#nsfwitchytalks

[nsfwitchy2]

I feel like everyone on tumblr needs a reminder that people’s gender and sexuality labels actually have like. Literally nothing to do with you whatsoever - and are almost solely for them, and them alone.

Like…. Not a single one of my labels I identify with is for anybody except me. They are all for me, to help me explain and understand my own presentation and attraction and relationship with gender and sexuality. They have nothing to do with anyone else.

And I’m only saying this because I saw a post earlier that was like, “If I was talking to someone transfem and they told me they were AFAB I would feel so hurt and betrayed”

Like ok but that has nothing to do with you. Their labels and presentation are not for you, they’re for themselves. And I honestly see this in a lot of queer discourse - where the biggest issue isn’t the label itself but is actually other, completely random strangers, feeling “betrayed” or “hurt” or “attacked” by somebody else’s presentation.

So this is your reminder that other people’s labels are not for you. They have nothing to do with you. You are a complete stranger and if someone else presenting with the same or a similar label as you, without sharing your exact experience, makes you feel betrayed - you need to go unpack why you feel so entitled to the personal experiences of strangers.

Nobody has to explain their label to you. Nobody has to explain why they relate to their label to you. And frankly it’s presumptuous as fuck to assume you know somebody’s relationship to their gender and sexuality better than they do.

[nsfwitchy2]

Tagged by the WONDERFUL @nostalgic90s - coincidentally I was literally just thinking about you last night lol

1. What was the last thing you drank?

Chocolate peanut butter and banana smoothie ✌️

2. Where was your profile picture taken?

…… furaffinity???

3. Worst pain ever?

Migraines, I’m always baffled by my coworkers who say they can work through them - like bestie how are you even standing right now

4. Favorite place you've ever traveled?

Bold of you to assume I’ve traveled. I guess the place I went to college? It was in the middle of nowhere, we had one bus that took us to the nearest city and one bus that went in a circle around town. Also we had cows, pigs, goats, sheep and horses. Sometimes when you weee on the bus you could see deer just wandering through peoples yards. Easily the best place I’ve ever stayed long term.

5. How late did you stay up last night?

Uhhhh fuck if I know lmao I fell asleep on the couch and woke up at 3am

6. If you could move, where would you move to?

Preferably somewhere rural with lots of folklore around it - like Ireland or the Appalachians

7. What do you collect?

Oh boy that is a LOADED question lmao

I guess my biggest collection is dolls - mostly Little Apple Dolls, though I have a few Franklin Mint Marilyn Monroe porcelain dolls and I’d love to get more of those some day. I have my fantasy reborns, which I would also like more of <3. I have some clown dolls and BJDs. I’d love some of the anthropomorphic Betty Jane Carter dolls, I think those are ADORABLE. I also have a hentai figurine but idk if she counts lol

On the smaller end, I collect a lot of Lilo and Stitch and Lion king stuff - extra points if it’s from Lion King 2 because that one is my absolute favorite. I collect a lot of Marilyn Monroe memorabilia, and I collect vintage porn and pinups. Oh, and music boxes, I love music boxes.

8. Favorite day of the week?

Sunday, Monday and Tuesday - hear me out on that lmao. Sunday and Monday are my days off - I usually use Sunday to run errands and volunteer at a horse rescue every other weekend, Monday I usually spend cleaning, taking care of my plants and bugs, or just giving myself a day to do nothing for once except lay on the couch and watch TV. Tuesday is when I go back to work - but it’s also the one day a week I get to work with two of my favorite coworkers, and unless something goes HORRIBLY wrong with the scheduling, we usually have a blast. Like last Tuesday I came into work and one of my coworkers was playing Kesha. You KNOW it’s gonna be a good day when the DJ for the day is playing Kesha 😩😩

9. Amusement park or concert?

Depends on the concert and the amusement park. I’ve always wanted to go to an amusement park for a date with a nice butch who wins me tons of prizes at the game stands <3

But if I’m going alone than I’m gonna say concert lol

10. When was the last time you cried?

I don’t remember and I’d like to keep it that way ✌️

Probably not that long ago but I’m not gonna kill my morning drudging up miserable shit from the past if I’ve already forgotten about it lol

