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The Retro

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Why woman pays the price of man's insecurities?

Disclaimer: Long Post. As everyone knows that we live in a gender oriented society, where we always objectify people around us and discriminate people on the basis of their color, race & gender. No matter how much we say that we don't, but yeah we do in our social gatherings, offices, and universities. Specifically I'm talking about men. Most of the time their topic of conversation is women and they objectify them easily. Without even a thought that their sister/mother/daughter is also a female. Fast forward, domestic violence is the biggest evidence of "woman paying the cost of man's Insecurities" Whenever a man fails to accomplish his goals he always releases his frustration on women; married ones, their wives, their mothers and sisters. In this cycle, the victim is always a woman. Sadly some people even beat their wives which is hideous to even think of. Here I want to highlight few scenarios in which "woman pays the cost of man's insecurities". When someone gets married in our family and after substantial time of marriage we have relatives who are used to ask again and again "or kush khabri kab dy rhy hain aplog?" First these people need to get rid of such sick mentality. Because having a baby is a matter of choice (I believe) if one is not capable to raise a baby accordingly so why a couple should be forced to have one? Besides if a couple tries but is unfortunately incapable to conceive a child, all the rocks will fall on the woman and the same relatives will be like "apki bahu main hi koi masla hoga" neglecting the biological fact that the man could also be suffering from infertility and the same story goes on and on. Now at this stage, man should take a step to secure her dignity but no, here the guy is trying to clean his shit. As time passes the guy's family forces him for another marriage without even thinking that there is a woman whose whole life could be traumatized by this decision. They can adopt a baby if they are dying for one but NO because "kisi or kay khoon ko kis tarah pyar kar saktay hain hum?" discrimination starts from here. And after all this mass confusion that man marries to another woman and again the same story repeats itself. Another scenario is regarding single men. Whenever they fail to accomplish their goals and fail to do something worthwhile in that time, they come home and channel their frustration on their mothers and sisters. This thing should be ended. Because men must take responsibility for their loss and their incapability rather then women. So concluding these words I believe we should understand the basic rights of women and treat them well. Because a woman wants nothing but unconditional support from her man. And we should end this culture which has developed in our society. Ps. I know talli ake hath say nahi bajti. So in next article I will write about men's rights

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Uber Drive: The tale of integrity.

Disclaimer: Long Post: Yesterday I had some important work at Saddar Karachi. So I decided to book uber taxi because it was cost-effect for me. I booked my uber Rickshaw and started my ride towards my destination. The driver was good and such a nice person, we had some productive talk and then he started to telling his story that. When we crossed Liaquatabad flyover. We stuck in Kms long traffic jam and after half an hour in traffic. The driver said me: Bhai main Ride end kardoon? I asked why? He said yar heavy jam hai. Or fazool apka bill banta ja raha hai. At that time we were around Nafeesabad. He suggest me that I can take alternative route to saddar from lasbela. So it was already 45 minutes in traffic jam. So I decided to end up my ride and paid my bill. Then I crossed road and asked few of taxis and Rickshaws for the ride everyone refuses and reason was same "bhai traffic bhott jam hai" So now I was dilemma and looking here and there. After 5 minutes I saw that same uber driver was on the other side of road stuck in traffic I rushed towards him and said "Bhai ab ap hi lay chalo, kyunkay koi nahi jaa raha saddar" He said "yar theek hai. Lkn ap apnay phone say book karlyn wapis" So I said I don't have an internet. At same time 2 passengers arrived and wanted to book his Rickshaw for their ride to Khudadad Colony. Now situation turned in chaos. He decided to offline his app and took those passengers in his Rickshaw along with me. Now he stared to telling his story that how he was working in supply chain in one of the renowned fashion brand of Pakistan and due to change in management how he lost his job and ended up to be uber driver. He was very satisfied with his life. Besides He mentioned few things which I believe should be address and must be end in our society. He said "yar log apni frustration hum drivers par utartay hain". I asked how so told me a Story that day before my ride he accepted a ride of a woman from Karachi University. When he reached KU he felt that there Is some issue in engine. Which may cause engine break down and he should solve it asap. So he asked that woman. "Madam main ye masla sahi karloon engine ka? Sirf 10 mins lagen gy." So that woman allowed him to do so but after few minutes woman asked him about progress so he said he is working on it.now here woman said "apka Rickshaw to ajeeb khataraa hai" (in humiliating tone) now the driver said madam ye engine issues hain or khabi bhe aa saktay hain. And this is not the way. Now women called him illiterate and stared humiliating him more. So on some point driver said madam main sirf 8th class passed hun. Ap mujhy badtameez bol rhi hai k mujhy bat karnay ki tameez nahi. lkn apto university main pharti hain. Phr ap is tarah bt kar rahi hain. Jab kay main apki ijazat say Rickshaw theek kar raha hun. After this woman ended up to cancel his ride and complained about him to uber management. So at that time is already my 1 hour and 15 minutes in traffic. And we reached at Khudadad Colony and dropped of those passengers. And enroute towards saddar which was my destination. In mean time he asked about my work so I replied that I'm studying computer sciences so stared asked me how the functionality of That uber app and said he is curious about technology and want to learn software development. So here he shared his experiences and thoughts about technology. And after 15 minutes we reached at my destination. And when I asked for a bill he said "Bhai jo dil karay dy do." I insist him and he asked for reasonable amount. And paid him off. When he was leaving he asked for my contact details so he can learn something about computer sciences. In the light of above scenario I concluded few points that no matter how bad day you had you should not shout or humiliate some one no matter he/she is your servants or may be driver. Because not everyone doing this kind of job for their interest. They are in need and it is our moral duty to help unfortunate peoples around us. Because shouting will cause nothing but depression in that particular person on which you shouted. In the end I want you people that you should address this kind of issues around you. so world can become better place for everyone. Because people need positivity and happiness. So its better to become reason of someone's happiness.