#do i find it funny that when i shouldve been resting instead i was writing a threadfic about how sick wwx should be resting?

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The Blocklist: A essay (this is very long)

I know everyones sick of it at this point but I got shit to say so feel free to not read this absolute unit of a poorly written essay. The jjbablocklist divided their list into two different list now. One for creators and one for consumers/rebloggers and I cannot stress enough about how dumb that is since it shouldve been done since the beggining. Also, following alot of these artist and “consumers” of these medias, I noticed some of them are falsely accused, others while being minors. here’s why:

1. A lot of teens and young adults in the community like ships like GioMis, FuMis, NaraGio, MisTrish and plenty more and I know your singular shared braincell cannot handle the idea of 2-3 year age gaps not being pedophilia, but uh, newsflash for ya, THEY AINT. Legally, it is not a crime and that in america where the age of consent is 18, not in Italy where its 15 and not in Japan where its even less. Under the general United States Law, which is where I assume the list makers/defenders are mostly from, these ships are not classified as pedophilia or should be problematic and the ages of consent change to lower ages depending on state. The only way you can add these shippers for their “crimes” is if they promoted or created the interactions of these characters in a sexual or intimate manner whether they are aged up or not, which is still wack if their age is above that of the age of consent in writing/art and the fact that minors, in this case teenagers with the VA cast, are allowed to express themselves with people of their own age group in a sexual manner, real life kids do it all the time amongst themselves so why shouldnt people be able to create it, the whole ordeal is ridiculous imo BUT I can see how it makes a lot of people uncomfortable, a lot of it makes me uncomfortable too so we gotta make compromises somehow so absolutely no lewding the mafia lolis/ jojo lolis in general and if you do, tag it properly so it doesnt spread onto the basic hastags of characters and the show. If you dont you on the list.

2. Claim genderswapping/r63 is transphobic all you want but until I see clear and definitive proof of it being purposely made for that purpose then it’s absolutely ok. If someone makes it to offend someone then its wrong and they should be called out for it (which has never been the case in this fanbase as far as I cant tell) It’s creative, it allows people create new desings for characters or adjust current ones for cosplayers or other artist. Im sure one of your mods can relate, since the do the exact same thing as we do while not addressing a certaint character properly by their canon pronouns. Genderbending does not promote the attack or harrasement of the trans community and that is a fact unless its done by actual problematic artist like Sh*dbase and others, which is still a stretch because I dont think they’ve done it to target people or make fun of them but they are the popular problem icons. So get the actual transphobes on the list, aka those who created the content specifically to harras a specific person, or remove the catergory entirely. Its unnecessary and hypocritical.

— The rest of these are just things that bother a lot of people in the community so if you only cared about minors being on the list then you dont have to continue reading. —

Tumblr is infamously known to be a shitshow of a site where all you can find is problematic content. If you dont like this kind of content, why the hell are you here in the first place? There’s a lot of safer websites to use where like instagram, twitter, amino, facebook, and more. They have actual filters unlike tumblr and finding content you dont like is a lot harder unless you are purposefully looking for it, and even then it could be a challenge due to shadow bans or privatized accounts. Tumblr has none of that, everyone knows it, all of those who dont like it try to stay away from it or use it very scarcely. Why do you think that most of these “problematic” artist/creators/consumers are here? Tumblr has always been its own weird realm, trying to make it anything else goes against what it stand for.

You’re crimes make are literal nonsense sometimes because you include such obvious personal attacks like “Made a literal essay defending GioMis” and “All kinds of awful stuff” as crimes. You added a few account because they message you about how ridiculous the whole ordeal is and you take to findind the slightest bit of “evidence” that can aid you into making them look bad. You know thats not a good reason right?? Even if it were, yall are even more guilty for committing acts of Liable and Defamation and you are choosing to for those you incorrectly put on the list, invluding the minors! Let alone hypocrisy but yall are tired of hearing that one.

Dont add other fandoms into this mess. The Hetalia fandom has been dead for more than 5 years and it aint none of your buisness. It has nothing to do with Jojo. Unless you plan on making more blocklist for ALL fandoms then, goodluck, though make em better.

Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure is a wonderful and yet problematic series, guess who’s fault it is... its Araki’s. Created a hilarious nazi character, nah its the fanbases fault for roleplaying such a funny character. Pedophilia and rape represented in Jojo and not treated seriously, nah its the fandoms fault for romanticizing it. Homophobia as character traits and degradation of women in Jojo, pfft nah f a n d o m s f a u l t for painting such “false” representations of the characters. Ah, but yall wont drop Jojo cuz that kid your trying to control media for wont drop it either. It is not your responsibility to create a childproof community when the show already has heavy themes. Its their caretakers/parents or the childs own responsibility.

I despise the argument “well Jojo is a 17+ only show so no kids allowed!” you might be right, but has that really ever stopped kids from doing anything?? It does the opposite, it creates a sense of overwhelming curiosity which leads to venturing unkown territory which they may or may not end up enjoying. The problem lies wether young teens are mature enough to watch it or not and judging by this whole fiasco, alot of the people, teens and adults, involved are not.

YOU ARE NOT JUDGE JURY AND EXECUTIONER AND YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO POLICE A MEDIA YOU DO NOT OWN OR TAKE RESPONSIBILITY INTO DOING IT FOR SOMEONE ELSE

I will give you this guys this, theres a few artist and creators that do belong there, very few as far as I could see and read into and some are missing since they are mostly on twitter instead of tumblr. But hey, I managed to find like 12 accounts that I probably wouldn’t like seeing the content of, and I found a lot of good accounts too. A hell of a lot more.

