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Samantha (@sc-rp) & SJ (@margotdaddy) characters that remind me of us | holiday series: 2023 | 14/15

while monica and i were dancing to them, it was the first time i knew that you were the woman that i wanted to dance all my dances with." - chandler bing, friends

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@remuspolaris

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My wife aka @margotrailme | ship | Valentine's Day Series 19/20

Give me a life time of promises and a world of dreams Speak the language of love like you know what it means And it can't be wrong Take my heart and make it strong, babe You're simply the best Better than all the rest Better than anyone Anyone I ever met And I'm stuck on your heart I hang on every word you say Tear us apart Baby I would rather be dead (x)

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Samantha (@sc-rp) & SJ (@margotdaddy) characters that remind me of us | holiday series: 2023 | 15/15

and now, here we are..with our future before us..and i only want to spend it with you, my prince, my soulmate, my friend. - monica geller, friends

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can't / won't say shit about @remuspolaris and their glorbie (?) obsession because we have photos of austin butler hanging up in our kitchen and i consistently thirst/obsess over him on the daily lmao

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all the gay questions

Thanks friend, here we go.

1. Name one way you break the wlw stereotype. (Fat, trans, poc, autistic, etc)

I don’t know if it’s really breaking a stereotype but I consider myself spiritual. I pray and I feel like when I bring that up to someone that they’re unfortunately “surprised”. 

2. Who was the first girl you remember having feelings for?

She was in my fifth grade class and she had heelys. We were really good friends and I thought she was the coolest. (We both grew up and later came out as gay and she’s super happy and I’m super happy for her.)

3. What’s your opinion on the butch/femme labels? Do you think they’re harmful?

I think that labels can be harmful for some people and extremely helpful for others. I’m one of the people that feel helped by labels. Sometimes those particular labels can be annoying, but if they work for you then that’s great.

4. Do you have a girlfriend?

Yes. I have a loving fiancée that I’ve been with for a while now. She is the peanut butter to to my jelly, the sun poking through the clouds on a rainy day, the moon, the stars - all of it. Hi @remuspolaris <3

5. Define love in 5 words or less

Understanding, teamwork, friendship, illuminating, patience

6. What characteristics do you look for in a girl?

I’d always (back when I did look) wanted someone who has a really good sense of humor, understanding, similar interests and most importantly, someone I could have a friendship with. I feel strongly that your partner shouldn’t just be your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner, but your best friend, too.

7. Do you participate in LGBTQ clubs and events?

I used to participate pride. I went to pride three years in a row in my hometown and would go again once it’s safe.

8. Are you out to anyone outside of tumblr?

Pretty much everyone. A few of the co-workers I talked to at my last job didn’t outright know because I worked in a highly conservative environment. 

9. Say some things you love about your crush/girlfriend?

I love her extra snuggles in the morning, I love how warm she is, I love that even when I’m feeling crazy or anxious or whatever it is that she still loves me and cares about me. I love that she cares about me as much as I care about her. I love that she doesn’t make me feel so alone in life. I love doing things with her.

10. Do you want to get married?

Yes, it’s on the gay agenda. I don’t know when it’s happening just yet, but I have an engagement ring on my finger. 

11. Do you want to have kids?

Yes. I’m not ready for them yet, emotionally or financially but it’s been a dream of mine for a long time to have children. Being with someone that is good with kids/babies and wants them too makes all of that a lot more appealing.

12. How would you describe the difference between sun lesbians and moon lesbians?

Like @welshdragonrawr said, sun lesbians feel like ABBA and moon lesbians are Fleetwood Mac/Stevie. 

13. What’s your favorite song about lesbians?

“She Keeps Me Warm” by Mary Lambert. The first wlw song I ever heard.

14. What’s your favorite book about lesbians?

My favorite fictional one is probably “Annie on My Mind” by Nancy Garden. It didn’t have a bad ending and at the time I read it it mirrored the kind of relationship I wanted someday. 

15. Who’s your favorite lesbian character?

Since she isn’t canonically wlw or lesbian I can’t say Cordelia Goode and that hurts me, so I’m going to have to go with Alex Vause from Orange Is the New Black.

16. If you live in a country where gay marriage is legal, where were you when it was legalized? Did you do anything to celebrate?!

I was in my living room and I woke up to @mightthxnktwice happily yelling to me about it.

17. If you could meet one famous wlw (dead or alive) who would you pick?

Sarah Paulson, Sarah Paulson, Sarah Paulson.

