#warners book is great because it talks about projected and internalized shame

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I’m not quite sure how to word this but I’ve been digging into “lesbian 101” books like Stone Butch Blues, are there are books you think every gay man should read?

hmm. my mind immediately goes to The Velvet Rage, which is a book written by a gay therapist about gay male specific trauma/coping/experiences. Do i think the book is often very white/rich centric in its experiences? Yea, but I also feel what it says about the coping behaviors and experiences that are unique to gay men can provide insight for all kinds of queer men, and have certainly helped me understand the experiences of cis gay men (but also how those experience broach into trans gay male experiences). I think it offers a very important view into gay male culture, including hyper-sexuality, fatphobia, fag-bashing, and more.

Another book that I think all queers should read is Michael Warner's The Trouble with Normal. I have some gripes with Warner himself, but this book is extremely solid in the ways it calls out the LGBTQ movement/organizations into selling out to cis-heteronormativity, social purity, and overall dessexualization of the movement. If anyone needs to read this book, it's definitely the catty gay men who think they are better than other gays for hating "weird" queers.

Those r just two books that come to mind ^-^