#sex doesnt even have to involve genitals tbh

[its-the-ratdawg]

contrary to popular belief the weirdest sex scene in Hannibal was not the kaleidoscope lesbian sex scene or the foursome scene which included Hannibal as an antler demon, it was absolutely the scene where they didnt have sex and they ate those birds instead

[on-leatheredwings]

Do you have any tips for writing smut? I can do hcs ok, but I'm not having any luck actually writing it in story format :((

cw nsfw nsft 18+

oh man i do i suppose!!

first, i'm sure youre doing better than you think!!! :^Dc writing smut is just like writing anything else! its just a lot of style and practice involved, its not so enigmatic ^_^

it's called "the bare bones" but idk this guide is rlly all you need to read (for penis-into-vagina sex)

a lot under cut because man i could talk about writing sex all day, i also want to get better at it.

i especially like this part in the link--

Sure, you could write “He kissed her roughly, bringing a hand up under her shirt to gently cup her breast, tugging at the fabric.” and it’s great, tells the physical story - but, bring some just a small bit of emotional flourishing into it, and it gives the reader a better look into your characters mind. “Fervently he kissed her, bringing a shaking hand up under her shirt to tenderly cup her breast, tugging anxiously at the fabric.” And if you really want to show the mind over body - because internal is JUST as important as external. “A nervous huff passed his lips as they pressed eagerly to the girls - this was it, this was the moment he’d waited for. Fumbling hands struggled to slide under her shirt, stumbling their way to her bra to cup her breast gently.”

--because its so true!! no matter how casual the sex is, its two people being vulnerable with each other so make sure to color all their actions with emotion... whether that's anger, passion, anxiety, excitement or even indifference.

also, when i write, i pause and wonder what i want the reader to feel from it? like if i want them to feel held, shoved, smothered, overstimulated, etc. that usually will bleed into the 'tempo' of my writing. when its really frenetic and quick, i'll prob use a lot of em dashes (LOL) to show ppl's thoughts or actions are colliding into one another. when i want it to be very romantic and visceral, my sentences will get longer, i'll probably use more flowery language.

if you need help describing pleasure/actions without being too repetitive: this thesaurus site is amazing. i use it for like all my fics... instead of saying 'moaned' for the 50th time you could say: whined, groaned, grunted, mewled, whimpered, cried... etc

i need to be a lil better about positioning characters physically honestly. but it helps to really take their actions step by step.

like: person 1 kisses > person 2 falls back > person 1 follows them down > person 1 knees and gives oral > and on and on...

make sure you have a good mental image of what's happening the reader will get confused and fast.

(AS I TYPE THIS I REMEMBER I NEED TO EDIT ONE SENTENCE IN MY JASON X READER because i said he was eye-level with Reader's pussy but did not clarify if he scooted back to see it or something.)

for body parts/genitalia: everyone's different... but i try to use words like dick/pussy and penis/vagina sparingly...

i find dick a little juvenile unless i'm trying to make the sex sound raunchy.

penis/vagina can sound rlly unsexy and scientific fast, but aren't BAD necessarily! i find clit/clitoris p natural sounding though lol.

sometimes helps to describe the form of the genitals! like "he traces along her folds", "she ducks her head and swallows his length", "his tongue laps at her entrance"...

everyone's different when it comes to that. just pay attention to what makes you cringe (tbh) and what doesnt :^Dc ....