18. Have you ever kissed a girl?

Yes.

19. Do you have any favorite wlw positivity blogs?

@wholesome-gf-memes-uwu

20. Who was your first real life crush? (as in not Dana Scully or Jessica Rabbit)

See the above answer about first crush.

21. What is one thing you think your school/ place of work could do to create a safe environment for LGBTQ people

I don’t really think they could do anything. My previous job could’ve made sure that others didn’t spread homophobic comments with others.

22. Have you ever been to a gay bar?

Yes.

23. Do you know a lot of LGBTQ people outside of the Internet

I know some, I wouldn’t say a ton - and the ones I do know I met through the internet.

24. Describe your ideal gaycation (a vacation that you, a gay, go on)

Disneyland. Just a long expected stay at Disneyland, maybe during Gay Days.

25. Not a question, I just want you to know that you’re amazing and beautiful and I love you. Keep up the good work.

Thanks friend.

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all the gay questions bc gay

Thanks friend, here we go.

1. Name one way you break the wlw stereotype. (Fat, trans, poc, autistic, etc)

I don’t know if it’s really breaking a stereotype but I consider myself spiritual. I pray and I feel like when I bring that up to someone that they’re unfortunately “surprised”.

2. Who was the first girl you remember having feelings for?

She was in my fifth grade class and she had heelys. We were really good friends and I thought she was the coolest. (We both grew up and later came out as gay and she’s super happy and I’m super happy for her.)

3. What’s your opinion on the butch/femme labels? Do you think they’re harmful?

I think that labels can be harmful for some people and extremely helpful for others. I’m one of the people that feel helped by labels. Sometimes those particular labels can be annoying, but if they work for you then that’s great.

4. Do you have a girlfriend?

Yes. I have a loving fiancée that I’ve been with for a while now. She is the peanut butter to to my jelly, the sun poking through the clouds on a rainy day, the moon, the stars - all of it. Hi @remuspolaris​ <3

5. Define love in 5 words or less

Understanding, teamwork, friendship, illuminating, patience

6. What characteristics do you look for in a girl?

I’d always (back when I did look) wanted someone who has a really good sense of humor, understanding, similar interests and most importantly, someone I could have a friendship with. I feel strongly that your partner shouldn’t just be your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner, but your best friend, too.

7. Do you participate in LGBTQ clubs and events?

I used to participate pride. I went to pride three years in a row in my hometown and would go again once it’s safe.

8. Are you out to anyone outside of tumblr?

Pretty much everyone. A few of the co-workers I talked to at my last job didn’t outright know because I worked in a highly conservative environment.

9. Say some things you love about your crush/girlfriend?

I love her extra snuggles in the morning, I love how warm she is, I love that even when I’m feeling crazy or anxious or whatever it is that she still loves me and cares about me. I love that she cares about me as much as I care about her. I love that she doesn’t make me feel so alone in life. I love doing things with her.

10. Do you want to get married?

Yes, it’s on the gay agenda. I don’t know when it’s happening just yet, but I have an engagement ring on my finger.

11. Do you want to have kids?

Yes. I’m not ready for them yet, emotionally or financially but it’s been a dream of mine for a long time to have children. Being with someone that is good with kids/babies and wants them too makes all of that a lot more appealing.

12. How would you describe the difference between sun lesbians and moon lesbians?

Like @welshdragonrawr​ said, sun lesbians feel like ABBA and moon lesbians are Fleetwood Mac/Stevie.

13. What’s your favorite song about lesbians?

“She Keeps Me Warm” by Mary Lambert. The first wlw song I ever heard.

14. What’s your favorite book about lesbians?

My favorite fictional one is probably “Annie on My Mind” by Nancy Garden. It didn’t have a bad ending and at the time I read it it mirrored the kind of relationship I wanted someday.

15. Who’s your favorite lesbian character?

Since she isn’t canonically wlw or lesbian I can’t say Cordelia Goode and that hurts me, so I’m going to have to go with Alex Vause from Orange Is the New Black.

16. If you live in a country where gay marriage is legal, where were you when it was legalized? Did you do anything to celebrate?!

I was in my living room and I woke up to @mightthxnktwice​ happily yelling to me about it.

17. If you could meet one famous wlw (dead or alive) who would you pick?

Sarah Paulson, Sarah Paulson, Sarah Paulson.

18. Have you ever kissed a girl?

Yes.

19. Do you have any favorite wlw positivity blogs?

@wholesome-gf-memes-uwu​

20. Who was your first real life crush? (as in not Dana Scully or Jessica Rabbit)

See the above answer about first crush.

