#she upbraided me for forgetting to turn the coffee machine off even though she knows i have memory problems

[unwounding]

Sometimes my grandmother does or says something triggering and ideally I would convey the resulting discomfort using conflict resolution techniques, but also I just don't have the energy for it anymore. And really, do I have to explain why saying things "What is wrong with you?! (derogatory)" would make me uncomfortable? It also doesn't help that this woman constantly talks behind my back, except it really isn't behind my back because it's in earshot. I really had to explicitly tell her not to relay information about me back to my mother. Why she was/maybe still is in contact with that woman after I revealed all the sociopathic things she subjected me to remains obscures. The only thing I know now is that I'm very tired of it.