definition of “AU” was wrong so i also had to get into the concept of “canon”.

can u believe. in front of my whole family. a room full of people, aged 3 to 80. all staring at me intently as i explain the difference between an alternate universe and canon divergence. at one point my mom was like “daina i think we get it” and a cousin and two aunts were like “wait no we’re interested please continue” and i had to say to my own mother in front of god and my i am kenough sweatshirt “sorry but unlike you the rest of them DON’T have to listen to me talk about fanfiction on the regular”. my uncle is a retired judge. my one cousin worked for the federal government in a job that was so classified that for years he literally couldn’t legally tell us about ANYTHING he was working on. and today those men sat and patiently listened to me define “coffee shop AU”.

also, not one, not two, but THREE of the answers for the young folks, i knew solely because they were either plot points on stranger things or they were things i found out whilst reading stranger things fanfics. and then i was the only person in our age bracket (10 people, ranging from ages 9 to 42) that knew who anne rice was, and had to explain yet again that the reason i had this knowledge was because… fanfic.

it was surreal. also my aunt, aged 68, may or may not begin attempting to read fanfic now because, according to her, “there are so many stories where there are these small side characters and i’d just KILL to hear their backstory or like what was going through their minds during the main action!” i’m very happy for her. today was wild.

[sea-dukes-assistant]

ATTN: The boomers that follow me for some reason

The abuse I'd been getting since this started dropped off roughly 2016, when I told Rachel if she wanted to have a say in what I post, she can pay me. It picked back up roughly the same time Harry was outed as being with his current wife, at the time of the Karen Occupation, and been on the upswing ever since.

For the longest time, I never understood why I received so much negative attention from your particular niche in this fandom. I never spoke to you, minded your business, nor knew you existed, yet you felt the need to mind mine, scold me, yell at me, and speak to me as though I do not deserve respect and decency, perhaps going so far as to hoping one day I'd just eat a bullet.

The theory, which is disturbing at best, for why you project your insecurities onto me (and only me) is that you can't fathom mine and younger generations being so "ourselves" because that was not a thing when you grew up. I'm sorry that was the way it was, but that is not how it is now. Times change, often for the better, even from when I was growing up in the '90s. I'm thankful for this. You lot, however, seem to have taken the fantasy/ideology of "what a man should be" and decided you are disgusted/upset that I do not fall into that mold. So you come into my house and shit all over the place like you ain't got no home training, sending me homophobic messages, personally insulting me and my intelligence, telling me I need to "get my head checked (I've had 2 neuro-pysch exams I promise you my brain functions just fine)," and going out of your way to make me hate myself. Why? So you can fix me and make me the "alpha male" of your fantasies. It's like some form of conversion therapy. This is why you're so obsessed with me. I'm not bitter that nobody else is being hated on; I'M BITTER THAT I WAS/AM SINGLED OUT.

Quite frankly, that's fucking disturbing. I'm 36. I'm a regular guy, enlisted, trying to make it through the next 10 of my career without further damaging my already broken body. I'm nobody. But y'all out here harassing me for *checks notes* living my life and being happy. Not even a single shred of empathy. Just fuckin' "SEND IT" with the constant degradation and berating and lecturing. Fuck sake I serve this country with pride, nearly had the national ensign over my casket and folded and handed to my mother before I hit 30, and this is how y'all gonna act towards me, after walking around with your metaphorical dick out, posting boomer ass Facebook graphics yelling "REPOST THE FLAG OR YOUR A COMMIE?" THAT is some fucking disrespect, not a royal in an honorary position of rank wearing a service's uniform. It's fucking disgusting...oh I'm a "brave PATRIOT" until you find out I wanna fuck some hot British guy's brains out. Then I need to shut up and "eat shit and die."

