#ik literally nothing im saying is new and fat women have been saying it for years but i just need to let yall know i dont claim these

[carltonlassie]

Been going thru a lot dealing with an über catholic/doesn't take no for an answer/boundary issues/controlling/emotionally immature parent of my partner and theyre forcing us to have a Wedding even tho we've explicitly mentioned we're just gonna elope (ik, ur not supposed to tell ppl that ur eloping but they inserted themselves & kept on saying insane shit like they wouldn't be able to accept me as an in-law--which, i am perfectly fine with; i know that label in my culture means being exploited in the kitchen during holidays and being an incubator that takes abuse and insults--and writing weird narratives in their head about how women are bad news financially bc they'll steal ur money??? when I literally make more money than my partner, how im controlling her kid bc we're staying at an Airbnb instead of their place, like, what? lol. someone clearly doesn't like me and I don't either bc of her insane double standards she has for me vs. A white partner of my partners brother who doesnt speak her language)

We didn't wanna have a wedding to begin with bc a) like most sensible people, we think it's a stupid tradition b) all our friends are all over the globe, literally, c) i'd much rather put that money into a down paymnt for a house or even an index fund d) they think they have a choice about who to invite - cousins we've never met and randos that we'd rather not feed e) they are judgy about all of our friends but they wouldn't accept anything where they're not invited f) kept on judging people for having perfectly normal things at their wedding like having a potluck style dinner, having it be done at a campsite, etc etc.

So like what if i maliciously comply and plan a gay ass wedding with non-traditional elements to render their conservative ass catatonic. Comatose, even. i was going through people in my mind and I realize I only have gay/trans friends. So like. I could have the wedding be a big gay ass event with people dressed up in various colors of the rainbow and have the scapegoated trans cousin (who was not invited to the last family wedding) officiate the wedding, other than that no family allowed outside of immediate family, no cash gifts are allowed (bc it's expected and the parents take the money after the event in our culture for some reason.), have a self-serve bar, clearly label allergens in food and have gf, df, vegetarian options available (for some reason this also triggers them), have no seating arrangement and have it be picnic benches or even picnic blankets for able-bodied people, have a quiet room for overstimulated people, have no band but a spotify playlist that people can request to add their songs to, have visibly trans and queer and fat and disabled and weird friends, fill the room where everyone is an English speaker so all they can do is smile and nod etc etc. If they don't like what they see and make a scene, they're the ones messing up the so called sacred day, and if they try to tell us they didn't like our wedding privately, well, it's done and there's nothing u can do. Idgaf if I sound insane but I REALLY want this to be a fuck you event where every one of the guests are in on it. Mutuals are invited. More details to follow.

[dreamlanddoll]

I am saying this as a skinny person I am so tired of seeing skinny girls put on the blandest most basic outfit you've ever seen and calling it "fashion inspo" and all the comments being like "yeesss queen people only hate bc they're jelous of u"