11. Who took your profile picture?

Oh shit I just realized I never put artist credit in my bio, fuck me lmao

Anyway my icon is by Kitchiki on FA, I absolutely love her work <3

12. Who's the last person you took a picture of?

One of the performers at the burlesque fetish ball I went to last Saturday, her performance was just her getting a live corset piercing. My three friends at the show were quite squeamish about it, I…. Was not lmao

13. What's your favorite season?

Spring or summer - I love the trees and green grass and flowers and sunshine, plus seeing all the baby animals down at the pond near my job. Also my wardrobe is like 99% spring and summer clothes lol

Although winter is growing on me lately, I’ve found that my tolerance for cold has gone up significantly this past year 🤔

14. If you could have any other career?

I’m literally debating quitting my job as we speak in favor of becoming a typist, solely for the financial stability. So, maybe not the best time for me to answer this question lol

15. Who's your celebrity crush?

I don’t really have celebrity crushes, more as I have like…. A select amount of female celebrities I find very pretty but more in the sense that I want to look like them. Oh and Dolly Parton - she’s not a crush or someone I want to look like, she is simply Mother™️

16. Are you a good influence?

Depends on who’s asking I guess 🤷‍♀️

17. Does pineapple belong on pizza?

Pizza is not a food I care enough about to really care what toppings other people put on it

18. You have the remote, what are you watching?

Either venture bros or invincible season 3 episode 8

Aaaaand ngl I’m skipping the very last question cause I think it’s stupid

But I will tag @radioactivesourdough @airconditionedgirl @last-knight-who-was @b-rainlet @guroboyfriend @wandering-wolf23 @thotsyndrome @jervis-tetch-my-beloved @syggwolf @spasmolytic-convulsion @evilaroships @princesstokyom @solaceinabandonment

[nsfwitchy2]

“Why can’t [gender identity/sexuality] just have this ONE THING!? Why can’t we just talk about OUR experiences?”

Well I hate to be the one to tell you this but that’s because uhhhh that’s just. Not. How human interaction works.

Unless you are talking about SOLELY your experience, and that experience in question is very strange and very unique and could only possibly have happened to you - there is no “one” experience.

There is no one transfem experience. One lesbian experience. One transmasc experience or nonbinary experience or gay or pansexual or bisexual or aro/ace experience.

Whether you like it or not the queer/LGBT community is exactly that - it’s a community. It isn’t meant a group of individuals discussing their individual experience and throwing a hissy fit whenever someone has the audacity to relate to that or compare it to their own experience. It’s a community of people.

And when you have a community of people you will have, shared and overlapping experiences.

So yes the transfem experience may overlap with the experiences of lesbians and trans men. And the lesbian experience may overlap with that of trans men and bisexuals and trans women. The aro/ace experience may overlap with that of pansexuals and bisexuals and nonbinary people.

If you wanna be part of a community, to foster a community, than I think maybe some of you should stop throwing a hissy fit when someone talks about the experience of one group - and other groups chime in because they relate to it as well.

The only way to build a community is to share your experiences, and let others share theirs. If you can’t do that - I don’t think what you’re looking for is a “community”.

[nsfwitchy2]

Ngl let’s say that like. Feasibly I believed a revolution was a good idea that somehow someway was better than voting and didn’t put the lives of thousands of people at risk.

Straight up - I wouldn’t trust a single fucking one of you to lead it though.

I mean, cmon. This is the discourse website. This is the website where trans men were told they can’t use transmisogyny so they made up their own term and then I watched one of you compare them to right wing men’s rights activists for the crime of…. Making their own term, like y’all asked them to. This is the same place where trans women will also be ousted and harassed for the sheer act of…. Liking weird porn. Half this website is constantly calling for censorship because they don’t wanna see “icky nasty content made for grown ups”. This is the same place where I’ve seen people call for celebrities to be guillotined as if an actor is even CLOSE to making the same amount of money as Elon musk or Jeff Bezos. When tumblr released the blue check marks as a fun joke - half this site began likening anyone who bought them to the wealthy elite. You people can’t even handle the idea of someone using the same gender/sexuality label as you but in a different context than you personally.

I have been on this god damn website since 2014 and every year I watch you all cannibalize and tear down each other based on made up words and fictional ships. Why the fuck would I trust anyone here in a revolution?

You wanna convince me that instead of voting I should give you guys weapons and let you storm the White House? Fucking please. You don’t even know who your enemies even are anymore.

