#this is why we're in deficit btw

[bankaizen]

work wants us to do an mbti test for our upcoming retreat..... i cannot express just how useless and a waste of money this will be

[skinscals]

hellooo I have a question, how exactly do you loose weight (un-/healthy)and in what period of time?

I started 2022. I was at 244lbs. For 1.5 year my weight went up and down and up and down, now I've lost the weight in a half a year and it has stayed that way.

I eat 1000kcal, sometimes more sometimes less so my body won't get used to anything. I go for walks. That's pretty much all. I'm still recovering from my binging habits, so I have to play this game I call "How to not binge today" xD.

I focus on protein, fiber and carbs. I SAID IT, CARBS. AND FATS. Fats, because I don't want to become an idiot, brain needs fats. I focus on those things while eating in a deficit, and if some days I go over my deficit, but I haven't had any protein today, I prioritize the protein over calories. This has worked for me so well it's like I've cracked a code for wl.

I don't have "I will never eat x and x foods" mindset, I have "I don't really need x and x foods, but if I really want some I'll take little amount". Helps with binging btw.

I'm guessing you're confused why I am here? If I have this mindset I must be doing this the healthy way? Truth is, I can't and I won't. My ways and priorities are just different. It's not always about ⭐ving or exercising, for me it's playing mind games all the time. My mind won't stay quiet about it. Ever. I have a very physical job where I burn 500-1200 kcal a day, depending on my shift. I need my protein, fiber, carbs and fats. I'm not seeking any attention, I don't want to get caught or be seen as unwell and fragile. We're all different. You can be smart and disordered, I don't want to D1€ from this. I don't wanna be dumb, because my brain won't function. I don't wanna pee myself.

I hope I answered your questions! 🩷

[aromacaque]

1, 3, 9, 11 (or rather the fictional soulmate trope, if you enjoy it and how), 28

what arospec labels do you identify with?

aromantic!

3. arospec headcanons?

SO GLAD YOU ASKED

aromantic allosexual macaque (i don't know why he gives off aroallo vibes but he just is okay he told me himself)

aroace wukong for both jttw and lmk, actually jttw reinforces that hc for lmk to me (specifically romance repulsed)

aroace mk, i teeter between romance repulsed and romance neutral with him, maybe demiromantic, but like generally i see him as repulsed)

there's something arospec about mel from arcane. i can't explain it

aroace mikey (rottmnt, i can't explain this one either)

there are others i swear on my life but all i have in my brain are the monkeys i don't remember any other characters it's only legos

9. how do you define your experience with being arospec? what’s your attraction (or lack thereof) like? what does being arospec encompass for you personally?

i guess romance-repulsed aromantic is how i define it? i've never had a crush before in my life, romance directed at me in any way or being misunderstood as others to come across like that makes me feel weird and it's like .. idk i'm just not interested in people like that. i do sometimes feel grossed out by people around me in relationships and stuff, but definitely not anywhere near what i've seen a lot of other repulsed aros describe??? it's not as intense. but it's there.

11. thoughts on soulmates?

i don't think the idea of soulmates is limited to romantic relationships. i think the idea, especially in fiction, is more compelling if it's a "string of fate" that's connected to people who naturally come into each others lives like there was always a spot for them. and i don't mind fictional tropes where it's limited to one special person, but i also think it can be multiple people?

i don't mind the trope, romantic or not, but the way it's portrayed in romance stories tends to be really amanormative and convey a "romance is superior to friendship" message which i do not care for at all

also i don't know if i believe in soulmates irl really, but i do think there are people that you could meet, even if completely by chance, that kinda feel like soulmates?? there probably are anyway. i've at least seen it happen to other people where they instantly click with someone and become best friends in a short span of time so anything is possible

28. what’s the most efficient way to befriend you? how would someone win you over platonically?

ACTUALLY A REALLY HARD QUESTION FOR ME. i wouldn't say it's hard to become my friend objectively, it's just that i'm really bad at making friends. i have waaay more acquaintances than friends because i'm really bad at messaging people. or reaching out beyond the weird coworker/classmate/mutual state (sorry to all my friends who i barely message btw you are all cool i promise)

so ig the way to combat that is just through semi frequent interactions or playing games together and stuff?? bonus points if we're talking about one of my special interests or hyperfixations, which is like kinda surface level but if you talk to me about lmk you've got my attention immediately. autism may be a communication deficit disability but the obsessions do not fuck around and it's an easy ice breaker... or something

also if you're funny. that's subjective so idk what that actually says, but if you're funny i'm sold. i love my friends btw you are all so funny

so unrelated but i need to play lethal company and content warning again with my friends it's been a while we've all been too busy

[fenmere]

Maladaptive What?

We REALLY dislike the term "maladaptive daydreaming". For pretty much the same reasons we hate the term "Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder".

To be clear, we have done a LOT of what is called "maladaptive daydreaming" since we were at least 3 years old. We LIVE through it. It's why we have been staunch TTRPG gamers since 5th grade, why we did a webcomic, and why we're writing novels. Those activities are forms of "maladaptive daydreaming" for us.

For us, it is absolutely related to our plurality, our autism, and our dysphoria. All of those things are inseparable and indistinguishable in us, BTW, practically one thing. It's impossible to say which caused the others, because they were all there from the beginning.

And to call the one way we can express our true selves and continue to live our lives as fully as possible "maladaptive" is a fucking ableist and saneist insult.