#bisexuality has always been a fluid identity nd ppl trying to box us in bc they think it'll help nonbinary ppl is so absurd

[gloxinian]

it’s so hard to talk abt this nowadays bc (1) ppl that aren’t bi never want to engage with any topic that has to do w us in good faith and (2) ppl are so obsessed w everything being valid w/o questioning anything but like... the push to redefine bi as “attraction to 2+ genders” has caused so much dmg to literally the entire community, especially trans/nonbinary ppl.  that definition has othered nonbinary ppl in such a way where ppl think that being lesbian/gay/straight means u can’t be attracted to ANY nonbinary ppl bc that would mean being attracted to more than one gender (aka 2+ which makes them bi).

nd before anyone tries to say that isn’t true... i’ve literally seen that happen.  i’ve had ppl try to tell me that my ex couldn’t be gay bc if he was attracted to me that would mean he was attracted to multiple genders (i’m nonbinary).  i’ve had to explain to ppl on multiple occasions that YES lesbian, gay, and straight ppl can all be attracted to some nonbinary ppl, that attraction to us isn’t exclusive to being bi.

like... this concept of “2+” nd counting up genders isn’t good.  maybe it sounded nice nd progressive or whatever at first (as a way fr ppl to justify the “bi” prefix in bisexual w/o understanding or caring abt the ACTUAL context behind our label) nd came from a good place.  i’m so tired of ppl that aren’t bi trying to redefine our label.  i’m also tired of cis ppl or even ppl that just aren’t nonbinary trying to redefine labels to include us w/o considering the implications of these changes.  or considering how we’ve been included since the beginning nd none of this is really... necessary.

it’s much healthier to treat us as a case by case basis instead of listing out nd counting out every nonbinary gender u think u’d be attracted to nd defining ur sexuality based on that.