#i live in supposedly one of the safest place for queers

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wrote a whole essay but im not sixteen anymore so ill just say 1. fuck you if you think you can judge closeted queers 2. the closet is made up by cishets and a not a choice but a consequence of queerphobia 3. coming out is also a concept made up by cishets who can’t mind their biz and assume they’re the default. i never had to come out to queer people lol 4. it’s never safe to be openly queer. no not anywhere. no don’t even think of bringing up gay marriage. no, as annoying as they can be, not even for privileged white cis gays. 5. please go outside and have some compassion

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I hate this idea that people in the closet aren't suffering homophobia like sure not in the same ways as someone who is out but I'm pretty sure having to choose between being out and personal/profesional safety is a result of homophobia, independently of what you choose.

Also it's this assumption that he's rich and wearing dresses so it wouldn't be a problem for him to be out and he should be out to give visibility. You don't know?? You don't know why he's not out?? (the 'you' is not you obviously)

Let's not get me started on the he could stop working and still be fine for his whole life

Hmm there is a lot to be said here. While I definitely understand where they are coming from in terms of 'look at me, I'm out and suffering the consequences of being out because I felt it was important because of personal reasons/representation etc etc'.. that is still a choice they made.

And expecting everyone else to make the same choices is not it.

And more than that it's not correct to place the responsibility of representation on everyone either. Why shouldn't queer people get to have long successful careers in whichever way they feel is safest to them? Cishet people use the mechanisms of the industry to have safe long careers, why should queer people have to expose themselves to that lack of security and safety?

I am extremely extremely extremely grateful to the people who are out, but especially living where I am, I would not want anybody to compromise and make decisions in their lives for supposedly providing representation.

And finally we would never do this to anyone in real life. No one would walk up to a presumably man on the street and say "hey why are you wearing a dress, tell me your exact sexual orientation, it's your responsibility to be out as queer, otherwise you're not allowed to just be yourself and present your gender and talk about your sexuality any way you want"

I hope you have a wonderful day darling 💕💕💕