#the first one kinda stacks the deck by leading off with rape and abuse | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

shredsandpatches · 6 months

Text

saw a post just now that had these two paragraphs in it (quite far apart; emphasis added)

purity culture is being told to forgive your abuser, rapist, or even just people who have slighted and hurt you or else you will never fully heal, or that it makes you in someway bad too, or even just as bad as them

...

purity culture is doing something bad, and when you try to seek atonement or correct the mistake, that it is unforgivable and will alway be a blight on you, even if others can "learn to look past it"

and the dissonance is kinda making me feel off and wrong, is that also purity culture or what

#idk man #the first one kinda stacks the deck by leading off with rape and abuse #and maybe the implication is that they're not sorry for hurting you #but i don't think op would think you had to forgive them even if they were #but still #idk i was watching a video a while back about a fictional character and the qualities that make him redeemable #despite the text being clear on him having done terrible if non-specified things #and the main argument ended up being 'because he's fictional'#and i just sorta wondered #what does 'redemption' even mean in that context #what does it mean in a secular context #like the religious meaning is specifically one of salvation

6 notes · View notes