#immediate shutdown of the spiral. bc i would do it again and i can defend why | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

elftwink · 3 months ago

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one thing i've been doing when i do something embarrassing and am about to spiral that has been surprisingly helpful is i ask myself "would i do that again, if i was in another situation like that?"

if no -> great, lesson learned! the embarrassment has served its purpose and we can keep it moving

if yes -> okay well sometimes in life things are a little embarrassing but still the right thing to do so let's not beat ourselves up over something that is so worth doing we'd do it again despite the embarrassment

this doesn't "get rid" of the embarrassment (unfortunately you have to feel your feelings ://// suckssssss but also it's the only reason life is worth living so eh) but it does help curb the 5 hours of agony that usually proceed it

#the way ive described the yes answer makes it sound ineffective #but thats what prompted this post. did something embarrassing on the bus #reliving it in my mind beating myself up for being an idiot on the way home #ask myself if i would do it again. answer is obviously yes for a variety of reasons too long to get into #immediate shutdown of the spiral. bc i would do it again and i can defend why #instead of having the most terrible night ever i got home told my sister about it laughed a bit felt kinda cringe and then it was Over #and i watched some videos and slept peacefully. imagine. holy hell it was a damn miracle #also i told someone. what the hell normally i need like 6mos before i can even think about something embarrassing i did #sorry if you can already process your emotions normalstyle this is probably a weird post. but some of us have Problems ok

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