[mwagneto]

tbh my headcanon for good omens is they do like. whatever they want with sex. like they have angel powers and they’re gonna use them… like that might mean, switching, kinky shit, anal, piv, whatever they want, when they want. go crazy go wild. i agree with u tho, i feel like people just think piv sex is more ‘real’. and even in other fandoms they’ll headcanon characters as trans. also like. i almost never see transmasc porn where their partner DOESNT have a dick (whether a cis man or trans woman).

no yea see i understand that approach but it feels like just. a very bad reading of their characters to me? like. that kind of inherently implies they'd get bored of each other/being vanilla or that they'd want to change their bodies in any way which i think is just straight up not true like. they've spent 6000 yrs not even fucking and they'd still spend every second with each other if they could, it's not like they'd need like. variety when it comes to sex yknow. and also they like their human bodies as they are and they like their silly little human rituals i dont see why they'd ever get all shapeshifty for sex (insert that book quote abt *crowley's human man body being called his "favourite shape" to be* here). but like this is just my personal opinion, the stuff i was saying before was legit criticism of homophobia but this paragraph is going into subjective territory so whatev

AND NO YEAH FORREAL LIKE. even if giving them different genitals didn't feel rly weird/fetishy it somehow Always ends up w a piv convo like not just here but fr any time a trans person whether man or woman is involved it always hasss to be piv like that's so clearly a fetish at that point

[lgbtpolitics]

I have fairly mixed feelings on discourse about genital preferences so I usually avoid it but i have honestly just seen the most bizarre article. It seems to be insinuating that having a genital preference is some form of harassment? Even like... an intention to sexually assault somebody??

I mean, no it doesn't?? Saying you have one specific preference does not mean it is the only criteria that needs to be fulfilled for sex to happen. It also doesn't mean you are assuming what they do with this body part - its at most vaguely inferring what the speaker might like to do in bed. Even thats loose tbh as its a very generalised statement. It basically just means "I find [criteria] to be a significant turn off".

There's also a weird assumption here that if you dont like something you can just sort of ignore it, like if someone doesnt want their penis touched then the question of liking penises goes out the window but it doesnt really though...

I mean this is certainly true but again just not very relevant to a question of preferring one set of genitals to another, someone wanting or not wanting their sexual partners to have certain physical traits (genitals or others) isnt assuming a "free reign" its just one criteria.

I feel as though person is completely misunderstanding (or indeed deliberately misrepresenting) how people actually talk... like if you say you like or dislike a certain feature, you are talking about a hypothetical person who meets your other criteria and wants you back. As such scrutinising what they are comfortable with is impossible to do as that would involve a specific, real, person. Certainly before sex with a specific real person these are things you should be talking about, but the idea that you shouldn't talk more generally about preferences is just totally unrealistic.

The other half of the point in the article is also quite ridiculous but less accusatory. I dont know what I felt the need to write a post about this but I'm honestly just perplexed as I have become convinced this is not satire not intentional trolling.

[kinkymagnus]

piercing anon: tbh i don't know why i expected cultural interest from a blog about an asian uwu-sub and yaoi supporter. if it had infections depicted i would have said that. but also you're the designated kinky blog and not interested in genital piercings, so, again. idk why i bothered.

(in reference to this ask.)

look, anon. if you’d started off with “hey, here’s a really cool cultural thing that could be related to magnus’s culture! it’s about genital piercings, and...” so on, then maybe i would have been prepared and willing to push past the squick to learn more. i mean, i’ve looked at/learned about things i find gross (not that it’s gross, but i mean like, squicky) in school, so for the cultural part i might be willing to talk even if not so much about the sexy part. 

but you didn’t. you went with the blank anxiety inducing void of “google this on the german wikipedia, it involves images of genitals and a cultural aspect” like. i had no idea what i could be tripping into here. i can’t read german, so i’d have to rely on google translate. honestly, maybe this was a bad assumption, but i figured the cultural aspect was going to be like, german culture, given you said it only appeared on german wikipedia. i don’t know if that’s true. and as for “i’d have said if it was infections related” well i’d really love to be able to assume that about every anon in my inbox, but sometimes people don’t have good intentions, or are just genuinely oblivious. you warned for genitals, so i assume you had some idea the images might be upsetting or weird, but i wasn’t sure what else might be involved. infections were one example. piercings might be another. 

