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[i-like-forcefem]

sorry to bother you and feel free not to answer but I was wondering if you could maybe lend me a hand with figuring myself out?

I've been a femboy for years now but recently I've been wondering if I would be better off transitioning, there are a lot of signs pointing to that I might be trans(I love crossdressing, there are certain aspects of transition that I really want regardless of if I'm trans) but there are also signs pointing to the opposite(not sure if I would be ok with the end result, no bottom dysphoria, etc.) so I'm quite confused :(

thank you in advance if you decide to answer! Even a little perspective would help me a lot right now I think <3

No worries at all cutie!!! Lemme give my thoughts:

First of all, I love love love that you’re already in touch with yourself! Know the fact you like dressing cutely!!! Be proud of yourself for having come to terms with that much! I’m proud of you!

And I’ve very much was in the same boat as you for a long long while!

It takes a lot of courage to realise that maybe you like dressing as a girl because you are one!

I even share the bits that make you doubt!

I feel apathetic towards my girl bits, don’t really care for what happens to it in all honesty!

And I am honestly terrified for how my transition would turn out- it took a lot of courage to finally make the steps to getting a diagnosis

But I did it by determining for myself that Estrogen won’t hurt, all it does is bring me closer to my ideal- even if it doesn’t bring me all the way to it as id hope, it’s still incredibly valuable progress

I don’t have a doubt in my mind that id be more comfortable on E even if I don’t “pass”

I do get have the fear when seeing other trans girls who don’t reach my arbitrary internalised standards of “this is what a girl looks like”- but also a lot of cus girls don’t

I don’t have a doubt in my mind that if the main thing holding you back from starting to transition is fear of it going bad- You should transition as soon as possible

(Watch I saw the tv flow if you haven’t already)

And its also worth mentioning that gender euphoria, joy in being feminine, loving being confused as a girl, is as valid an indicator for being trans as dysphoria

If you’d be happier if you were born a girl- well there’s a good chance you are one

So~

I believe that it’d be very worthwhile to give being a girl a shot!

I know it’s incredibly scary to commit to, but you don’t need to commit to anything big right now

Id say just change your pronouns for close friends and on an online blog- maybe make a new side blog on tumblr where you go by a girl name! (Kind of what I did here! This blog is the first I used (she/her) for and now I never want to go back!!! Objectively Best pronouns (/silly))

If you like being called girly names, and when someone says she looks so so adorable in her cute dresses, and it’s so silly it took her so long to realise she’s a girl

Well then give her the time to choose a name

I believe in you cutie!!!

(Also want to mention that for most of the lovely people into forcefem I’ve had the pleasure of speaking to- forcefem is appealing because they’re a trans girl, not the other way around! It’s gender euphoric fantasies)

Gosh- hope that kinda helps! I’m proud of you for sending this ask to me cutie, I hope you’ll find your happiness!!!