I'm not a project. I'm not responsible for your issues. I'm under no obligation to be nice to you. Your baggage is not mine to carry. You are responsible for your own behavior. I do have intellectual superiority; this is not me swinging my dick, it is fact. My ASVAB score qualified me for everything except the nuclear field. I learned college-level electronics theory in 9 months. I've had a combined 10 months of specialized training on specific systems, the most recent being the AN/GSC-52B MET. This last advancement cycle I scored in the 93rd percentile overall IN THE ENTIRE GODDAMN NAVY. My job is entirely critical-thinking, problem solving, and written/verbal communication. PEOPLE COULD DIE IF THE AIR TRAFFIC CONTROLLERS CAN'T SEE THE PLANES. I have to explain to idiots officers with degrees why I can't connect a system carrying classified data to their unclassified computer to they "don't have to get up" to look at the console. Between you there's...what, 10 brain cells? You think tabloids are classic literature. IT IS A FUCKING FACT, BRENDA.

Oh and the "I hate that you were treated like that/you didn't deserve that BUT" can be shoved up your ass, as well. If that were the case, you wouldn't continue your anonymous! tirade about how I'm a fuck up, need to be nicer, how I'm treated is entirely my fault, and using Prince Philip, who is very much dead despite my wishes, as a way to emotionally manipulate me (an entirely different level of Fucking Disgusting).

The entire fucking audacity. Take your own advice and look in the mirror. YOU are the reason I'm so fucking stressed. YOU are the reason I fucking hate it here and want to leave. YOU are the reason I'm so fucking "rude" and on defense all the time. DEALING WITH YOU IS FUCKING EXHAUSTING.

[moonniu]

sweet like lemonade

[thegardenofbae]

Glad to see you're back answering questions! I've been wondering for a while why you stopped posting your femininity content? I really liked it, and I'm sure a lot of other girls did too. Now, and no offense by this, you're just like every other "aesthetic" blog. I'm sure you've lost a lot of the followers you got when you were posting your original content. I just want you to be yourself 💕

my original purpose for creating this blog was to curate inspiration and ideas for the life that i wanted. at the time, the life i wanted was one where i embraced my femininity more. that’s no longer a main priority in my life, so i don’t post about it. simple.

like i said, i use this blog to curate ideas and inspiration relevant to my life. if it looks like “every other aesthetic blog” like you say, i can’t really help that. if you’re not into my content, please feel free to unfollow. it won’t hurt my follower count too much 😌

trust and believe, i’ll always be myself. i’m fairly anonymous on this app, so there is no need for me to be anything but myself. thank you for your concern 🤍

[toreodaughter]

ᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠ ᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠ[⚜️] ;;ᅠcan’t change the way i am ᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠ𝒔𝒆𝒙𝒚,ᅠᅠᅠ𝒏𝒂𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕𝒚,ᅠᅠᅠ𝒃𝒊𝒕𝒄𝒉𝒚 ᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠᅠ𝒎𝒆 // ♡

[possession1981]

[angel-jihyun]

For like 2 days straight V tells us stuff like "oh I will come rescue you" "please be safe and wait for me" but when he actually arrives everything turns to shit and I have to help rescue him instead for like the rest of the route 😭 help

[sapphicflower-ao3]

thank you @werewolffeelings for the tag!!!!

my top 9 fave albums of all time 🙇🏽‍♀️

1. Good Faith - Madeon

2. Moral Panic (The Complete Edition) - Nothing But Thieves

3. Worlds - Porter Robinson

4. Discovery - Daft Punk

5. Dance Moves - Franc Moody

6. Collide With The Sky - Pierce The Veil

7. Rage Against The Machine - Rage Against The Machine

8. Brand New Eyes - Paramore

9. tryhard - The Band Camino (this is technically an EP oops)

oof that was hard, especially because i wanted to only do one album per artist so i wouldn’t just overrun the whole post with the same three artists lol

i’m gonna be real, idk who to tag 😭 if you follow me and you’re seeing this and you want to do this please go ahead!!!

[nomaishuttle]

ok kinda skeeved out abt something

[cocotome]

For the latest episode of Hirakawanchi, Hirarin had a barbecue birthday celebration! When Hirarin was on Yocchin's radio, people commented a lot that it was the first time they'd seen him eat so I think people just like seeing him eat lol