and just because i’m a designated kinky blog doesn’t mean i’m into everything! i’ve said in the past there are things i’m not interested in or don’t like. to be fair, i don’t believe piercings have come up on any public posts. i do sometimes lose track of what i’ve told who, so if you’d just said it was genital piercings related i might have reacted differently, because you couldn’t have known. (i’d make a list but honestly i don’t think anyone would look at it, and anyway, sometimes you don’t know you’re Really Not Into Something until you look at it and that might be misleading for someone, you know?) but my blog isn’t a public service, or a dispensary like “insert sexy thing here for cool post”. i’m sorry i couldn’t make you your cool post. if you were specifically looking for something involving trans or sub magnus (apparently not the latter?) then i get there are precious few other blogs who might want to participate. but if you really thought i was like, a Yaoi Girl(TM) or something, why send me anything at all? 

and anyway i don't think "yaoi supporter" is a fair thing here, especially as that's generally like a Cishet Girl being homophobic against mlm and i??? am mlm??? shipping two men and writing them in sexual situations doesnt automatically make you a Fetishizing Yaoi Supporter. but if I've ever came across that way then please, let me know how. bc if it's just "you talked about men having sex and not much else" then respectfully, that's bullshit. im a mlm and a porn blog, I do tend to talk about mlm sex a lot. but if theres something else... shoot me another ask, i guess.

finally, i’ve never meant to imply magnus was uwu weak soft boy at all, or that he was a sub because he was asian, or that being asian made him all uwu soft baby or something like that. i do believe that he can BE a sub without it being Like That, but if my portrayal of that was badly written, if that ever came across i’m truly sorry and i’d like to know how i did that so i can try and be better. 

[thstruckersatlas]

