#to live authentically i kind of have to be squicky and annoying to some people. i'm not trying for mass appeal! | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

crimeronan · 6 months

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(Biphobia anon) but then I realize that by saying "people who are vocal about disliking these ships are biphobic" i'm definitely following the same flawed logic (twisting likes and dislikes into an ethical debate). So yeah I'll try my best to embrace complexity and ambiguity in characters and media and accept people will have wildly differing readings of the same text 😌😌 sorry for sending you deranged anons with my stream of consciousness like im phoning into a local radio station

i actually don't think your other anon went through! but assuming it was about how people don't think luz is queer enough if she dates a boy..... yeah, it's not my favorite thing either. and in my experience it really just comes back to ship wars and feeling Threatened.

like, the reason i like amity/luz/hunter so much is because the three of them have SO MANY relationship parallels, it compels me eternally. and the way i think about them as a triad is way more in line with romantic shipping than nuclear family sibling constructs, even when i'm writing hunter as strictly platonic with both of them.

so i end up having more in common with monogamous luz/hunter shippers than monogamous luz/amity shippers, just bc we're both shipping non-canon stuff -- as long as those shippers don't attack amity for no reason. and i get wary of people who have Any kind of "luz/hunter is incest" stance because i'm like .....i recognize that you probably have some kind of personal experience factoring into your reading of the text, here. like i don't want to take you in bad faith immediately.

however.

i Do suspect that our personal experiences are..... sorta..... fundamentally incompatible.....

#replies #like if you're super uncomfortable with platonic partners calling themselves partners or calling it dating or whatever #as opposed to calling themselves friends/siblings #that is your prerogative! we all have different words we use for ourselves!#but you're also gonna be wildly uncomfortable around me. given how i do my own relationships irl and ship things fictionally.#that's Okay. we don't have to get along. we can just do our own thing and not worry about the other #u know?? like as long as people aren't asking me to change my own behavior based on their squicks it's fine.#to live authentically i kind of have to be squicky and annoying to some people. i'm not trying for mass appeal!#it's only when ppl make their squicks my problem that i'm like. rolls up sleeves. ok we're gonna fight now.#toh

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