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taysxdelicate · 4 years

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A warning to Tumblr and Discord users in the Six and WATT fandoms

Tw for stalking, guilt tripping, deception, suicide, death threats, and hate anons.

In the beginning of summer, there was an incident that showed the true colors of some of my former friends, especially one who has proven themself to be hostile and dangerous multiple times. I stayed quiet about this for a while as I wanted to forget the drama and the pain they caused me and my friends, but recently I’ve found out that they have continued to hurt many of my friends, claim a minor who was a victim of the situation had attacked them, and more. Because of such dangers, and because these people are present in both the Six and WATT fandoms, my friends and I found it necessary that we share this story as a warning to others.

On May 11, the Parrlyn Discord server was created. I, being an acquaintance of the server owner, was one of the server’s mods who would talk to everyone and work with the owner to make it a safer place. This server ended up being how I first became close with the person who caused so much drama: @Chess-exists (Chess).

Chess and I would talk on both the Parrlyn server and dms, and I soon joined other servers at their request. We considered each other friends, but they also set off many red flags. Some of the major of these being Chess lying about hacking into the Sixcord and deleting the server because “all the mods hated them”, claiming they can cry when ready and wanting to pretend someone on the Parrlyn server was dead to prank another person on the server.

In mid-June the Parrlyn Discord faced the 3rd big incident that has happened on the server. Someone jokingly entered under Moan-Jeutas’s (Lizzie’s) username, said “I’m 12, don’t attack me !!” and left when they noticed people were beginning to panic.

I was offline whilst this happened, and when I came online shortly afterward I found a few people panicked. Instantly, I was asked by multiple people to call them. I texted some of them while going on call with a friend of mine who is a young minor, @lakes-other-sixes (aka Lake), who was crying. I was then informed by Lake that they knew who had entered the server with Lizzie’s username. At the same time, a friend outside of the server had confessed to me through DM about being behind the Lizzie account along with one other person. They profusely apologized and explained what had happened.

Although my friend had made a mistake, I would like to give context of why they ever thought of the joke in the first place. When they were temporarily on the Parrlyn Discord, it was just starting out, with about ten people including us and nobody who had admitted to being triggered by Lizzie’s writing.

This friend and I constantly talked about Parrlyn fics together, and one of the things we mentioned was Lizzie’s Carrie AU and how I would have liked to talk to her about it but didn’t want to bother her as she disliked the ship. The friend and I had both been going through personal issues at the time, I will openly state that mine was how my uncle died not even two weeks before this happened, and they thought a small joke could cheer us both up.

So this friend and another person thought it would only be an innocent inside joke between friends to pop on the server and mess with me and some other friends. They had no idea how big the server was or that people were triggered by Lizzie and left immediately.

The joke was wrong, and we all have acknowledged that. They both deeply apologized for it to me and some others. They wanted to fix things with the server, but there was one problem; our friend Lake knew who they were.

Lake is an extremely sweet kid. They were never a part of the joke, but were extremely scared that if the people’s names were released then everyone on the server would hate them. It was to the point that they were crying on the phone to me for about half an hour because of the situation. Because of this, me and the friends figured it would be best to apologize anonymously; not for their sake, but for the others who were scared. So I talked with the server owner and made an announcement sending an apology from them through me.

This is just our side, and I know some will disagree with the decision we made, but I was informed that someone had talked to Lizzie about it and that she knew about the situation and the anonymous apology. We kept it anonymous because we would never want to put any kid into the panicked state that Lake was in, and I will take any responsibility if it means I kept a kid from anymore serious panic. I have also apologized to Lizzie formally, as well as getting consent from her to use her name in this post and offering to answer any questions she had, including giving her the names of the people behind the account if she wanted them.

This mistake from my friends, which they had apologised for, was what led to Chess showing their true colours.

A few minutes after I posted the apology announcement, I was instantly added to a separate group chat titled “Smack a bitch” where Chess and their friend, Aine, had requested the name of my friend behind the account. This chat was highly inappropriate and hinted they would possibly send them hate and I didn’t approve of that, so I said no and left. I then later got a message from Lake that Chess was now interrogating them to spill who was behind the account.

Not only had this bothered me since Lake was young and was open about their anxiety, but also nobody but me and Lake’s former partner had known that they knew who was behind the fake account. They were extremely nervous and asked for help and I said I would talk to Chess for them since it made them uncomfortable.

