What kind of a human being looks at an eight-year-old girl and thinks, 'it's ok to casually discuss violence and assault in front of her, I'm just teaching her about the real world.'
Like, what the fuck? What the absolute fuck?? I may be oversimplifying it but that's literally how our 'discussion' just went and I am actually shaking with anger and disgust right now. I told him my 20year+ younger brother he should watch how he talks in front of my niece, like maybe cool it with the mentions of that recent nine-year-old murderer news story (and especially not in jokey way about it), and he accuses me of "treating her like a baby" and how he sees her "as a teenager" already, even ordering her to wash the dishes earlier. Like ok, yeah, of course I want to protect her because she is literally a CHILD??? She doesn't need to know about that sort of stuff yet and it literally is, as an adult, your responsibility to protect her from that sort of stuff??? Like ok, she's gonna grow up and learn about that sooner or later, but it doesn't need to be now and in such an awful way????
The way I see it, it's not even about "teaching her about real life/how hard it is", it's literally he doesn't care to fucking control himself and curb his behaviour/words. Because then I asked him "what, are you gonna discuss assault in front of her too?" and he was like, all defiantly glaring, "yeah, why not, she'll eventually learn about that too. " Like, does he actually hear himself?? What the actual fuck is this!!! She shouldn't need to be know and be worried about that sort of thing already, children are literally not emotionally or mentally equipped to deal with it?? Then I tried to point out our childhood, and he goes "well, no one protected me, people swore and did bad shit in front of me" - and well, yeah you turned out right fantastic didn't you, to be now thinking that's fucking ok to talk to a kid about!!
Then I said, you wouldn't talk like that in front of her mother, would you? And he said, he's already okay-ed it with her, in 'teaching her about real life'. So now, I'm gonna have to phone her up! ! !
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