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tiefling-queer · 4 months

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there is no universal accessibility. there is no one-size-fits-all.

as a genderqueer person, i'd be over the moon if someone looked at my presentation and stumbled or asked what my pronouns are. there are gnc people, trans and cis, who don't present or perform gender in a way that makes it 'obvious' what they are 'going for'. for me, that pause, however performative, is validating and affirming. for me, as a genderqueer person, presentation anarchy and public acceptance of gender nonconformity is comforting.

and on the other hand, i know trans women who are understandably frustrated at people ignoring cues in wardrobe and makeup and opting to degender them. being degendered or misgendered because cues are being missed or ignored is an awful feeling, and this is especially a problem that trans women and other trans fems face.

we've cultivated these protocols that are polite in specific circles that i genuinely believe are used in good faith most of the time, but that doesn't stop them from mimicing bigotry.

i have no answer. ask for my pronouns and don't ask my trans sisters for theirs. there isn't a nice answer.

#id tell everyone to get over it but i shouldnt have to and you shouldnt either #nobody asks my pronouns but everyone asks allie's and these are fruit of the same tree #i dont want to use the master's tools to deconstruct gender i want to use god's tools fire and wrath to destroy it #there's also something to be said #about how under cisheteropatriarchy trans feminine people are defective enough to lose all gendered class status #but trans masculine people have a liiiiittle space in there where we're still useful as breeders so we don't get degendered yet #it's only after we cross a threshold of usefulness that we are finally stripped of the class of womanhood #this is not a privilege. it's a different path to the same place #i dunno. if i think about it too long i get angry #it's easy to look at posts from trans women getting a courtesy never afforded to me and being hurt by it and get bitter. but that's the dev #but yeah. not fair that my girlfriend says she doesnt try to pass because it makes no difference if she does or not.#not fair that i get misgendered more frequenyly at this job than i did at my previous one.#not fair that we can't have anything without cis people making it into a weapon against us.#not fair that maintaining gender is a violence to me and destroying it is a violence to other trans people #gonna accept that as another absurdity and remind myself that if i despair about it then im a little bitch #thanks camus

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