When I went to talk to Chess, I told them to stop interrogating Lake because this was giving people more stress and I wouldn’t talk to them if they continued. They refused and asked me to “back the fuck up”.

After this conversation, I thought it was over. That was until 3 days later when one of my friends behind the account got hateful anons and death threats over the situation.

These anons were alarming, so I went to talk to the server owner about them. After a long discussion, the server owner confessed to Chess telling them everything they had done to find my friend.

This next part might be triggering for some, just a warning about stalking. (Ends after the screenshot)

Chess had confessed to stalking both my Instagram and Tumblr by going through them and making a suspect list of mutuals I interacted with so that they could interrogate Lake, a 14 year old, into saying who was behind the account.

(Note, none of the people mentioned here were either of the people behind the account)

After I sent the message telling them to stop the interrogation, Chess made Lake swear not to tell me anything else, got them and Aine on voice call, and guilt tripped them into feeling forced to agree to be interrogated on who the person was.

After Chess had successfully got the name of one of the people behind the fake account from Lake, they told the server owner and a few others the name of the person. One of whom was @herequeerandreadytokickass (Lex). Chess had also confessed to Lex about wanting to send anons to the person behind the account whose name they had found out. Lex had not only told me this on call, but also told me that the “friend” Chess was referring to in the hateful anons was me.

Utterly disgusted by their actions towards the situation, I blocked Chess. That was it. I explained to my friends why I blocked them and told them that they could still be friends with Chess, and I left the Parrlyn server to avoid drama since I figured Chess needed it more than me and wouldn’t hurt anyone else after this.

Chess was very upset that I blocked them without talking to them, and I refused to unblock them since they made me uncomfortable by this point. They then told a few friends they were framed for the anons even after previous confessions that they had sent them, and the fact that the anons only pointed to them.

One of the people Chess talked to was Lake, who then tried to find who sent the anons. After I found this out, I called Lake and we both shared our sides of the story. This is when Lake told me how Chess guilt tripped them, but also figured out that Chess had lied to them about how they found out Lake knew. Chess had blamed it on me telling someone, when Lake’s former partner confessed to telling Chess that Lake knew.

This new information caused Lake to become extremely panicked. They were already dealing with stress and just found out they had played a small part in their friend getting sent anon hate and death threats. Chess lying had triggered them more. I talked to Lake and helped them calm down and they decided to block Chess as well.

Chess didn’t like this. They immediately began to spam Lake’s user on a server and also had three friends ask them to unblock Chess.

Not only was this disrespecting Lake’s mental health and decision, but one of the people who dmed Lake had angrily blown up at them. This was @flat-dr-pepper-chasers (Robbie).

By blowing up on Lake, who was dragged into this situation and emotionally manipulated, Robbie caused Lake to panic again.

Soon after this, I got notified that Chess was so mad at Lake, that they deleted a server collaborative fanfic because it was Lake’s “pride and joy”.

Lake had now been through so much and they didn’t tell me anything until it was necessary. I had received all this info from another source because I was an ex-mod of the server and a person involved in the incident, but Chess began to blame Lake and continued to hate them.

I couldn’t take it anymore when I found out that Chess, a 16 year old, deleted the fic to spite Lake, a 14 year old who they had until very recently viewed as a friend, when Lake didn’t do anything. I knew I couldn’t let this slide or more people would get hurt, so I rejoined the server as a mod again, kicked Chess and explained the situation so everyone knew what was going on.

Do to a limit on screenshots the next part of the post will be reblogged by me, might take a second though to add in the screenshots.

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taysxdelicate · 4 years

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i hate to make this, but: a call out post.

Please keep in mind while reading this, we have minors who are under 15 that have asked to remain anonymous. They will be referred to as the minors when delved into each person's stories and their usernames have been blurred in relevant screenshots.

As well as this, so the screenshots don’t get confused, our names:

Amy - @boleynhowards (me) / i.cequeen on Instagram.

Maddy - @thenameisnoone / the_names_no_one on Instagram.

Jo - @thatbolxyngirl / historyeet on Instagram

The subject of this post is Tumblr user kakesparrlyn, or kraftingcereal on Instagram. I want to say that Kake has blocked me and @thatbolxyngirl ngirl on Tumblr, so they won’t see this unless they unblock me. This post is not to hurt anyone, but rather to warn others after our group went through an uncomfortable experience with this person.