[nsfwitchy2]

I love clicking a “disturbing online rabbit hole” video and seeing the comments just FULL of people acting like they’re seeing the exorcist for the first time - just sobbing and screaming and throwing up in the comments

And then the video is like. 99% ARG horrors and weirdly specific fetishes.

Y’all gotta get out more. Go to a Walmart in the middle of nowhere. Get on the NYC subway at night. You guys need exposure therapy to freaks before you see someone walking their partner on a leash in public and die of an aneurysm.

[nsfwitchy2]

anyWAY EVERYONE LOOK AT MY NEW DRESS I GOT OFF ETSY-

[nsfwitchy2]

Slowly realizing that so much of my ideal adulthood so far is like, 5 year old me’s D R E A M

I am out here fucking, playing dollies

My bed is just a giant nest of stuffed animals

I bought flower lights I’m gonna line my stair railing with

I basically buy clothes I would’ve worn to play dress up

I am putting a hand on your shoulder and telling you to indulge in your childhood fantasies like idc how cringe and embarrassing they are don’t let 5 year old you’s dreams just be dreams

What else is adulthood for

[nsfwitchy2]

Me: I love my dolls a normal amount

Also me: *buys a baby powder scent packet to rub on one of them so she smells like baby when I snuggle her*

[nsfwitchy2]

Sometimes you learn a piece of information from another social media platform that just plagues your every waking hour and I gotta say - learning from FB moms that there’s a whole thing where parents are now adamantly against sleepovers because they’ve convinced themselves their child will be sexually assaulted really is just. Wow. Yikes. You guys sure are drinking that pedo hysteria koolaid aren’t ya

[nsfwitchy2]

EVERYONE SHUT UP I HAVE AN IMPORTANT QUESTION

This doesn’t count your own ships or AUs or headcanons or anything. Going strictly off canon. Senshi has lived in the dungeon for essentially his entire life. He was like… he was so young when he got trapped inside. Has Senshi had sex???? Has this man fucked?????

Edit: if you answer “idk nuance” you have to explain yourself. What is your nuance. I demand answers.

[nsfwitchy2]

We gotta stop the TikTok girlies

Like

I cannot believe I heard the sentence “dopamine decor is when you decorate your house with pieces that make you happy and show your personality”

Bestie I think that’s just….. decorating your fucking house. Correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve never met anybody who was like “yeah I bought my house and filled it with ugly stuff I hate”.

[nsfwitchy2]

The parents in horror stories and horror movies are always so wild

Like I cannot imagine a single world where my child tells me some of the stuff these kids say and I’m just like “go back to sleep it’s just a dream :)” instead of hauling ass to go check on whatever it is they said they saw

[nsfwitchy2]

Ima b real I think if you start regularly parroting Nazi rhetoric we should just call you a Nazi.

Talking about book burning and censorship? Calling people “degenerates” and “freaks” because they don’t consume the same morally pure content and beliefs as you? That’s some Nazi shit

Talking about how certain people need to be ‘purged’ and how we’d just be better off if they were eliminated entirely? Doesn’t matter who you’re talking about, that’s some Nazi shit too

Talking about how you’re not “left wing” or “right wing” - you’re better than that? You’re special and different and above the political system? Congrats!!! That is also some Nazi shit!!!

Idk man I’m just tired. I’m so sick of people who claim to be liberals parroting Nazi rhetoric and thinking it’s ok when they do it. I’m sick of conservatives parroting Nazi rhetoric but hiding it behind a nickname so nobody can call them on it. Call them fucking Nazis. If some of yall wanna talk like them so bad surely you won’t mind, right?

[nsfwitchy2]

This is such a minor thing and not even really worth griping over

But man I am so tired of seeing lesbian bait with like. The most conventionally attractive straight woman. Or seeing lesbians thirst over the most conventionally attractive straight woman.

There are hoards of butches and femmes at your finger tips and y’all are still out here posting pictures of random straight girls from Instagram like “where can I find a girl like this 😩”

[nsfwitchy2]

Tbh it’s kinda funny to me how ADAMANT some people are that rape fantasies create rapists because like,,,, if you look back at early erotica, a LOT of it was rape fantasies. Some of these books were even like, written and enjoyed by women. I feel like historically this is a pretty common and admittedly popular sexual fantasy.

[nsfwitchy2]

The fact that like,,,, teachers all across America aren’t striking rn is genuinely so baffling and ngl a little disappointing