I know Im harsh and a total loser but y’all really gotta do some damage control and think ahead. Merely ignoring the fact that your movement cause a floodwave of hatred, deaththreats and suicide baiting is disgusting, adress it properly, dont condone it. Cuz Im yall wouldnt like 200+ messages of “Kill yourself you of lowlife degenerate. I dont like your the disgusting trash you like so I hope you rot in hell for the rest of your life” It isnt fun, a lot of people have received these, some are even worse and a lot dont even deserve it.

Run the list correctly, its a good idea, it could’ve been handled way better than this and you guys know it. This would’ve been great for 14 year old me not stumbling onto a lot of problematic ships when I first looked up Jojo and it can help many children in the community in the future, but you are ruiling out a majority of the fanbase with such vague and pointless rules as regular shipping and creative freedom. You are demonizing people who like basic shipping and different character desings, and that’ll scare them because they dont want tobe hated for something they like. Because a few biased opinions decided to rule out that what the kids liked is morally wrong and irredeemable. Cuz thats all I can see on the list with the exception of maybe a 12 people on the list. Thats all the rest of the JJBA community sees.

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Valentine’s Day ‘19

Real talk: Derek is the most incredible human being — he’s sweet, he’s funny, he’s kind... But I didn’t always feel that way. For those of you who don’t know, Derek and I have known each other since elementary school, but we didn’t officially meet until high school... I say this a lot and I’ll still freely admit it: if you told me 10 years ago that I’d be dating Derek Manansala, I would’ve laughed in your face. 

He was 14 and childish as hell, and I was 15 and above it all. I thought he was infuriatingly immature and he thought I was an unapproachable snob (though we admitted these things much later). At one point, there must’ve been at LEAST three girls who were crushing hard on him, but whatever they saw, I completely missed (don’t @ me, Shani. I didn’t like him). Even still, he was a part of our friend group and we were cordial. Out of everyone, we were the least close and we both liked it that way. 

Our story is weird, almost farcical. I’ll give you an example: since Derek was a part of my friend group, he has met every single one of my exes. Every. Single. One. I’m not too proud of that, but I also find it hilarious. I hope he does too. In college, we still weren’t friends, but we tolerated each other a lot more. We went to school in different states, but we vowed we’d try to get to know each better and be friends, should we both rise to the occasion (we never did). 

So how did we start dating? A part of me is still unsure. All I know is that in 2016/2017 I was going through a huge transition. I ended a major relationship, was living between San Jose and LA and traveling way more than I should’ve. If I’m being honest, which I have no trouble with apparently, I had no idea what the hell I was doing. At one point, I called every single one of my friends and no one picked up the phone. Finally, I called Derek. I still have no idea why, but he answered. And thus, our friendship began. 

For those of you thinking it was love at first phone call — NAH. Don’t get me wrong, he was a lot more mature than I remembered, but he was DEREK. The Derek I knew since I was 15. A decade later, I still didn’t entertain the idea of dating him. But I did want to get to know him more. Now he was into improv and writing (we bonded over the latter). We bonded over a lot actually: movies, writing, solo travel... But the thing that really bonded us: we both were absolutely jaded when it came to love. So if you’re still reading, hang on just a little while longer. 

If you thought it was weird before, shit gets even weirder. Derek and I became... friends. Like, best friends. We vented to each other about work, lamented about writing, and of course we talked about dating. So much dating. We’d literally talk to each other about our tinder escapades. Like, “Oh, how’s that Berkeley guy?” And “So, did you friend that ballet dancer?” Don’t get me wrong, we were still swearing off love, but we took pride in the fact that we were BOTH above it. We didn’t want to find the love of our lives right now (ew, gross). We just wanted to live our lives without answering to anyone, and yet we did answer — every single text message we sent, every single phone call we made — before we even knew we were answering. 

There are a few noteworthy things I want to include that speak to Derek’s character: like the first time he called me to vent about an improv class he was taking. Whenever Derek called before, he’d normally be drunk trying to get on the L train. Or the bus that was running instead of the L train. I’m really making him sound great, huh? But when he called and told me about his class, I could hear how genuinely upset he was. He was actually being vulnerable. And I let go of whatever misconceptions I was still holding onto about him. This was my person (my friend-person) and I cherished him. 

Okay, one more anecdote that shows what a stand up guy he is. Derek was out with a bunch of our old friends after his improv show in NY (I was in California, far, far away). I won’t go into detail, but one of our old friends said/did something hurtful towards me, and Derek stuck the fuck up for me. If you know me, I grew up in New Jersey. Which means you kinda develop a thick skin about everything. Your friends elbow you in the ribs when you’re down before offering to help you up. It’s just a thing. And yet here was the person I thought the least of growing up fighting FOR ME. I knew at that moment I wanted Derek in my life for a long time. BUT I STILL DIDN’T WANNA DATE HIM THOUGH (but maybe, somewhere deep down, I did). 

This post is getting far too long, so I’ll wrap it up. A few months after that fateful night, I visited NY for the first time in 2 years. When we saw each other again, it would suffice to say, the rest is history. I love you, Derek, Happy Valentine’s Day! Thank you for being my forever-person. And sorry you have to put up with these ridiculously long posts. Though I think, deep down, you might like them too. 

tl;dr love is real and you find it in the most unexpected places (and people)