My friends and I are not the type of people to make these posts, it hurts the majority of us to even think of doing such a thing, but we felt it was necessary for others to know. So this is posted here today as a caveat for anyone interested in this new group.

We are the old roleplay group that user kakesparrlyn (Kake) used to be in, and, to summarise, it turned wrong very quickly.

Kake proved to be a very problematic person to all of us by displaying lots of toxic behaviours. This included guilt tripping us, harassing the minors in our group, trying to roleplay NSFW with the minors, being easily offended when things didn’t go her way, acting biased towards personal opinions, and what is most appalling, sending sexual comments to the minors.

Whilst we would usually like to avoid conflict, we think it’s necessary to post this account of our stories. We wish for no one to fall to the mind and emotional manipulation and discomfort we have been through.

Starting off with one of our minors, Kake, who is an adult, has tried to roleplay smut with them. She requested if it was okay to roleplay a poly relationship for a ship she liked. With Kake not only being an adult, but also the admin of the group and play “adopting” said minor, the minor felt uncomfortable and pressured when needed to answer. She then requested a personal smut roleplay of her choice to another person to see if she, personally, liked a certain kink, choking, in front of the same minor.

The second of the minors was another one that she play “adopted.” Kake proceeded to pressure this minor into choosing a favourite friend, a week after meeting this minor. She was very adamant on getting this minor to choose her as her closest friend and didn't give up, even when the minor wanted her to stop, continuously insisting that she was the minor’s favorite.

As well as this, Kake gushed about her crushes on several others in the group to the same minor, including myself. In all, Kake made this minor severely uncomfortable, putting the minor in the middle of several conflicts, including calling the girls she had crushes on, choosing her favourite ‘mum’ friend and claiming she was the two crushes’ 'girlfriend.' On top of this, this minor played Catherine of Aragon in the roleplay and Kake forced them into roleplaying Aralyn, specifically an Aralyn that could have progressed into NSFW very quickly if the minor didn't shut it down.

The final minor, who also had a four year age gap with Kake, was guilt tripped and constantly felt forced to compliment her. They would feel panicked whenever Kake would send certain cryptic messages such as sharing private messages between herself and I which pulled the minor into the drama where they didn’t need to be. She would also occasionally say creepy things to the minor, calling them “hot” and then laughing about how creepy she sounded. Unfortunately there are no screenshots of this as it happened over a voice call.

This is only what happened to the minors under 15 who have asked to be unnamed to protect their safety. However, these atrocious acts do not end with them as they still continue with the slightly older minors, including myself, who have all agreed to be named.

The first person who has agreed to be named is @thenameisnoone. She was constantly guilt tripped and pressured to the point that she would have anxiety whenever texting Kake. When going through a tough time in real life and wanting to take a break from the roleplay, Kake begged them to stay and continued to message things such as “you are the only one who cares for me”. This added even more pressure onto her during such a hard time, and when she came back Kake ranted about how nobody loved her to them.

She also constantly needed to be in control of all group activities. A second group chat was made in which we played Minecraft and other games in. Kake was originally added to it, but left because she didn’t enjoy it. When @thenameisnoone mentioned how they were gaming instead of roleplaying, Kake would get extremely upset and say that nobody cared for her in the chat and constantly message @thenameisnoone about this.

Even with the explanation that she left the group and could rejoin if she wanted to, Kake continued to guilt trip @thenameisnoone and say she wanted to leave because ”nobody loved her, only them.” At the same time, she was texting others in the group chat an identical message.

More on her controlling side, she excluded some of the group members’ interests in roleplay whilst they obliged to hers by putting her own personal biases into the roleplay without consideration of others. This included instances where she would force an awkward age gap between Katherine Howard and Anna of Cleves in the roleplay because she didn’t ship Katanna.

As well as this, whenever trying to roleplay, Kake would force other characters into certain positions, otherwise her own character had a tantrum and forced the plot to revolve around said character. It made everyone uncomfortable and distant themselves from her and the actual purpose of the group (roleplaying). This made her continue to cling to @thenameisnoone. The final straw for them was when Kake openly dramatised her emotions by emphasizing her anger multiple times in the main group chat, nonstop, for @thenameisnoone jokingly becoming my fake wife.