21. What is one thing you think your school/ place of work could do to create a safe environment for LGBTQ people

I don’t really think they could do anything. My previous job could’ve made sure that others didn’t spread homophobic comments with others.

22. Have you ever been to a gay bar?

Yes.

23. Do you know a lot of LGBTQ people outside of the Internet

I know some, I wouldn’t say a ton - and the ones I do know I met through the internet.

24. Describe your ideal gaycation (a vacation that you, a gay, go on)

Disneyland. Just a long expected stay at Disneyland, maybe during Gay Days.

25. Not a question, I just want you to know that you’re amazing and beautiful and I love you. Keep up the good work.

Thanks friend.

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it’s still weird to me how people can live their lives and date the wrong people and get hurt and stop believing in themselves and good and love and everything else. they swear off meeting new people and think there couldn’t possibly be someone out there for them

and then one night you like someone’s text post and they’re a little tipsy and one conversation turns into talking every day. that turns into feelings that works its way into a relationship. you realize you’re so fucking in love from the start and you go all the way across the country to meet them and do all kinds of things you’d only ever dreamed of doing. y’all go to disneyland, share kisses and hugs and food. fall asleep with each other every night - love each other through tosses and turns, medical situations, and other kinds of challenges and even though you already knew it - it’s like 11 pm and you just came back from jack in the box and you’re dipping mozzarella sticks in ranch for your fiancee and handing one over to them one by one. taylor swift’s lover is playing low in the background and your heart skips a beat because you have what she’s talking about in the song. the person beside you is the love of your life and you’ve waited so long for them. you’ve looked for them in every person you’ve ever even imagined going out with, they’re what you saw in your head when you hoped you’d find someone for yourself. they’re your best friend and your confidant and your partner for everything good and/or bad in the world. 

i wasn’t looking for it but holy shit is it real. it’s real and it’s big and it’s powerful and it’s sunshine and hurting on the days when it’s impossible to be far away from each other (much like today). but i promise she’s out there. and if you’ve found your sunshine then i’m so happy for you and if you haven’t yet then believe me, she’s out there. i never thought i could feel like this and now i’m thankful each and every day that i have it and that i have you @remuspolaris

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@remuspolaris

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I realized I didn’t post it yesterday but happy Valentine’s Day to my love, @remuspolaris 😘💞

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really hope my partner is ready bc i’m coming in heavy with the disney valentine memes this year 

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25 - 30 for the real asks, if they’ve not been done already :)

25. What is one thing you wish somebody would say to you right now? “You got the job” haha26. Describe your ideal partner? It’s my @remuspolaris ❤💕😘27. Describe yourself as a person? I would say that I’m caring, I’m funny. I’m basically a big nerd that’s just trying her best to keep her life together.28. What things don’t you do right now that you feel like you morally should? Probably recycle more. Other than that, I’m not so sure.29. What is your star sign and how accurate do you think it is in describing you? I’m a gemini and most of the time I feel that it doesn’t accurately represent me at all.30. What sort of terms are you on with your exes? We aren’t on any terms, I have both of them blocked. 😜

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@remuspolaris ❤️

can't wait until i have a wife so i can say "i love my wife" and introduce her to people by saying "i'd like you to meet my wife" and get out of boring social engagements by saying "i have to go home to my wife" and talk about her to anyone who will listen to me because she's my wife and i adore her

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memorize & positive vibes 💜

memorize: describe in detail the happiest day you’ve had this year.

This is a toss up, but probably when I went to the beach with my partner. We spent the whole road trip singing and goofing around and got to the hotel and ate and spent the next two days checking out the beach and eating way too much ice cream. It was amazing and I hated having to leave. 

positive vibes: you’ve made it through another year! i’m so proud of you and my year wouldn’t have been the same without you

Thanks, you too.

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Devote and emerge!

devote: describe a way in which you made a positive impact on someone else’s year.

This is probably a silly answer, but I think I made a positive impact on my partner’s life this year. We’ve shared so many happy moments together and have laughed a lot and loved a lot.

emerge: describe an experience this year that caused you to mature.

Everything about 2019 caused me to mature. The year started out kind of shitty and things got worse before they got better. I had a lot of highs and lows, but I learned that I’m able to do a lot more than I ever thought I could.

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In like fifteen days I get to spend seven weeks with the love of my life and I’m so emotional about it that I need to just yell it from the rooftops for the world to hear