#fully convinced they'd keep beating each other silly but

[distort-opia]

Nnghhhr i get so upset whenever i try to think of a way to bruce and joker to be in a ""normal"" relationship because both have to lose the essence of what makes them 'them', them

I mean that as in both of them having to change what makes batman, well, batman, and joker changing what makes him joker (with joker having to compromise in a way larger scale than bruce). At that point its not even really batjokes anymore, its two different people in a way.

I think the closest they have to a normal relationship where they dont have to change much of their identities is in telltale. Even then, joker has to go under rehabilitation, but its way less drastic for joker's sense of self in this universe.

I wonder if there's a way of them maintaining their usual dynamic but in a more stable way?

There is a way, my friend. And it's called BDSM.