Not only did this offend them because Kake was being hypocritical, but, unlike Kake, @thenameisnoone actually asked for the joke relationship and respected my feelings. The constant statement about Kake’s refusal to talk to them in front of everyone, and continuous repeated messages of how they are mad and hurt by this act of “betrayal” and refusal to move on for over a long period of time bothered them so much that they finally cracked and confessed what manipulation she has been put through by Kake to me. @thenameisnoone has now been dealing with emotional trauma from past experiences that Kake has reminded them of and could not focus on any schoolwork today until after an hour of me comforting them over the confrontation.

The second person involved who has given permission to be named, @thatbolxyngirl, wrote the next part herself which I will copy and paste into the post. (Hence the change of perspective.)

“It’s a shame that I actually have to write something like this and, to be honest, I didn’t even plan to ever write something like this. I’m just doing this because I don’t want this happening to other people besides me and the rest who sadly had to go through all of this. The situation could have been worse, but still, it’s been a really bad time for some of us. I’m kinda glad to say that she just ignored me, after she had a crush on me that is. I’m 17, so it’s not illegal, but very uncomfortable nonetheless for me. She still tried flirting with me after I said that I was not interested in her, or a relationship in general, at the time. She just continued to flirt with me and made her crush really obvious, and everytime I ignored it, she’d just write something like ‘No one will ever love me’ or ‘they are really oblivious’ and expected us all to, I don’t know, maybe pity her or something like that.

The worst of it was how Kake went into other chats to talk about me with the others in the group, asking them to hype her up in front of me, one of the people she asked being a minor. This repulsed me in an inexcusable way, to ignore my dismissal of a relationship with her and claim to the others I disliked her after she became romantically interested in another member of our group (@boleynhowards). It was an uncomfortable period for me, one I hope none of the people reading this have to go through.”

That’s what @thatbolxyngirl had to say on the matter, written from her perspective.

Finally, I’ll tell my own story. After waking up to find that I had been called Kake’s “girlfriend” during the night while I was asleep, I assumed she was joking around and went along with it for a bit. However, when she didn’t drop the joke after a long time, I sent a message to remind her that, at the time, I had a girlfriend and I was also 15, an illegal minor for her to date. I made sure to make it obvious to her that I was uninterested. Her mood immediately shifted to depressed and she began to post borderline suicidal things. When I saw these posts, I dmed her and tried to comfort her. After a bit of conversation, I confronted her about how it seemed that since I told her I was uninterested she was upset. She then told me that I got the wrong idea; that she didn’t like me, but she liked @thatbolxyngirl. I was relieved after this because she stopped flirting with me and dropped the pet names. This empty period was only short though as it was quick for her to begin to flirt with me once again, only this time worse. She began to pressure me into video calling her and in these calls she would make explicit sexual comments going from how I’m going to “fall in love” with her and also asking me three times to strip on camera for her. Like above, unfortunately there are no screenshots of this as it happened on a video call. When I rejected these requests, she was very begrudging about it as if trying to guilt me for my decision. By the end of her second wave of advances, she confessed her crush on me. I rejected her again, reminding her another time that I was 15 and had a girlfriend. She said she understood this and wouldn’t act on her crush, but later I found that was an empty promise as she continued to flirt with me. This got to the point where I began to distance myself from her as much as possible, which led to her trying to guilt me into doing things because she “loves me so much” as well as painting me as a villain to other members of the group by calling me cold and distant.

Not only did her behaviours make me severely uncomfortable and anxious around her, but they also made me doubt my own feelings, wondering if I was in the wrong for what happened to me.

That concludes what we would like to raise awareness about. Once again, we are not trying to spread hate. We were shocked when we saw Kake’s post about making a new roleplay group only minutes after she left our own. We feared of others going through the same experiences as us, so if you are interested in the new roleplay chat be warned. This could very well happen to you.

Whilst this has been hard and taken hours for us to write, we would like to remind you to please not show any hate to Kake; this is simply a post to protect others. Kake has been through some of her own issues that could have been reasons for her behaviour, but nobody is obliged, especially without a proper explanation for why, to go through this.

Thank you for reading this far, and we hope you can understand our need to post this.

Signed,

@boleynhowards, @thenameisnoone, @thatbolxyngirl and the unnamed minors of our group.

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