#yeah yeah but like. being cis is such an ephemeral state of being | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

thatwitchrevan · 10 months

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The thing about armchair diagnosing cis people as trans is that if you accept that everyone's understanding of gender is deeply personal and that you shouldn't tell someone they're not trans or not trans in the right way, you should also accept that you can't tell someone they are trans or that they're not cis in the right way. Or that they have to either identify as trans or cis.

These are all just words and there's never any excuse to argue with someone over who they are.

I don't think most people are genuinely trying to overrule the 'cis in a gnc way' perspective but even being flippant about it is not helpful. Also I think cis people talking about gender in complex and fun ways is very cool.

#everyone is allowed to have their own gender #it's not like 'trans people get to do whatever they want and cis are boring and default'#cis just means you generally identify with the gender you were assigned or don't strongly identify with something else #not that you never think about what gender means to you or that you think you're a woman BECAUSE you have a certain body #everyone is capable of understanding the difference between sex and societal gender roles and gender identity #if we try to say that only trans people have this forbidden knowledge that's just another way of alienating ourselves #and suppressing discussion of gender #gender things #anyway i said this bc i was watching a video essay about transness in horror #and she talked about a mangaka who writes trans narratives and has this really complex relationship with his own gender #but doesn't openly identify as trans #and i think we will lose a lot of interesting stories and people if we tell cis people to either be quiet about gender identity or be trans #and i know it's like. 'no one's telling them to shut up they're the majority'#yeah yeah but like. being cis is such an ephemeral state of being #you could just as easily not be cis within a moment #so it makes no sense to me to act like every cos person individually is An Oppressor #they're literally not they're just other people under the same stupid capitalist imperialist society as us #that wants them to be stuffed into tiny marketable boxes just as much as it wants us to be #so not they're not an elevated class and they're not barred from the table #the reason we have community is for support and understanding but some cis people support and understand us and some trans people don't #everything has nuance #anyway i want to engage less with labels and more with people and let them tell me who they are

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