#so many femmes who rb these types of posts are the problem

[pinkcarabiner]

if your first instinct when you see a butch is to talk about how you want to "suck their dick" or "have them prey on you" when you don't know them/have prior consent to do so, that is plain fetishization. so many butches (esp. those who are butch4butch) talk about how they don't feel safe around femmes they don't know because how common this kind of behavior is. i see femmes brag about sending horny anons and messages to butches, then are confused and surprised when they don't receive sexual attention in return and are told to back off. the fact that some femmes think this is okay is absolutely sickening and disgusting.

also, this kind of fetishization is so often directed at trans butches (esp. transfem) and butches of color by cis white femmes. if butches acted this way towards femmes, they would be called creepy and predatory so quickly. think about why you're able to get away with it. it's so clear that so many "femmes" believe that sexual attraction to butches is what makes you a femme, it doesn't. loving butches as people and supporting our community are integral to the femme identity, not fetishization.