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the-everqueen · 2 years

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that type of person where “if you show emotion in an argument you lose” except it’s with someone who’s learned enough therapy speak to weaponize it, so “if you don’t rationalize every emotion and cite exactly what they said (and what they MEANT) and have an explanation for why it was hurtful and a 12-step plan for what they should do in the future to rectify it, you’re actually the abuser and the manipulator and you lose.”

#ask to tag #there's a difference between calmly talking through conflict #and the kind of person who expects you to jump through hoops to justify any negative emotion #and in fact expects you to do most of the emotional labor and vulnerability #when you tell them they said or did something harmful #i feel like the mainstream-ification of a lot of therapy tools #have in fact just given some people more weapons #to harm the already marginalized #i.e. it puts all the labor back on the person who was harmed #bc the person who did the harming isn't actually interested in resolving conflict #or being a better person #they just want you to expose more of your vulnerability so they can decide if you deserve compassion

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