#i'm healing through investing in ME. i don't give a rat's ass about how my abusers feel frankly. they were monsters to me | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

uncanny-tranny · 7 months

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It is okay if you can never forgive somebody who has harmed or abused you. You don't have to forgive them, but you deserve to find peace in other ways. If you can't forgive or forget, then do things for your sake. Find what fulfills you, if to make it easier for yourself. That is okay. Forgiveness isn't forgiveness if it is demanded or expected, and it isn't fair for you

#gentle reminders #abuse #abuse tw #abuse mention tw #i'm pretty sure i've made a post like this but like so many other posts i think this is important #i will never forgive my abusers and that doesn't make me bad or AT ALL 'like them' <3 #and it's quite evil to MAKE victim/survivors forgive the people who harm them because it 'makes them better'#forgiveness isn't a moral high ground and it doesn't 'make you move on'#you don't even have to forgive others for your own sake if it's not going to ultimately help you #forgiveness should come from /you/ because YOU want that #and if you can't get to that point then please find something else to help you <3 #i'm healing through investing in ME. i don't give a rat's ass about how my abusers feel frankly. they were monsters to me #and i don't have to forgive any of that. and the same goes for you #people like to think that forgiving something like abuse is akin to forgoving somebody for eating the last klondike bar...#...because they do not/cannot/don't want to consider that it's SO much deeper than 'they did small bad thing to me :('...#...so that minimalization makes it easier to blame victim/survivors for the crime of 'not forgiving'

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