#1-92 🙃

1:When did you lose your virginity? I was like 18 and it was to my first boyfriend 2: Rough sex or soft sex? It usually depends on my mood but I really like soft sex3: Do you have any unusual kinks/fetishes? Not that I know of 4: Weirdest place you’ve had sex? I’m not that interesting like that so the most ive done is in a car. 5: Favourite sex position? I love being on top 6: Do you like to be dominant or submissive? It depends on the mood7: Have you ever had any one night stands? Once and I felt really bad about it cus they ended up catching the feelings8: Sex on the bed, couch or the floor? I love a nice bed 9: Have you ever had sex in a public place? Nooo10: Have you ever been caught masturbating? Once when i lived at home 11: What does your favourite sexy underwear look like? Its the cutest because its lace and black 12: How often do you have sex? hahaha I havent had sex in a very long time 13: Is there anybody right now you’d like to have sex with? Oh yes 14: Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex? I prefer receiving 15: Most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you during sex? I fell out of the bed once and also one time my leg cramped both of which made me want to die and become a nun16: A song you’d listen to during hard/rough/kinky sex? Thats a hard one i never had thought about that maybe something circa surviveish17: A song you’d listen to during soft/slow/passionate sex?  Also idk anything like Phoenix like 18: Are you into dressing up for sex? Oh yes very 19: Would you prefer sex in the bath or sex in the shower? 20: If you could have sex with anyone right now, who would it be? Yeah nice try internet. I will say this I have the biggest crush on them21: Have you ever had a threesome? If not, would you? Ugh no and thats one of the things I will never change my mind on22: Do you/would you use sex toys? I do 23: Have you ever sent someone a dirty text/picture? Yeah24: Would you have sex with your best friend? Nah theyre annoying 25: Is there anything you do after sex? (for example, smoke, eat, drink) I like to eat  lol26: Something that will never fail to get you horny? I get really wet when my thighs are played with27: Early morning sex or late night sex? Late night works for me28: Favourite body part on the opposite sex? I really like nice arms29: Favourite body part on the same sex?30: Something that you have hidden in your room that you don’t want anyone to find: Nothing  tbh31: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you: It was weird and it involved feet32: Have you ever tasted yourself? [If no, would you?] [If yes, what did you think?] I havent actually33: Is it ever okay to not use a condom: I mean unless youre like planning on having a kid 34: A food that you would like to use during a sexual experience: yeah none35: Worst possible time to get horny: At work or when youre sad 36: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans? I do actually its nice37: How much fapping is too much fapping:38: Best sexual complement you ever got: Someone told me I was the pretties tperson they wer with and thats not sexual but it was great lol39: Favorite foreplay activities:40: What do you wear to bed? Pusheen jammies41: When was the first time you masturbated: I was like 15 lol42: Do you have any nude/masturbating pictures/video of yourself? I have a folder full of them43: Have you ever/when was the last time you had sex outside? NOo44: Have/would you ever have sex in public? Noo lol im not spontaneous for that45: Have/would you ever had a threesome? UHH nooooo46: What is one random object you’ve used to masturbate?47: Do you watch gay/lesbian porn? why/why not? No and because thats never interested me48: Do you like oral sex? (why/why not) I love it i think i get off on that more than i do with actual sex49: How do you feel about tattoos on someone you are interested in? Thats fine50: How would you feel about taking someones virginity? Oh gosh no thats too much responsibility 51: Is there any food you would NOT recommend using during a sexual encounter? I’m gonna go with hot cheetos52: Would you rather be a pornstar or a prostitute? Id rather be a pornstar i mean at least youre famous lol53: Do you watch porn? Not really 54: Have you ever been called a freak? Why? No lol55: Do you feel comfortable going “commando”? No 56: Would you have a problem with going down on someone if they hadn’t shaved their pubic hair? I mean i wouldnt but it definitely makes things a bit more challenging57: If you could give yourself head, would you? No lol58: Booty or Boobs? Butt because i like mine59: Have you ever cheated on someone? (Why?) No60: If you were the other sex for a day, what are five things you would do?61: have you ever watched someone masturbate? Yeah 62: has anyone ever watched you masturbate? Yeah 63. Have you ever had an erection and someone noticed? 64. What is your method of masturbation? (ie. toys, clitorial, prostate)65. What is your bra/penis size? I’m a 36 b66. What is the strangest thing you have ever put up your vagina/anus? hahaha 67. When was the last time you masturbated? Yesterday68. When was the last time you had sex? Im not even joking like a year ago69. When was the last time you watched porn? I think like a year ago70. Have you ever bought a sex toy? If so, which one did you buy last? First sex toy? If not, which one do you plan on buying when you do?71. Guys:Circumsized?72. Which not-genital part of your body do you like being touched? My things 73. Which genital part of your body do you like being touched? Anything between my legs74. Girls:Are you able to achieve orgasm just through breast stimulation? No that doesnt work for me75. Have you anonymously sent a sexual ask to someone on tumblr? No lol76. When was the last time you have had a wet dream? I think it was like a week ago77. Which wet dream was your favorite? I dreamt once 78. Is there a friend you would willingly have sex with? theres one79. Is there a celebrity/character you would willingly have sex with? Id let Barry from Joyce Manor do many things to me lol80. Favorite sexual position? I love being on top81. Do you like being called a slut or whore in bed? Nooo 82. Are you into any BDSM? No83. Have you ever wanted to have sex with someone but knew you couldnt for any reason? Why? Of course and they live too far84. Do you like dirty talk? I love it 85. Are you loud or quiet during sex? Masturbation? I think im in the medium i do have soft moans 86. Have you ever been inturrepted during sex or masturbation?Who/what? I was interrupted once by my sister lol87. What kind of porn do you like to watch? It usually involves being eaten out 88. Have you ever confessed to someone that you got an erection over them? What about masturbated to them? No lol89. Have you ever masturbated because your sexual partner wasn’t there when you needed them? I masturbate a lot lol 90. Have you ever had a one night stand? Do you still keep in contact with them? I did and i never texted them back even tho i knew they liked me in the other sense. I think its one of the things i still fell bad about.91. Have you ever had a friends with benefits? Are they still beneficial? I mean its not a total friends with benefits deal but it kind of was/is its strange.92. Ask whatever you want